DetrimentalContemplations

I feel your pain. If you're just not knowing what in the hell to do at this point -- do just as you said: SIT ON IT. Don't take too much time out of your life to think about it, it's focus time for you. Apparently she's getting her life together, so it's your turn. The best thing to do at this point, in all honesty -- take a moment, breathe, and then answer yourself. ;D

Eh, my advice is a bit different. In all honestly, it's so hard when you still care about someone and they keep hacking away at that by contacting. It's like you almost feel taunted. My honest opinion is to contact her, but let her know that now is not that time for the contacting, and that, like you said, you understand she may care and everything, but now is a time for healing -- and that can't be done with her constantly making her presense aware. Let her know you just need time, and that there might come a day that you swing by to say hello or something. By stopping all contact completely that leaves too much room for confusion, and possibly EVEN more contact to find out what's going on. Your best bet: INFORM HER. If she continues after you informed her, at least she'll know when you discontinue communication with her. ;D xo steff

Hey. ;D If you're curious and just wanting to experiment with someone for the time being, you need to make sure that when you find that someone that you want to experiment with, you let them know that's all that you want. Try not to mislead people, it can end in broken hearts. Those are hard to mend. But where can you go? Get online, or check the phonebook for some hang outs in your area, teen ones [ if you are infact a teen], or just keep your eyes open if you don't want to do that. But my best advice, love, is to check out for hotspots in your area -- teen clubs, clubs, groups. That's another thing -- find out if there are any clubs for gays and or lesbians in your area as well. That's probably best fround, again, online -- or asking any gay or lesbian friends, family, or online buddies that you might meet. I hope that helped in the slightest. xo steff

The only thing you can honestly do at this point and time is sit back and take a deep breath. Stop worrying so much about everything -- and I know that you want to, trust me. But what's the worst case scenario? Nothing happens? Now, you're obviously experiencing some kinds of feelings for her, and time is the only thing that can aid in the process of seeing what may or may not happen. You say you're not sexually attracted to her? That's fine for the time being, stop thinking so far ahead, love. At your current stand point, the only person that you have to worry about -- is yourself, and that's how it should be until you've completely taken a moment to yourself where you can find solitude and ask yourself the questions you're having trouble with. Then, and only then might your subconscious be able to answer them for you. Relax. Take time. Don't skip to the future -- if there's one thing anyone is completely bad at -- it's deciphering their own future. Breathe, babe, just breathe, and don't lose too much sleep over it, remember -- it takes time to develop anything for anyone. You've got nothing to worry about until you decide, ultimately, where this is going. The choice is yours, the worry is inevitable, but unneeded. I hope that I helped. ;D xo steff