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Okay, holy moly, you've all beaten him down enough. He is wrong for treating his woman badly. He is very very in the wrong. So mister, you are very very in the wrong. Figure out how to get out of it. DO BETTER than what you have been, a helluva lot better than getting angry and yelling! Doing your best is all you really can do, and you have to leave the rest up to her. If she doesn't come back, well, you've learned your lesson, right?

Personally, I got nothing for you, but here's some people that have to go through the whole sex-drive disparity issue. I don't think your BF is asexual, but there are some people who have posted threads about their relationship with a big disparity and it's still working out. link removed

Heh, thanks but no thanks luckoftheirish. Right now I don't attend conventional highschool - I do my schoolwork by corrospondence, and it's not my highest priority, because I'm too busy doing intresting things that don't make me hate life. I know, I'm only seventeen.

Oh, I'm totally unintrested in sex. I'm somewhere between hyposexual and asexual - it doesn't bother me, but it would bother most potential boyfriends especially if they were to be sexually exclusive to somebody who doesn't get sexual with them. You don't have to be religious or health-minded to abstain. Yes, for now it's dating, but if one of them emerges into a boyfriend, I don't want to have to stop talking/dating the other. Melrich - these parties are the nicest guys I know, and one has already said he's okay, and the other one has two lesbian mums. They don't get much more tolerant, patience and awesome. Lostinmythoughts - Oh no! of course not, monogamy is perfect for some people and it's all that they want. I wouldn't try to indoctrinate people into my situation, because it's confusing as all hell. As for a deeper longing for a monogamous relationship - I could kill myself worrying about them being happy. I'm going to take them at their word because I trust them. Thanks for all the replies

Step one. Mope. Set an amount of time, and feel as bad for yourself as possible. Step two. Start doing stuff again. Yeah it sucks.

I'm a 17 year old BALEETED. No longer needed.

Ah yeah. Do what you can to help him, but remember, put yourself first, because he's in no shape to do so. He has to look after himself, before he can look after you. I'm suggesting pulling back to some degree. It's really emotionally wearing to be around somebody like that - despite the good times. Don't wear yourself out.

First of all, look after yourself. As a champion of truth myself, I know how much you want to get in there, and take all the bullets and defuse the situation. Second, you said you really like her. Instant conflict of interests, your friend will hate you if you go to her. Not to mention it will upset her. Have you thought about putting pressure on him to shape up or dump her? Oh and he's not a nice guy if he goes and cheats on her and doesn't stop, but yeah, he's your friend so you do have some obligation not to turn on him without warning. Talk to him about it.