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Okay so me and my mates went out. It was me, my best buddy, his girlfriend and her friend and we all went clubbing. As you do when you go out, you get drunk and you have a good time, right? Well the night went from good to bad when my mate decided to get a little too friendly with his girlfriends best mate and it just so happened that even though I don't fancy her - I was doing the same with his girlfriend. Now were in a situation where she was annoyed at him for flirting with her friend and they I think have sorted that out, yet he isn't really talking to me. He phoned me today telling me I'm a .... and that whatever I said to his girlfriends mom when I was drunk was repeated back to her and she seems to think he wants to sleep with her best friend. I explained I was steaming and that I really have no idea what I said and whatever I did say probably didn't make as much sense as it would have if I was sober. Well I tried getting him to come over or phone me and talk, yet he said he couldn't and now when I just im'd him, he basically said " I'm going to bed " and signed off - which by the way infuriated me considering it was I who brought back his girlfriend from outside after she stormed off having had enough of watching them two flirt. He's obviously annoyed with me and now its visa versa - I just stopped myself from telling him where to go. I know he's upset and it confuses me as to entirely why seeing as how it was HIM flirting with her friend - who's a known uh, you figure it out, it begins with s and ends in t. I'm not sure what I should do now, although I must confess he is my best mate and I don't wanna fall out without him over something so stupid. I've told him I don't fancy his girlfriend and that I like her as a mate, I've told him that whatever I said to her mom when drunk was a mistake and that I shouldn't really of said it and probably got my words twisted. What now? If he's going to just ignore me, it's gunna anger me and bare in mind that when he first met his girl I barely heard or spoke to him for a damn near year and didn't hold a grudge when we started hanging back out. Help? I'm pretty p-o- right now.

I posted a few days ago about a girl that I really fancied and liked who was confusing me with mixed signals. Well last night I found out from my cousin who was steaming at the time that friday night after I went in he took her back to his mates with them and screwed her. I feel betrayed and hurt, he knew how much I fancied her, how much I liked her and had sex with her anyway. He came over today and I decided to try and forget it, but I can't, he's a player so the whole situation as a whole doesn't bother him - not the hurting me bit, but the sex and forget bit, he screws em and leaves em and thats how he likes it. He knew that wasn't me and after days of trying to push that centiment onto me, I find out why. I can't get over this situation, I feel so angry and enraged. I mean, its not like me and the girl were dating but we were hanging out alot and both knew how I feel, him especially. I just thought she was scared after being treated like crap so many times before. I've stopped contact with her, but him, I can't stop myself from wanting to strangle him, really - I feel so furious.. I just think if I hit him I won't stop and I know I can have a bad temper so I'm trying like hell to just forget it. Trouble is, now I feel lonely without this girl I liked and I know shes a but I still can't.. just forget. It hasn't been along time I know but still, I only found out the other day - yesterday infact and I don't know where to go from here. Any advice?

Sounds like a good idea, I just have to find one. Cheers bud.

What the hell is with dating sites wanting you to pay stupid prices, lol. I checked out one today that was like 11 quid a month or something, I mean, christ. It'd be nice to find one that allowed you to get someones information and contact them without having to pay for it, lol. I know, I know.. that begs the question: " where would they make money and why would it be worth their while " but hell, I couldn't give a rats * * * about that, lol. Anyone else found this problem - or a solution?

Shes not really my type of girl in a way, I mean she keeps her emotions in instead of telling people how she really feels. I can't help but think the way she's been treated by prior boyfriends is whats causing her to be so distant. I like her company and I'm fine doing this friends thing for now, I just don't understand her at all and thats unusual for me. It's like she's pushing me away because shes afraid of being hurt yet seems so convincing when she says she doesn't fancy me, argh lol.

The guy sounds like a using to me, if I were you I'd stay away. If you get involved you're just gunna end up hurting yourself, you'd be better off telling him straight instead of making up excuses and maybe having a look at him for what he really is after he responds to your honesty. Goodluck, just don't be used, it'll effect your future releationships and you really don't wanna let one dude screw you up.

Personally, I'd be a bit down about it.

Okay so I'm new here and have no idea whether or not this is in the right section, although I took what can only be described as a guess to where this is best suited. My best mate introduced me recently to his girlfriends best friend who I've come to like and fancy. For the past two odd weeks we've been hanging around alot as a four doing all sorts of stuff and it's been good. My problem though stems from complete and utter confusion although on the surface it seems kind've clean cut. So down to the problem.. Shes shy and has been used and cheated on by prior boyfriends so in essense it isn't easy for her to open up, until she drinks. The first time we went out for a drink we both got pretty plastered and she ended up staying the night at mine. I was a gentlemen and gave her my bed although prior to sleeping we stayed up for hours talking, carassing and kissing. A few days later she told me she wanted to be just friends and considering the situation I took it kind've hard and told her where to go. I eventually came around and we decided to meet and talk things out, she apologized for " leading me on " and we decided to be friends and see where things went. Ever since we've gotten on great and it wasn't until the other day that I became confused. We cleared up some issues, drunk again and she says when she likes someone she tends to push them away and admitted she doesn't fancy me. I took that on the chin and listened to her when she said it's possible that over time, anything could happen. What happened next though wasn't expected, we ended up in bed upstairs, naked. I was far too drunk to get it up and simply licked her out, ect and that was that. Now I'm so damn confused its un-real. I don't know where I stand or what the situation is. We're both the type of people that remember what happened when we sober up, so we both understand what happened and stuff, I though can't help but wonder where I stand. She told me she doesn't fancy me and didn't wanna lead me on, yet we ended up in bed and she really wanted me to screw her, by her own admission there and then. So can anybody help me out on this one? This may seem simple, I'm not sure.. but I'd appriciate your opinions.