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    Milly: I'm so sorry you are feeling down. Stay strong and please don't contact him. I know it is so hard to feel alone. Is there anything you like to do such as watching DVD's or reading or a hobby to distract you when you think of him? My ex dumped me 3 months ago and he immediately started NC. I called him 1 month after the breakup and spoke with him and now I wished I wouldn't have. I can sympathize with what you are going through because I miss him and still love him. This week has been hard for me and I felt like I was going to go crazy yesterday and even considered texting him ( I didn't!). I think what makes me ( and alot of us on here) focus so many thoughts on our ex is the fact that they seemingly forgot us so quickly and the love we shared. Here we are hurting and still loving them and we wonder if they miss us or wonder about us. We wonder how they could switch off their love so easily. The bottom line to me is whether he loved me or if it was all a lie, I don't hold any importance in his life now. Otherwise, why hasn't he reached out and contacted me in some form? Why should I let him think he still holds importance in mine? I know it will only serve as an ego boost to him and he won't respond and I will feel even worse. Stay strong and big hugs to you! We are all here to support each other!
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    Gazmix : How are you doing today?
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I have never experienced the loss of a pet, but I know our family dreads the day we may lose our loyal family dog since she is like part of the family. The joy our pets give us is truly a miracle and sometimes when I am sad ( b/c of a breakup), I look at pictures of our dog to make me smile ( she lives with my parents). We are truly blessed to be able to have these creatures touch our lives. I don't know the right words to say because I can't imagine your grief and I will keep you in my thoughts. Please take care
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    You deserve someone great Moonflowers who appreciate you! I can't even imagine casually dating right now, much less starting a relationship with all my hurt and emotional baggage. No rebounds for us! We are going to heal and be strong and no more cowards,lol! Have a good day
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    Thank you Guest and Moonflowers for your words of support. I have my weekly therapy appt. today so I have lots to discuss with her, lol! *Sigh* It hurts to be forgotten, but if they can forget so easily they didn't deserve us anyway.
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    Oh.. that made me tear up. I wish my ex would have sent me something like that. She broke up with you right? Do you want to answer her?
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    Moonflowers: How are you doing today? I wonder if the friend is telling you these things because he wants to make sure you know your ex won't be back because he might think that information will make you get over your ex faster so he can then ask you out. You mentioned he has shown an interest in you. I think it would be best to distance yourself from him because you don't know what information he is passing on to your ex. Sorry you didn't find out about your ex and his school situation from him. As you know, we are in the same boat as I found out about my ex's move for grad school also( not from him and no goodbye) and it sucks. These men don't deserve to have us care for them when they have shown a lack of compassion and caring towards us. Let's support each other! We will get through this and maybe one day these guys will realize what they lost and by then we will be indifferent to them.
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    Happy Birthday!
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    Thanks Hope75. You are right. I can't do this to myself. Most of the time I do ok and I think I don't want to know anything about someone who treated me like this, and who doesn't care about me at all. Other days, I think about him alot. On myspace, by sheer coincidence, one of the people I have listed as a friend has the new girlfriend listed as a friend because they went to the same high school. I am going to delete my friend ( she is only a casual friend) so I don't look at her page and see my ex's new girl in her "top 16" friends to reduce temptation of clicking to look at her page.
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    Moonflowers: You are so strong. I am so so weak. I just called him ( I had to "private call" to even have a chance of him picking up) and he didn't pick up. I didn't leave a message. The last time I contacted him was via email July 23 and the last time I spoke to him was the last week in June which was after 1 month of forced NC. I feel like crap. He has someone else. The girl who I suspected him of being with changed her myspace status from "single" to " in a relationship." Why the heck did I look at that page and why oh why did I call him? I wonder if he will know it was me...... When he and I were together, one of the girls he cheated on me with used to call him "private number." I feel so so bad
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    I'm so sorry you are going through this! I am also sending out some positive thought and vibes your way.
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    Moonflowers: I am so sorry you are going through the same thing. Sending you ((Hugs))! It hurts so badly that ex's of ours are able to discard us like a used toy and pretend we don't exist or have feelings. I would like to think my ex cares about me in some way, but the reality is that I don't think he does at all, except to hate me. He blames me for everything bad that has ever happened in his life, even things from before he met me ( he is not the most mentally stable person and I think a narcissist) and things he did to me by his own choice. Plus, his mother ( and rest of family) decided they didn't like me because I was "taking him away" so I am sure that they tell him lots of negative things about me to make sure he continues to stay away. I was his first serious girlfriend ( 2 years together) and we were engaged. He had never dated anyone longer than 2 or 3 months before me. I am not a guy, but I would think he would think of me still after our history. With him, who knows though. Also, if he has someone new he is thinking of them and not me. I'm sure your ex is thinking of you also and maybe he doesn't want to be in the same program as you because he still has feelings for you and wouldn't be able to concentrate on his studies if you are in his classes. Did he break up with you or did you break up with him?
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    Speedway: Thank you for the advice. It is hard seeing them move on and it feels like confirmation that you have been "forgotten." It is his life though and his choices and the only thing I can control is myself.
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    I'mThatGirl: Oh my, I'm so sorry you went through all of that! I can't believe he did that to you!! What a jerk! You deserve so much better! Your ex sounds like might have the same family as my ex! Once his parents figured out he was serious with me, they stopped being so nice. They didn't like me either ( they could never give a good reason) and they felt I was "taking him away." His mother even said, " I lost one son to death, I am not losing another to her." My ex saved up for a year to buy the ring and I went with him to pick it out and everything. I still have the ring. I offered it back to him in 2 emails and in the one phone call we had 1 month after the breakup, but he never responded and ignored my question on the phone so I kept it. I have been in therapy weekly since he dumped me, but I know I will not be ready to date anytime soon. I just want to work on getting myself better, but I also have that fear of someone else coming along and then changing their mind like he did. His family was not going to pay for his schooling. As my therpist pointed out, their love was conditional to him. His mother was alot nicer to him when he didn't spend alot of time with me. Now that I am out of the picture, it would make sense that they told him to forget about the loans and they will pick up his tuition and living costs. I guess they offered him some sort of consolation prize for removing me from his life.
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    Guest: That is what my parent's tell me. His parents would get upset with us because he and I would attend church service at my local church ( 5 minutes away), instead of driving 25 minutes to attend their church. My father says, " I know it is hard, but see this as a gift. Why would you want a man who probably has to consult with his mother daily on how to wipe his bottom......"
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    HealingHandsWarmHeart: Lol, yes maybe his mother hasn't gotten around to it yet. I think your theory is correct. Maybe our ex's just loved having someone love them, but never really had the feelings to begin with. I was just telling my brother last night that my ex (and probably most everyone's ex on here) should win an Academy Award for his acting and convincing me that he loved me with his proclamations of love and how he couldn't live without me and how he cried with real tears the last time I saw him.
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    Guest: I am so sorry for what you have gone through. I am sure his parents were the masterminds of our breakup also and guided him through the steps. If you ever need to vent, PM me. ((Hugs))
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    HealingHandsWarmHeart: I'm so sorry you had to find out about you ex going back to his ex. How can some people proclaim their love one day and then turn off those feelings the next? He did have his mother break up with me via an email. I couldn't believe it, he is 27 years old. I have the email and maybe I will post it one day.
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    Hope75: Thank you for the hugs and kind words. What hurts even more, is that he told me the last time I spoke with him he told me I never helped him further his professional or academic career. Who do you think found the program he got acccepted to and helped him fill out the majority of his application,prepare the admissions essay and study for the GRE? Yes, that would be me. His parents told him he needed to accept the fact he would probably be rejected and give up the dream. I had also helped him get a better job at the company he worked for because I saw the opening online and told him I thought he would be great for the position. He said he didn't think they would consider him, put he would try and he got the job. Oh well, at least how know how insensitive and coldhearted he really is.
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    hosswhispra: Thank you for the hugs! He ( his mother) obviously forced NC from the beginning by changing his number. The last time I emailed him was 39 days ago and I thought it was a nice email ( no begging or pleading, just wishing him well) and he never responded. I haven't contacted him since then. At least I won't run into him at the gym anymore now that he moved.
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    I'mThatGirl: Thank you for your kind words. I think you are very strong and you don't deserve how your ex treated you! I look forward to the day when I can feel neutral and non emotional about my ex also.
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    This morning I was wondering if my ex got into a graduate program he was wait-listed for since I knew the program was scheduled to start this week. I know I shouldn't have gone and searched for anything related to him, but of course, like an idiot I did. I had been doing ok, still sad and crying occasionally, but I was healing. I have been telling myself this whole week, "He doesn't care about you at all, so don't care about him anymore." I dreamed about him last night, so I gave into temptation and started to wonder about him. All it took was going to the university's website and searching the student directory. Sure enough, he is now listed as a student. I immediately thought, "Good for him," but then I burst into tears when I realized he didn't even text, phone, or email a goodbye. The university is 5 hours away from here ( we lived in the same town). Really, what did I expect? He never said goodbye to me when he left me either. This is the man who had his mother dump me by email after he was abusive to me and she changed his number as soon as she sent the email. I saw him 10 days ago at the gym and he glared angrily at me and I just ignored his presense. It has been 3 months ( this past Wed. and also would have been our anniversary) since he dumped me and broke our engagement. We were together 2 years. Learn from me... don't go searching for info about your ex, it could burn you and make you feel like you took 2 huge steps back in the healing process.
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    I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hate it when people disappear! I would say you try and move on. You already tried to get in touch with her and she didn't respond. That is very immature on her part.
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    Lol, I like your wording!
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    That is freaky! Did she dump you?
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