Lostinlove27

Agrees with socks and Momene. Let her know how you feel, ask her if she can make a decision. If she is unable to make a decision, then you should move on and find happiness.

Thank you for all of the advice. There have been a few conversations between the two of us since I posted this. Still no date set, but marriage and kids is something he wants. We've just got some issues to wade through before we can get there. Any opinions on couples' counseling?

You are most definitely not a bad person, and I'd hate to see someone with a heart as big as yours, lose themselves in the mire. Not everyone would do something that nice for "a friend." I'm glad to hear that it won't be much longer before you can live your life in a way that can bring you joy. Everyone deserves to have someone in their life who is an equal partner, and is willing to give just as much as they get. I wish you happiness and hope, and finding a person who can appreciate someone with a big heart.

His main thing is he's felt pressured to get married. I've mentioned it before. He's spent years being put down and abused by his family. When I moved down from up north and he finally had someone on his side, he decided it was time to move out. Naturally, his parents hate me..because he grew a backbone when I got down here..and they couldn't use him anymore. Now that he's finally making his own decisions..he wants to make the marriage decision and proposal on his own time. But we've been out on our own together for almost three years, and he's ok with me just being "his girl" My worry is that it's going to be another 4 years before he finally decides he wants that commitment.

I'm new to the forums, and need some advice. I had a long talk today, with my boyfriend of 4 years. We've lived together for three years, talked about marriage, and I do love him with all my heart. I asked him tonight where we are in our relationship. He told me that we're not in the financial situation to get married, and he wants to give me a decent wedding..and that he's not ready for that yet. It's hard, because when I moved 1000 miles away from my home and family to be with him, it was with the knowledge that we were going to get married and have a family. He's had a lot of family issues, and I know he's trying to overcome that..but I feel like he's holding back from me..and afraid to totally commit to our relationship. We seem to be at 2 different places in our lives. I'm turning 27 shortly and he'll be 29 next month. I want the marriage and children, before I get too old to start a family..he just seems to like things the way they are, with us just living together. I want more out of life than to just be someone's girlfriend till I turn 40. Most, if not all of our friends are married and have young children. I feel like my dreams have been dashed, and I dont know if I can live with just having half of someone's heart.