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  1. shikashika
    you definitely did the right thing. Don't compromise what YOU want... if you want to have kids...and he doesn't...then he is getting what he wants, but you are not. I have a friend right now... who her boyf does not want kids, she wants 2 or 3 and her boyf is saying he will compromise and 'let her have one' To em that is recipe for disaster. Again..I think you made the right decision
  2. shikashika
    tell her to do something about it then! Nothing more annoying that people who complain about how they are fat... then all they do is 3 yoga classes a week and come home and chow down on a pasta dinner... or drink fruit juice with every meal. most people have zero clue about fitness and how to lose the fat. Offer to do some fitness with her
  3. shikashika
    there is no 'right' time..... I think there is too much pressure on this... maybe comes from back in the day when meeting the parents was when the by offered the dowry for the woman's hadn in marriage.. I don't think it should matter if you happen to meet them after a day or a week or a month or whatever.. Its not like my mum or dad is going to say "Now son... What do you do for a living..."
  4. shikashika
    i disagree about too much running will give you many problems... sure.. if they don't do it propery, or take care of themselves.. ltos of peopel have joint issues...BUT... People who have problems when they are older are the fat slobs who sit around eating bad food or the thinking that an hour or two of yoga or pilates per week is good enough... or going for a 'walk' My parents are in their 60s and do track, pole vault, speedskating, swimming, triathlons.. and they have friends in their 70s plus who do it as well.. It sounds like your sisters are just jealous... people like to put people down when others are working hard or accomplishing something.. Mediocrity always seems to attack excellence ( I think i heard that on oprah ) Keep at it... good for you for getting up befor school to work out.. its the best time to do cardio
  5. shikashika
    I have never done it... I always felt good about my decision... of course I wish when ik've been dumped, they would have at least apologised for being the lowest common denominator
  6. shikashika
    deadlifts, straight leg deadlifts, squats, lunges... cycling.. all are great for building muscle on your legs
  7. shikashika
    what you are saying about teachers is absolutely not true.... they put in hour s and hours and hours and hours of work every single day.. I do not know a single teacher who leaves at 3:00 ... in one post above where the poster says her boyfriend leaves at 3:00.. I have never met a teacher like that.. and I come from a family of teachers!
  8. shikashika
    Depends onw hat kidn of shape this person is in before...If I started doing pilates again...it certainly would not do anything noticeable to my arms or legs... sure.... tis good conditioning.. but you need HEAVY weights to get more lean!! tough intense cardio.... heavy reps.. maybe the OP just needs to tweak their diet? That is usually the downfall of most people's fitness goals
  9. shikashika
    The biggest myth in the world is high reps low weights!!!!!!! ugh.. it makes me so mad that trainers or so-called fitness experts still spout off this bulll to people... Just google high reps low weights myth... and you will see a million pages You have to lift heavy to get that look. The toned look is more to do with how little fat you have on your body. I say lift as heavy as you can.. make sure you are doign high rep cardio as well. Your arms may be bulkier because you need to lower your fat. you can' really ask what is a good weight range.. because it should constantly be going up. Depends what you are doing. compound exercises, isolation.. are you doing supersets.. Make sure you dont' forget your lower body.. I wouldn't go much higher than 8 reps... 3-4 sets.. increasing the weight each time.. anything more than 8 reps is prestty much pointless if you are doing it for the more muscular definition value Also, different people can build/lose easier on different body parts. most important thing is diet, followed by weights, followed by cardio
  10. shikashika
    yeah .. and now that I think about it even more, why on earth would he be talking about HER to YOU?!?! and again.. talking about marrying you after 2 months, but still talkign about his ex?!?! RUN...FAST.. NOW!!!!!
  11. shikashika
    Doesn't matter if you apologised 1000 times.. He's not acting immature or like a little kid.. it just sounds like you are just upset because he's not acting how you want him to act. If this guy came on to ENA to ask for advice.. he is acting the way most people on here would tell him to act towards you. Why do you think giving you the silent treatment is him acting like a little kid? I see nothing wrong with how he is acting.. it sounds like he is actually beng quite mature. When you dumped him, you were essentially saying" yeh i've had a look at you and the relationship.. I do not want it anymore". He is doing exactly what you wanted. Not being there. you can't expect him to start talking to you again just because you changed your mind
  12. shikashika
    Wrap yourself up in a ribbon and say "I'm your present!!" butt plug.. porn.. do you want to be able to buy all his presents from an adult shop?
  13. shikashika
    sometimes we meet people in the strangest of places I have a friend who was in a million sports and joined a million activities.. but she met her boyfriend in an elevator At least by joining a club or activity ( bowling league??) you will make friends who know people..... who know girls...
  14. shikashika
    what are you interested in? obviously you want to meet someone who ahs some of the same interests as you..
  15. shikashika
    I'm just curious why you think HE is being immature when YOU are the one that broke up with him?
  16. shikashika
    do you do any other sports? any out of school sports? swim club? track clubs? tennis?
  17. shikashika
    i agree melrich.. to the OP.. would you mind moving out, saving your sanity, but have to buy second hand furniture, and live with 3 or 4 flatmates? It may not be perfect, but better than your current situation. As I said in a previous post.. I don't know many 21 years olds that move straight from the family house into a nice, newly decorated house.. Things just don't work that way. so you have to decide if its worth it to stay at home, have more money put up with sisters music and mum asking you to clean.. or live in student digs, listen to your roommates crappy music, having your roommate tell you to clean, and cleaning your roommates utensils. I think at this point its those two options.
  18. shikashika
    no kidding!! this is spot on!
  19. shikashika
    you say you've done NC for 9 months? and that didn't work for you? So clearly, NC did not work for you.. as it does not for many people. why don't you try contacting him.. I think NC is far too popular advice on here.. Maybe because you spent 9 months without contacting him.. he gave up.. NC is not the way to go if you want to get back together.
  20. shikashika
    OK then... Well.. I think the most successful people never broadcast their accomplishments... the ones that do.. are generally the ones that don't deserve it. The person who says"I'm so great..I used to be a model.. I'm so successful.. I make 6 figures, I bought a house at 21'... generally isn't.. they need to tell people because they're not quite sure themselves.. However people who truly do great things.. usually think they do not
  21. shikashika
    Fair enough.. but most things don't happen the way we want it to.
  22. shikashika
    no I do not think you are being paranoid.. It sounds like he is just saying those things out loud to try and convince himself!! If he truly as over her.. he wouldn't have to bring those things up. I don't think running into that aquaintance at the mall has anything to do with it.. however. if he brought it up more at the beginning then thats understandable..
  23. shikashika
    do you really miss him? or do you just miss the fact that someone who used to make you feel good about yourself, by loving and cherishing you is gone I think many times, the dumper misses the fact that someone who boosted their ego is now not there anymore and they miss it. Maybe you dont' miss him.. but just feel really badly about how you treated him during the breakup. I can see why he would have fallen out of love with you. have you told him how sorry you are for the way you mistreated and dis resepected him? i know many people who have been dumped.. would love to hear that.. because many times they don't hear it. Even if he doesn't want you back.. I think it would be kind to apologise for that.
  24. shikashika
    is she really negative on herself... or does she just talk that way and not really mean it.. Many people do. I don't know if convincing her how beautiful or intelligent she is is really doing her any favours. What does she say? Maybe she just wants to her it from you.. maybe her last relationship partners never told her anything positive.. Maybe she is just really insecure and needs to have people tell her how great she is... or maybe she is just self-centred and wants the world to pay more attention to her. do you have any specific examples?
  25. shikashika
    I guess from what you're talking about.. it sounds no different to any other college student living at home and no different than any other normal college student living with her family. I went to university with a single mum who worked nearly full time, went to uni full time. Then she had to go home to her kids.. What if she went home and said "I just can't do it" Who doesn't have 3 hour long classes and college? I did. I took over my normal course load, ran on the track team, which involved training 6 times a week volunteered at the International centre, and worked 3 jobs.. and I had a younger brother who was an aspiring rap singer.. who had his music on well into he wee hours.. so I know how you feel. And if you think you can afford living on your own..then go out and do it. I know I could never go back to living with roommates. As long as you can afford it and the benefits of having your own place..and being further in debt.. or having less money.. outweigh having to live with your family... which from what you've described.. to be honest.. doesn't sound like it has anything worse than any other family
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