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This is my take on why relationships seems so important. Well, it is true that we can be happy alone. We do what we like at our own time and pace. But there's a saying that no man's an island. The food we eat seems to be tastier when sharing it with someone. The places we go to seems more interesting when sharing the experience and seeing it through another person's perpective. I think, being human, we want to just wanna share our experiences whether is it the ups or the downs.

Thanks for yr replies. I forgot to mention that I'm out of work and looking for a job hence this job is quite important to me. We aren't together together. I'm in love with her and she knows it and she thinks she maybe falling in love with me. So, she mentioned that it's a bad idea to work in the same office. She's not gonna be my boss. She's a co-worker.

Hi, Not sure whether this is the right place for this topic. Anyway, I'm lesbian and SO's is bisexual. We both don't wanna to be out due to circumstances. Recently, I've been offered a job at SO's company. The pay is what I've asked for but my SO isn't thrilled with idea that I'll be working in the same office with her. (Seeing each other everyday, what if we had an argument etc.) Should I take up the job because the pay is good or should I decline it because I don't wanna to ruin the relationship? What's yr opinion?

Thanks Robo, it was a very insightful reply. I acted out like a hurt animal. I kind of know it's not the right thing to do but I just can't help myself. Is there anyway to stop the chain reaction?

Hi All, After spending a significant amount of time here in this forum and reading all the valuable advices given on getting over a heart-break, I would like to post for the first time. I was a rebound for my ex who was in a 4yrs LTR. I took the breakup quite badly after our 6mths r/s ended, though deep inside i knew the relationship wasn't gonna work out because she doesn't love me and I love her to bits. Well, she dumped me a month shy of her birthday but I've already made arrangements for both of us to go on a holiday. During the one month, I tried NC and I thought I will be able to handle going on the trip with her. The trip ended on a sour note with the both of us exchanging angry words. On hingsight, I kind of provoked her into the argument because I wanted her to feel the same pain which I was going through. I've made it clear to her at the beginning of the trip that I don't wanna have any contact with her after the trip. (She immediately suggested we be friends after she dumped me.) Upon reflection, I understand that the hurt/pain is for me and me only to savour and i shouldn't have imposed it on her or anyone else. So, i'm asking everyone here whether I should write her a letter apologizing for ending the trip on a sour note and wishing her the best in her future or should I just maintain no contact? I don't know whether it will eat me up if I don't apologize to her.