Colly666

Is that I see him absolutely all the time 5 days a week because we work together. Im really scared that the next time i see him in public I'm going to get really sad and nostalgic and then i'll cry or something at it will be so embarrassing. I could understand the breakup more if we hadnt been such a great couple previously. He said I was the only thing that truly made him happy and we kind of isolated ourselves because we only wanted to be with eachother. I was wondering, Is it possible for my boyfriend to have fallen out of love with me and his feelings changed towards me through no fault of my own. Because that is what he is telling me But I dont understand how this can be. In reply to did he have any issues in the rest of his life i honestly cant see that he did. He used to get depressed when we couldnt see eachother though. But he has it much better than I do. Im shocked at how quickly he has got over me when just a week ago he was planning the future with me and telling me he loved me. I feel very physically sick at the thought of another girl coming into his life and doing the same things we did in the relationship and getting to know his mum and dad like I did. How can I cope with this. I think part of the reason that this has devastated me so much is this is the first time I've been in love and my first real serious relationship and I honestly thought it was going to last forever.

Do you think it is more healing to think about your ex in a positive or a negative way? See i find it hard to think about mine in a positive way because in my eyes he is being completely selfish, he wont give me a proper reason for breaking up with me, he's not attempted to do it sensitively at all, he openly seems like he's gotten over it and he's throwing away all the plans and experiences we BOTH made together. Im finding it hard to understand where he is coming from because when he does any explaining it makes little or no sense. Also its disturbing me that all the way through our relationship he claimed to love me yet all of a sudden he says he's suddenly changed his mind but its no fault of mine. Is this even possible? I thought that when you loved someone falling out of love with them would take time...even more so if apparently it isnt your fault that they dont love you anymore. I have no idea How to stop loving him though. I still love him with all my heart and would take him back in an instance if he came back to me. I understand this would be counterproductive for us both because i would always be living in fear of him breaking up with me and this might push him away again. It sounds bizarre to say we had a great relationship after what has happened but we really did. We went everywhere together we always made eachother laugh we never grew tired of eachothers company we were very close with eachothers familys ..we were theoretically joined at the hip. Im scared that even if i do manage to move on...which wont be for a very long time i know that for sure. That i will compare that partner to my ex-bf every step of the way. I have no idea how to get around this.

Our situations are very similar. Im a part time carer for my dad who was diagnosed 2 months ago with vascular dementia. It kind of feels like the world is caving in on me right now.

That means so much to me. I really feel for you ..our situations sound very similar. I had no idea my relationship was coming to an end, it was so abrupt and when it did come it was cold and he seems like he's moved on and i find this hard to accept for some reason. I have really tried to distract myself. I meditate so i did a lot of that but then just as i think im gonna be ok i'll see something that reminds me of him and then the tears will well up. I put 100% into our relationship and he really seemed to love me he told me all the time, and now i feel kind of lost. And this will sound really stupid...but its just like he's died and left me..it feels just as bad. Thank you for the support It means the world to me. It does help to talk.

He's being really stubborn its like he wants to completely alienate himself with me. Whenever i try to discuss it he gets really annoyed and he seems like he's bored. If i wrote him a letter i know he'd just rip it up. I've sent him a couple of emails and he's read them but ignored him. I dont know how to get him to be more mature about it.

Yes early this morning he rang me to ask me what time he could come pick up his stuff and i was really desperately questioning him and asking him to reconsider. I realise in retrospect that by appearing desperate i wasnt exactly making myself look like an attractive prospect. I think i should just back off. But i feel really really physically sick and no matter how much i manage to control my emotional pain i cant seem to get rid of this physical pain. I know this is ridiculous but i also feel like nobody will ever be able to show me as much love as he showed me.

i dont have the privilages to pm i dont think.Sorry. I'd love to because it would be nice to get some advice from someone who's been through the same.

Yeah I see what you mean about my responsibility. But he knew what i was going through and he always said he understood. Plus when we argued he would give as good as he got. Its hurting me because he's not giving me a proper explanation he just says he wants to be alone and wont say anymore. when i push for more he tells me to shutup.

Basically. Yesterday my boyfriend of almost 3 years dumped me. Our relationship had been very very good up until a close relative of mine passed away and we began to argue (mostly because I was deeply upset and felt the need to take it out on somebody). His reason for dumping me was that he just wanted to be alone. What is hurting me the most is up until last night my boyfriend had claimed to love me and im still very much in love with him. I cant stop crying , I've completely lost my appetite and i dont have many friends that werent friends that we both shared. So basically i have nobody to really comfort me. He's also being very insensitive telling me to shut up whenever i try to talk to him and demanding a time that he can come give me back all my stuff. I thought he loved me as much as i loved him and i know it sounds stupid but i thought we would be together forever , because for the most part our relationship was Brilliant. My dad told me i should concentrate on things that he did during our relationship which i didnt like but the things is he was always the perfect boyfriend. I dont know how to get past this. I've lost a lot of people over the years for a variety of reasons and Im starting to lose faith in life. It hurts me to see him just moving on and here I am incapable of letting things go. I just need some advice. Thank you.