simonthecasey

This could be tricky. she may think you are completely over her and she may try and move on too maybee if you have her number send her a text saying she looked hot the other nite and if she fancied going for a few drinks. just dont act needy and go running to her dont send her any letters etc

I am taking your advice on board im just scared. Really scared. I know what needs doing i have to ask her whats going on and everyday i am getting stronger and stronger to do this. This is the first real relationship i have been in. People may laugh as its only been 2 years its a long tome for me as im only 19. I just take everyday and i agree i am going off false hope and i think i make excuses in my mind at the end of the day she has said to me that she doesent want to be with me i disregard anything she has said to her friend now as im not supposed to know that. Im gonna stop all the forms of kissing etc im thinking now if i do move out i will start LC as i would love to see her son who has been my own for 2 years. Its just a hard thing to do and its scary.

hey all, Well is sent the text it wasnsnt too bad. I think i might of read into things a bit wrongly. As you all know we live together and her friend has been telling me that she wants to get back with me etc. well whenever my ex gets in a bit of a mood she makes it quite clear that she doesent wanna be with me but then when she isnt she is quite nice. Last night she came up with the idea of being s*x partners (sorry if its too much info) so i agreed but she wanted to just kiss me and stuff she told her friend about the new plan and her friend asked if she was gonna get back with me and she said no but then she said probably. she knows how i feel about her and perhaps she is just doing all this i dont wanna be with you to annoy me or maybee her friend tells her what i say to her. and she uses it to her advantage. I have finally broke the news to my mum and she knows everything i know and she thinks i need to back off for a bit and let her do some thinking and some running after me so its not all one way? Whats your views on all this. P.s the more she tells me she dosent wanna be with me the stronger its making me and its becoming easyer to get over her. But who knows what my feelings will be when i do decide enough is enough and move out.

Be yourself mate she is feeling all like she did at the beggining of the relationship which is good. Just be happy talk about intersting things dont bring up anything about the relationship unless she wants to talk about it. And most importantly DONT HAVE ANY EXPECTATIONS!!!!!

It may be hard but get out off there it will be better for you in the long run! you will just get hurt more and more, Deeper and deeper. Keep Happy!!!!!!!

That is a brilliant piece of writing, But it all depends on you! if you wanna send it. I think it is more of a closure that an attemp to get back with her. It also depends on her frame of mind if she is p***ed off with you then this will make it worse. insted of putting i have met someone else put something along the lines of i understand what you want i will move on. But still its really risky to send it. It will go one way or the other. For now its probably best to leave it until you have got yourself straightend out. But dont leave it too late or the feelings will all come back again i.e hope being crushed etc This is what i think. Many people will probably disagree im just trying to help ;-)

I think you may need to get some other intests like a hobby something to go out there and enjoy yourself. After 5 months nothing is really solid its not a really serious relationship. You should be glad it ended because it would have saved you a lot more heartache in 2 or 3 years. Maybee become her friend but dont be best friends send her a text every now and again asking how she is but only do this once you are over her. Then if there is a possibility of getting back together take it extremely slow dont rush things DONT FALL IN LOVE SO QUICKLY sometimes this can put people off i.e he wants to marry her "she is put Off"! This maybe wrong what i have said but its my views.

i had sex with my ex after a week after she dumpted me and she started crying! saying its messing with her head. We could be getting back together real soon but i think the sex didnt play any part of it. It left me with hope and that was crushed the next day! i got a message "it shouldent of happened."

I understand what you have just said i dont think there is another way around this though, Its not a fact of how great i am its just she has taken me for granted a little bit. I came on her the day after we broke up and i understood that i should take a step back and not pester her i.e love letters etc. But she has been talking to her friend and i have been told what she said. She wants to get back with me but she feels she is holding me back. which is not true. She is starting to appreciate the things i have done for her and the things i continue to do for her which was all taken for granted. And i feel if she does do some chasing it will make her appreciate what she has got from chasing me and its not gonna be so easy to let go again she may talk to me this time. I know we need to talk to each other and need to tell her what i want. She needs to know that being in the relasionship with her and her son (2) is never gonna hold me back but push me into making a success. I just need to find the right moment to talk to her as it is still early days. Thanks any feedback???

Thats good, But im thinking more along the lines of hoping she is ok etc. I dont wanna keep on making her aware how i feel and keep on telling her i want her back, As she finished things with me i i know its not nice but i want her to do some chasing as well but NOT make her feel im not interested. So today will be the first time i would have sent her a message thats really nice i mean really nice. i want it to make her feel good inside.

Hey people, Im in the proccess of getting back together with my ex we have only been split up for 2 weeks but i think she has come to her senses and realised im not a bad thing. She had a bit of an episode this morning (we live together) And she has taken the day off work cause she is not well. I want to send her a text saying something warming to her. But just cant think of anything outstanding just things like: Hey sweetheart i hope your ok. If you need anything give me a ring! Please help me out on this one, Thanks

hello The situation is im 19 years old i have been in a relationship with my ex for 2 years she has a son who is 2 who i have taken on i really found out a lot of info today. She is 18 and hasnt really been out of a relationship. i know she is texting other men and is meeting them there are 2 of them at the mo. one of them is just friendly and light flirting and the other one i dont really know she got his number whilst driving around. she told her friend today that she is thinking off getting back with me and how i was a good thing etc but tonight she has lied to me again and said she is going to her mates but she isnt i will find out later on. I know all this because her friend tells me as she has known me longer than my ex. I cant work out whats going to happen she tells her friend she wants to get back with me on 2 occasions. she told her mate she wants to get back together like when we first met you know the texting of each other and flirting. and she also said she wanted me to ask her not the other way round. But im not supposed to know this. I dont know what to do please give me some advice Thanks guys

I think you should try and let it go out of your mind. At the end of the day you were not together and if you were apart for 4 months then she will get intrested in other lads etc. But if she has got back with you it shows that she has strong feelings for you. Im going through a similar sort of thing its been a week and she is already aranging to meet guys. Just try and make the best of things if she was worth fighting for for 4 months then keep her and dont let it get to you i know its hard. Si. ;-)

Hi all, Last sunday me and my girlfriend split up. She is 18 and im 19 she has a 2 yr old son and we live together. We split up as she said i was being moody. Which i was. (we have been together for 2 years) I was being moody because i was stuck in all the time looking after her son that i have taken on. While she went out with her friends. She went to work on sunday night and came home and said i should still live there etc. Its now been a week. We have slept together once and she cried afterwards saying it was messing with her head. I keep on getting mixed signals from her i catch her looking at me etc she tells her mates im good in bed and special things i have done for her etc. even though were not together. I speak to her mate who helps me out in what i should do etc. At the moment im taking it easy im not flirting although the past few days i have been telling her how i feel. I have just found out that she is texting lads and she got one number whilst simply driving around (her mate told me) And she has tried ringing them to meet them etc. She lied to me and told me she went to her friends and went to the pub with her but she wasnt she was driving about with 2 different friends and got this guys number. I dont know what to do. I cant move out because that would cause real problems and she wouldent want to get back with me. I do really love her and i know she loves me i just dont know what i should do. I cant even tell her i know she is lying to me because i dont wanna get her mate in trouble. Please help me