CanILoveAgain

Cheating is all about control and the underlying principles behind it and the fact that human beings at this point in time are'nt really capable of a healthy life or true love..everyone needs to read the book "The Celestine Prophecy" or see the movie if you are lucky enough to have it playing near you...it will really open your mind as to the source of all human conflict and why we feel and do the things we do and help you be a much better person, trust me on this one, it might change your life forever. link removed

It takes time for those old memories to fade and be replaced with new ones...but it will happen...focus on loving yourself and try to live a healthy life and before you know it very good things will come your way when you least expect it..I promise. Everything really does happen for a reason...if you can try to see the new movie from the book "The Celestine Prophecy" it would be like chicken soup for your soul...checkout link removed ..go see that movie or read the book it will change your life. Good luck!

We all have dealt with similiar situations and regardless of how much you are convinced you can't get through this you most certainly will..find God and just go with the flow...before you know it time will pass and you will start to heal...nothing is instant and the shock of so many things happening at once can make you feel like it's just too much and too late..but it never is. Everything MUST change and whether you like it or not, fight it, don't believe it, whatever...your situation will improve..I promise you from the bottom of my heart..it's not too late my friend. We are all going through the same hardships together...If you can see, walk, talk, think, and breathe you already have a tremendous advantage over millions that can't in this world...you have to start thinking about what you CAN DO and not what is gone or you can't do...your amount of stress and hurt will now motivate you and build your inner ability to overcome this whole thing as well as anything years from now, and when you do get past this and accept these changes you will be 10 times stronger for it and nothing will be able to stop you as your strength will be superior to people that did'nt have to deal with this stuff. You have to overcome it, so turn it into a game and challenge yourself to beat it no matter what. You will be amazed at how your life starts getting back to normal. If you ever feel like you can't make it or get through the day just remember these words.... "The more I suffer the stronger I become" ..as you start to get stronger and the old memories start to be replaced with new ones (a natural process nobody can stop) you will realize you stop hurting a little bit more each new day until it's gone. Get outside, eat good, drink alot of water and take a balanced vitamin supplement with all the B vitamins. It's sad any of us have to hurt like this...but it will fade in time. I promise promise promise promise. Please let us know how you are doing...even though we are "strangers" we still care.

I cannot even begin to tell you how much I can relate to your situation, it always seems like they can just pick up so easily and start over and not care one tiny bit about you after you put so much love and evergy into making things work despite all the problems they seem to always cause. I was lied to, cheated on many times, my emotions completely scrambled over a very long period of time by being with a nearly crazy girl who was doing various drugs and lying to me about it...then later became a porn star (no joke) ..I had to live through this and see the person I loved with so many other people...it nearly destroyed me. What made it worse was the whole time she kept telling me she wanted only me and we were soulmates and I was already really depressed and had really bad trust issues from my last relationship where I was betrayed by another "beautiful" girl...I was barely hanging on when I met my last ex and thought she had "saved" me and let me feel love again..I'm not in very good shape emotionally now to say the least after 2 months apart and I am just now starting to even be able to function like a normal human being..all I can say is that in time you WILL heal and it will get easier, you have to make a cognitive choice to let go of the person that is hurting you and start the recovery process..the going back and forth and the constant ups and downs in your situation will just make you depressed and hurt more...you have to take a stand and decide you are done being hurt...and amazingly that's usually when the other person suddenly wants to come back into your life..but what often happens is that you already have moved on and karma takes it's butt kicking out on the bad guy. Hope this helps...you have so much happiness and freedom ahead of you to find someone who can love you and treat you alot better like you really deserve, like we all deserve.