Griever

How would that work out If youre both each others first true lovers (they always say the first one is special and you house special feelings for them not matter what ) Treathed her good with repect and love,But after a while was a to nice guy instead of the BF? And made her lose her spark for her BF? How would those ppl house their feelings ? And maybe even come back together ?

Ok so in 2 days she is having her birthday. Im not gonne stop by cause i feel there is no need to just after 2 month of NC(i was dumpee) suddenly bursting from the shades at her birthday is just weird. But i though it over and decided i want to sent her a letter. She moved 100km away from for school and is now on her own studying there. But after more then 2 month NC i feel a better man im stronger and ive grown up in alot of ways if i look back from start of the relationship till the end. i am prepared to not hear from her after the card. But would it be wise if i send her a card and after a little while just ask hows she is doing with a text and see how it goes from there ? I told her i went NC so i dont know if she wanted to respond or not. she only texted me once in that time,we did say hi when we saw each other in the club but that was about it. I was thinking of keeping the birthday card a light friendlyisch feeling with grats and wishing her alot of succes with her school along with a few jokes or something Or should i input something else in also more emotional or whatever? And another quiestion how did in youre experience exes react to birthday cards after a while of NC?? Thanks in advanced you guys are the best

Wow Sinead those kind of stories bring joy to my heart But On topic i was always wondering. IF absense makes the heart grow fonder. Then why does it heal ours ??? Ok usally we are the dumped ones but still

And how about Clit and G at the same time. i did it a few times to me girl and she like came in record time

Well you can always start of when you first see her with a nod or a smile. Next time you see her Wave or say hi Or little chat with her. make her laugh try to blend in with the talk. its the way i almost met up with all my exes and now my g/f. Start out by just looking,saying hi,quick chat,etc etc. And you dont have to be superconfident to do that. But in my oppion in helps to be ''that guy that they knew from last time'' And if they like you they would be happy to talk to you Good luck

I would say get some closure first be absolute postive that it is over. AND BE TRUE to youreself not the stupid hope thingy i had it 2 Second its youre life now you do what you want to do!!. Since i gained myself again i started the girl scene again this is a great, change of pass of the sobbing but dont do it unless you pretty much recovered and are youre fun self again. i mean think about the other ppl feelings put youreself in there postion. First of you need to remember that there us no ''us'' with the ex, you just do what you want to do and what makes you feel good. But hey thats just my oppion Anyhows i hope it turns out the best for you !!

ok here is my story after 2 years of having a relationship with my ex she dumped me while i still was hopelessly in love i have done strict no contact ever since apart from a small gestore in the clubs or something. i was depressed like hell tried to get back into the dating again. Just to forget here but i failed really hard cause if youre depressed you just dont ''shine'' And nobody and i mean nobody likes a griever or a sobber just not actractive but after 1,5 month of NC i feel stronger then ever. Still sometimes weird to see her but i laugh at the guys she is with + she with guys that i know so its kinda funny. but still you get that weird feeling in you knowing its over but you shared so much kinda hard to explain but we all know about that eh Last time i heard from her friends that i dont go ahead with baby steps forward in healing but with huge steps so in other words she says How can you forget me so fast Cause i barly talk to them so they dont know my situation So i go on this trip for my work (buddy system of ppl with down syndrom) But man the girls there kept hitting on me there the even sent there clients to get my number And to be quiete honest i really like it im ME again i shine i make ppl laugh and im me sparking self again which made ppl (And me ex) like me/love me I do still miss her but the love part is just witherd i dont know how to explain. Though i really get a kick of meeting some one new everytime and getting lots of new friends (and who knows a potenional new G/F haha ) for we all know you need to love youreself in order to love someone else So my advice is to all of you if you want to move on or want to get back. START TO SHINE PEOPLE AND BE YOURESELF AGAIN !!! And happiness wil find there own way with or without youre ex Later all and love to all !!!! BTW sorry for the typo's

says the guy with aligator avatar *shurgs* But yeah lips over the teeth are the way to go nothing is worse then some teeths when youre almost there

first of thank you that you took the time for a respose. Im glad that everytime i get the feeling to do something stupid i post here haha. But yeah i gues youre right when you sum it up like that. Only thing is Yesterday i acted like she was air and it was nice cause when i didnt see her i cant see her do stuff and thus cant get that ''feeling'' back etc. but with this AND NC i feel like she might feel like im ignorging here or something and would be only more pissed at me. But that again it could also make her miss me more i dunno I mean how would you feel if some one you spend alot of time with suddenly doesnt look at you and doesnt call you anymore all of a sudden. THen again she was the one who dumped me so she doesnt have any wright to say anything. For now ill give NC alot more time and try to move on. And whatever will be will be ;-) Still any advice or oppions are welcome from all. Thank you for youre time all. You guys are the best may love find a way to us all =P

Ok here is the deal i my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago. since then i have been in no contact but i still see her at clubs. So i saw her with guys and girls for work and that hurted. but when she is not around im having the time of my life. So anyways last night i went out again,she was there with friends but just acted like i dindt see her or didnt look her way (even tough i saw her looking at the side of my eyes) She herself is really confused she didnt want to break up with me because im just that nice and that the ''sprak'' was gonne but WHY would she stare at me everytime i go out i dont get here ... Later i heard se had a after party ad some guys house with 3 or 4 girls and 2 guys (so i dont expect to much of that) So i was thinking of calling her of seeying her in person saying that: she should not think im mad at her but that the less i see her the better i heal. cause seeying her like that is breaking me down. And thus i can move on (while i want to see her anyways but still ...) Or would that ruin every bit of change in it Or should i just stay NC (without telling her since i never told her i went NC) and see where the ship strands there ? She is soon gonne be very busy and proberly will have zero time for going out and meeting new ppl, but i wonder when she is almost all alone if she would have extra needs for me,or when she goes out clubbing again and notice how annoying some guys really are and that i did that better etc. maybe she needs to find out whats she is missing first ?? I just feel like if i say to her that im not mad but im healing to move on she would totally forgot about me or something i dunno. i saw good things in this girl still do and when i narrow it up i know she IS worth the try and the gamble but i dont want to play this out bad Advice would be real nice here Thanks in advanced

Yeah i know what you mean i have no problem with woman's and meeting them. Since im single lots of woman came up to me but it just dont feel right it frecking feels like cheating on my heart ... When she went and said hi to me im not al clingy to the womans all of a sudden. i still love her and i feel crap that the guys from her work lurk over her like a pack of hungry wolves makes me want to punch the crap out of them.(i know this is the worst thing i could do but i would feel damn good and normally im 100% non violent ) But they just keep there hands to themself But i think youre right im not gonne go by her house anymore i think it would ruin every little change of getting back with her. Maybe she just need to realise what kind of A-holes she is meeting and hanging out with to come back to me its just so weird she had her eyes constanly on me what does she want ...i wish i could read minds heh >_> well back to NC T_T

some of you might know my situation my ex said she lost interest in me for 2 months (but what still with me i was still hoplesly in love with that person) but when she broke up she said she lost the spark But wanted to keep friends because she saw me more as a good friend then lover. I still love her to bits >_ she was with her friends from work but she was constanly looking at me. and trying to make me angry by dancing with other guys etc. when i was around she suddenly went wild with the dancing etc but i tried to ignore it etc but still got to me. But in the end she left with this ugly guy from work (IM MUCH BETTER THEN HIM ) and i dindt see her anymore i so hope she didnt do anything with that ugly guy but i saw them walking to the jackets daperment maybe they did a good bye kiss or I DUNNO > maybe just a good bye or a random guy but it hurted SO much i cant explain... im going mad arggg. So i decided to make it offical at its time for me to start healing. i was thinking of hopping by her house tomorrow and get my last stuff and say i DONT want contact anymore because seeing her with all those ppl is killing me. i would also like to say that my feelings are still very real so she can contact me if she wants about us otherwise NO... Would this be a good idea or is it a no-no ? or should i say something else (im gonne see her in person because text and emails are lame for that stuff)

The big trouble of me stressing to see her at the club was nothing. when i saw here i just waved a friendly gestore and smiled all the time And while i was having fun with my friends she was almost always checking on me On top of that i made a real nice talk with her best friend (which also is one of mine) but didnt say a word about ''her'' just about the friend and how she was doing what she was doing with a friend of mine etc. my ex was first getting drinks but when she saw me talking to her she suddenly went into the backround. After that she went back to her and they talked and she looked back at me. i just knew they where talking about me but i didnt say anything about her.and only about the friend Later the evening she was suddenly behind me and stroked me in my hair and grabbed my chest while she was walking by. I suddenly feel like i have all controll back to me AND she knows it =P it feels awsome not to run after them but to change the rules for ones. Thank you NC even though i still have a long way to go its paying of its fruits already n_n

Rout66life and milrich thank you for youre response. Yeah i think NC is the way to go for me. Only thing is almost always see her in weekends when i go out with my friends. Im just wondering how NC would work if i still saw here =/ also the though of other guys looking at her and dancing around her is eating me from the inside(im imagen the weekend already >_>) Cause for my feeling she is still my love ... Also how to act when i see her i know ''normal'' but thats a hard action as i feel now. and also what im scared of is that NC would get her mad or something like that and that would ruin my the contact for good. Or would you still say NC? i would be pretty pissed 2 if some one dindt respond to me =/ It feels like i dunno i lil bit disrespectfull argg ... Right now she still all alone for 2 weeks long at her parents home before they permenant immigrate i know she doesnt like to be alone in a big house. So ill see what happens after the 2 weeks of her being alone But i do feel like when she sees me having fun again and im my happy ''self'' again (which i lost a bit in the relationship cause i was taking it for granted)dont contact her to much she will know what she is missing. Cause i do know there is still some love in her for me. now to wonder how im getting that out. But have NC worked for lots of ppl ? But first im gonne try and love myself again and sort everything out. and what will be will be Still any advice are welcome

Hi all well here is my story and i hope you guys can give some advice. Me and my ex where together for 1,5 years, And also enjoyed each other to the fullest. But from around Juny things where different and strange. we still loved each other but we both knew something was wrong. We went and did a short break of a week i wanted to go back to here from the start but she needed some time. After 6 days we started dating again and all was good again. Later she told me that she could not stand me talking to other woman's and wanted me back real bad but i dindt really saw it as a break cause we still had lots of text message that time But the lost month (July) was differnt she still acted nice but i could feel that she did not respond to my action as much as a wanted to. (she was proberly thinking of breaking up) In the month we both had vaction but we worked so much we barely saw each other. in mids of july we headed for hongary for holiday because her parants immigrated there. The mood of here there was also weird she must have had lots of though running trough here head. I started noticing even more that she head lots on her mind. she was also strange in emotions the first hour she was super sweet like whe where in love again. and the next second she would act cold. but i went and gave here a over-dose on attention and sweet words/deeds because i felt she was slipping away from me But finally when i feeled like she was to much thinking and not putting as much feeling and love into the relation i asked her what on her mind was. She said she kinda felt the spark was gone but wanted to see me as a friend. im still pissed why she had to do that in the mids of the holiday now i was stranded in a country and i could not escape there. she said she should had done it before the vaction Suddenly the girl who i was sleeping next to wasnt mine anymore. The girl who i kissed and made love to 1 day ago wouldn't even give me a goodnight kiss.but she would undress naked and change clothes right infront of me ... i went in a depressing mood and still could not believe she wanted to break up. Cause i was still in love with here. She acted cold like she wanted me to get over her quickly. or because i was nagging to much that i still loved here. But she had the upper hand there cause SHE had here family there so she had always a hiding place when she didnt want to talk to me. I was all alone in a country which i did not speak the lang so going home earlier was out of the question. i couldnt stand it anymore sleeping next to the girl i loved but coundt touch. she would open her eyes look straight into mine and turn around i went mad there then the 2 of us headed back to our own country we traveld the 10 hour journey together. lots of things went trough my head but i coundt put them into concrete words so i didnt talk to much instead of the normal chatting. When we where back and here older sister was waiting for here at the train station we gave each other a hug few kisses and she said ''See you in 3 days in the disco ''(we always headed to the same one because there was only 1 major disco there) now im 2 days alone back home with my parants. yesterday i was mad like hell how could she do that to me and i deserve better etc the normal rage. But when i needed to pick up my bike which was still at here home she was nice we chatted a lil (not relation just chat) i went home and i wasnt mad anymore i was in love again. i just dont know how to react when i see her at the disco with her girlfriend. she is a real eye candy girl and i just feel like every man in my town is gonne set there claws into here now she is single (eventhough i know she wont react to them or put much offord in her) she doesnt have much friends anymore since she is going to studie in a bigger city 125km from me. it was a nother reason (I think) why she broke up with me now cause she told me she was really scared of the long range relation and that i might not work out. I however still have LOADS of friends but she only has 1 good friend left. and when she is going to study in the big city and has to work alot to pay the rent (because her parents immigrated) I know i have to be myself when i see her but i want her back so bad. so my question is should i go No Contact on her cause in after the vaction is over she is all alone in the big city and then go back to contact? or stay friends as we are at this point and slowly head back to dating and more 1 on 1 stuff like beachwalking,movie,going to drink something. if you readed all this thank you for youre time Any help or oppions are apricated Thanks in advanced