I have been with my boyfriend for over seven months, we are currently in a LDR, seeing each other every second weekend. The LDR isn't the problem (I wish it could change, but it won't with uni and jobs).
The problem is.. well it's not really a problem, I just want some opinions about his ex- girlfriend, also the mother of his two young children who he was with for around eight years. They live about 12 hours apart, convienantly I am living half way between each of them. My boyfriend had been talking to his ex about meeting up so he could see his children. He wants for her and the kids to come to where I am and for him to come down here so they can spend a weekend together seeing one another and for him to spend time with his children.
Now the little niggling feeling I have is whether I should invite the ex-girlfriend to stay at my place whilst they are visiting or whether I should make her stay in a motel or something. I have never met her before, and don't really know how she feels about me. I know at the beginning of the relationship she called me 'a piece of fluff' and thought I was just some 'action' for my boyfriend, but that is going back a few months. She recently had an abortion after falling pregnant to her off/on boyfriend. But now has been talking to my boyfriend about what an idiot she had been for leaving him and for the great qualities he has which she hasn't been able to find with any other boyfriends she has had. He has told me he doesn't want her back as she cheated on him at least three times during their relationship and doesn't want to go through that again.
I've never been in a relationship where I've had a boyfriend who has 'baggage'. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel about this and whether I should let her stay or if I should be worried about anything, or if I'm blowing this way out of proportion. Opinions please!?!