WalkingWithGod

I just wanted to give you an update. We have been dating for about 5 weeks now, and she has gotten better every day. I have met her family and they are amazing. She is truly loving (1 Corinthians 13). She is everything I have ever hoped for. I didn't think a person could be everything I could hope for, but she is. She is an amazing gift from God. I truly hope all of you can find the same. It is hard to imagine that God loves me more than I love her, but that also is true. 1 Corinthians 13 (Bible) 1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

God has blessed me with the most amazing woman last week. That very day I told God that I didn't care about getting married anymore that I was satisified with His love and whatever he wanted to have me do in life. I also prayed that he would give me peace about whether he wanted me to get married or stay single. This is a big deal for me, because I have been preparing myself for marriage as long as I can remember. That night I went to my first ever dance class. I was very happy being single and actually not excited about meeting anyone. The girl I finally met was sitting in front of me during a Bible study we had. The leader of the Bible study asked everyone if they could answer where particular phrases were qouted from. Most people could guess the song lyrics and movie qoutes, but they could not guess the Bible verse qoutes. She new the chapter they were in. I was amazed by that and wanted to encourge her. By this point I didn't really know what she looked like because she was wearing a big coat and was turned away from me. All I knew was that she was wearing a black skirt. We first had a 30 minute dance lesson. It was fun and although there were many attractive women there I wasn't interested in any of them. I then sat down in a seat, talked with a few people for a while still looking for the girl with the black skirt. It turned out several of the girls had black skirts the same length. Anyways, after the dance floor cleared out a little I went and started dancing with a few people. Some how we were coupled together with out me remembering how. Holding her hands was amazing and I was immediately drawn to her. I didn't think much of it, because like I said I wasn't looking for anyone and it might sound strange, but I had only dated two girls before which I knew both of them for several years before we ever dated and I wanted to keep it that way. Anyways, she asked me what my name was and my job and I was kind of turned off by that, because I live in a big city where that is all people seem to care about. Also when I tell people what my job is they can usually only think about the fact that I am rich and it messes up relationships. A few people tried to step in, and I had a really hard time letting go of her. One of the times I sat out I looked over at the table I had been sitting at and saw the coat of the girl that had remembered the Bible chapter. I then realized the girl I had been dancing with and was so drawn to was the same girl that knew the Bible chapter. A few minutes later I was standing to the side again and remember thinking that she was the woman I was going to marry and that I never wanted to let her go. Since then we have talked for many hours and gone on three dates. She only gets more amazing every time. I know it is really early, but God is definitely guiding this and it is only good. For some reason as nervous as I have been and as tired as I have been, I have had a hard time saying stupid stuff. Also I have been presented tons of oppurtunites to impress her that I am never presented wtih. Also the first night I felt compelled to ask her for her number. I have never in my life asked a girl for her number with the intention of going on a date and I am 28 years old. Anyways I just thought some of you might enjoy reading this. I will try to keep you updated. One last important thing, I was in love with her before I even knew her, but now that I know her better I am infintely more in love with her. She is truly amazing. Also, about a week before I met her I was having trouble eating and felt kind of euphoric like I was already in love.

The Bible has a great definition of love. There are several different types of love from fondness, to a family type of love, to romantic love. Each of these types of love put in our hearts the desire to treat someone the way real love manifest itself. The fullness of love can only truly be expressed by God and is described in the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13. I think I have finally found love and it was just when I had given up on it with a person. 4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails.

Jetis, I am so glad you are trying to take care of her. First off, you are making the right move by not "fooling around" with her. By this point she probable thinks that this is all guys want and she is willing to do it as long as she can be in a relationship she feels secure in. One of my ex's was so convinced that guys only wanted to "fool around" that when I didn't she broke off the relationship because she thought I didn't care for her. I was in the relationship with her for 3 months and after she broke off the relationship she realized that I actually did care for her more than any of the other guy's she had dated. A year later by not "fooling around" with her she looks at relationships much differently and has finally found what I believe is a good boyfriend that takes care of her. Anyways the best thing you can do to protect her is to let her be who she is and make sure you treat her well without "fooling around" with her.

Try complementing him. That will probably boost his confidence and make it easier to talk to you.

This might sound insane, but I actually got over my ex of five years by loving God. After my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago I just searched after God and quickly didn't miss my ex very much at all. I have just found that God has so much love for me that my girlfriend's love was very important. I have seen God's love through prayer, noticing his beautiful creation, and through the promises He has fulfilled in the Bible.

I know it must really hurt if she has cheated on you, but I think we all need to realize that marriage has very little meaning in this day in age. I don't think you can take sexual integrity for granted any more. The fact that she slept with one guy four years ago and hasn't done anything since is actually a pretty amazing accomplishment. You would be hard pressed to do any better, especially with a job that takes you away so much. Also, what kind of sexual integrity have you practiced. Have you truly not slept with anyone during your marriage and when you are away do you flirt with other women or check out other women or porn? These kinds of things will also hurt your wife. Also, if you are not giving her the kind of attention and love she deserves then you are making it very difficult for her to be true to you. The fact that she has taking care of your 3 kids while you are busy flying is very amazing. You two owe it to your children who you brought into this world to try and work it out.

sadsole, I council many girls like your ex girlfriend. You really need to consider if you would really like to raise a family with her and face all of the hard times in life with her. It sounds like she needs to mature a little before she will be able to take on all of these important aspects of life. If you truly want to be with this woman for the rest of your life then you will need to wait sit back praise her, support her, and wait for her to realize that you really love her and that love is real. You could marry her now and have a loveless relationship of years until she stops taking you for granted and realizes that love is really real. You need to see if you really now how to love as well. This is really key, If you don't know how to love, I recommend that you learn how to love as soon as possible. I have included a description of love at the bottom of the message. Seek after love and be patient. There are literally millions of girls out there that would probably love to have you as a boyfriend, but it is better to wait and find the woman you truly want to be with for the rest of your life. You won't be able to find her while you are with all of the other girls. As far as whether or not you are a number, it isn't exactly like this but sort of. She basically is starving for affection and particularly from guys. She also needs to feel in control of things because she probably feels like an out of control victim of things in the past. She desperately longs to be loved, but doesn't believe that love is really real and certainly doesn't want to make herself vunerable enough to rely on someone and be truly loved. You probably loved the fact that she seemed to be deeply pastionately in love with you, but this probably not true. She is more just deeply hurting and longing for affection. She will probably continue to get in intimate realtionship with guys for years until she realizes that by coercing guys into intimate relationship she is actually destroying the very love she is seeking. She might have liked you more than any of the other guys she has met, but she might have just said those things to coerce you into an intimate relationship. Basically, you are going to have to figure out whether the relationship is one based on love and whether you want her to be your life partner. By life partner I mean the person you want to go through all of the good times and bad times of life together and the person you want to rely on in the hard times. If you really love her and are willing to be extremely patient, there is very good chance that you will end up with her. Make sure to chase after love and not lust or companionship. Those things can be easily gotten, but love is difficult and extremely rewarding. The best description for love I have found is in the Bible 1 Corinthians 13: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self - seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

finewhine, I seem to be paritially reading post a lot lately. Sorry about that. Anyways, if by book publishing you mean writing then I still think link removed might be a place you might want to post some short stories. People can make donations to you for your work link removed is an example. Several of my friends have been published authors. They just wrote books and submitted them to publishers for review.

Finewhine there are journalism jobs all over the country. It sounds like you might not actually want to move to New York City but you feel like you have to move there, because that is where the best jobs are. Although, living in New York might help you build a bigger network just starting a journalism job somewhere will help even more. To start a journalism job you just need to send out resumes to places you would like to work with a portfolio. If you don't mind moving to D.C. or California I would recommend working with NPR. They offer a great work environment and great internships. The webpage to sign up for internships is link removed. As far as I understand they also have by far the most full time journalists of any network probably in the world. Another neat news orgnization I found is link removed. They let people submit news stories which they host on their own website. They can receive donations through paypal for their news stories. Most of the major news networks have locations in Chicago. I know it seems daunting to start this new chapter in your life, but it sounds like you are well qualified and enjoy doing it so you will have a leg up on a lot of people. Good luck. By the way, I work in the radio and television broadcast industry on the engineering side. We are currently building a station in New York, but we build stations all over the country as well.

Please care for and love her and your child. If you need help and live near Washington D.C. send me a note and I will see what I can do.

Sorry about that I read the first 4 or so pages. Guess I didn't make it in time.

Sounds great! Hope I didn't upset you too much. As I get older and see the results of all of the fun people are having in school, I am more and more heart broken and feel I have to tell as many people your age as I can the problems that can come from it and often do. Good luck. By the way, from your post in sounded like you were pretty strong against the boys, but remember its going to continue. Thanks for reading my post.

If you can't wait it out 10 more years then you need to let her go. I just broke up with a girl that was in a similiar situation. She had a lot of support from people around her, and it still took her three years to develop the confidence and emotional stability to hold down a good job long term. I don't know if you have tried to care for someone with this much trauma. If you haven't been through it it is hard to comphehend how much trauma is actually there. Even though she was able to keep down a job it was still basically impossible for her to really trust anyone and trust is a big part of love. Every person is different, but I seriously think it will take a long time for her to be able to have an deep loving relationship.

broken_soul it is very evident that the pain you are going through has almost nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. I don't know what is hurting you, but you are desperately trying to seek love and are seeking it in the wrong places. I know you don't want to hear this but from what you have said your boyfriend is very selfish and probably one of the worst people you could be around. I want to let you know that God loves you deeply. You may not be able to see this right now and you may not even recognize God, but God gives you beautiful flowers and a beautiful sky everyday. I hope you will one day understand this and know that you are loved by God more than any man could ever love you. I am going to share with you a description of the kind of love God has for you and hope you can except this. I also want you to know that God created humans in His image. He created us to be like Him. He also spoke everything but humans into existence. He literal formed us and made us. God's love is patient and kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self - seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps not record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always persereverses. Love never fails. Please try to find people that have this kind of love and hang around them. You need to have this kind of love to heal from what is hurting you. Ultimate you need to know that God loves you like this. Also, I am sure there is a man out there that wants to love you like this, and will except you for who you are and where you are, but you are going to have to stop being with guys like you ex and start chasing after this real love if you want to find it. You are also going to have to become loving like this if you want to appreciate real love. I hope this best for you and I will say a prayer for you.