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RufusDawes

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  1. Its not me who says cultural fit = discrimination, its a lot of people. It happens its a fact its a problem.
  2. Terms like cultural fit have been cited and documented as excuses for discrimination, such as for, race and socio economic background. A person could be deemed to not culturally fit in because they went to a poorer highschool or a lower university despite recieving similar grades in a similarily structured course. The article described ways for people from lower economic backgrounds to get overcome discrimination amd it was mostly aimed at graduates. If you demand a cultural fit you are demanding that a person be hired for reasons other than their ability to perform the job. It leaves open the opportunity to hire at a whim of favouritism and discard the most worthy applicant simply because of personal dislike. I cannot think of anything less professional than allowing your personal likingness to a person get in the way of getting the best job done.
  3. Have you seen the office ? My boss makes their boss look like a nobel prize winner. I spend most meetings trying not to burst into sporadic laughter. The greatest release is turning to a co worker and saying " we should film this" and the reply "we're sitting on a gold mine".
  4. Finding a graduate entry level job can be insanely competitive for most fields. I don't think a lot of people understand how difficult it is to find a position. I don't think its that people are envious of ceo's I think it is more that they are rightfully demanding a decent living in the face of absurd luxuries in the hands of those they see denying them that living. Just getting your foot in the door and out of fast food and into a 9-5 job with a lunch break, sick, holiday pay and a comfortable environment with a bit of stability can be challenging enough. And I think thats what a lot of people fail to realise, that there aren't really many jobs of that sort available. I've got a friend whos 24 with a research degree in economics and 22 yo friend with a degree in electronic engineering and another with a degree in eduction and english. I am friends with these guys because we work in the same call centre. I'm not saying people don't ever do well from these types of degrees i'm merely pointing out I know of a fair few who just can't get a heads up which is not a terrific sign. .
  5. Hey Jadestart. Seems you were a recruiter what is it like in terms of age descrimination for entry level corporate jobs. I agree it sad that jobs get exported but I hear it will benefit us in the long run interms of our own standard of living, but I guess that dependant on how you value your standards and what you consider living. Anyway the USA is still the main export market for a lot of goods so I don't understand how it can be as bad as people make out. Maybe the EU will take ur place. I live in Australia and we've copped the same thing but our economy is smaller and different to yours but yeah, our unemployment rate is supposed to be at a historic low.. so maybe its good for us all, maybe not theory dictates that it is but who knows not me thats for sure. Just throwing some ideas out there.
  6. in your 40's and never had a girlfriend... hello future self. it does happen mostly too charismatic attractive guys who would get it all anyway. IMO.
  7. I stumbled into a brothel and almost had sex with a prostitute, almost because I could not perform. I feel guilty about it, terrible infact, but I enjoyed it. I have a lot of trouble trying to form a relationships with women. Its been diagnosed several times, I have a clear cut case of Asperger's syndrome. I don't see myself getting into a relationship soon, I work nights 6 days a week. I never go out. I don't have many friends. I don't blame my problems on the condition i just mentioned it so you can see the full story. Am I a terrible person b.c I saw a prostitute ? I had it in her for a bit and the condom slipped because it was not hard, i didn't notice it slip but she did and said it had to be harder. Should i get tested for HIV ? In aus HIV is lower rate than in the us, 15/100k compared o 100/100k in us.
  8. I saw on article somewhere once about what women think makes them sexy, and what a man thinks. They were different.
  9. if you go all out talking to a girl or whatever she will generally take that as a sign that you are a desperate twit. Women like a man who is interested but not obsessed. Talking to other women while the one you are interested in is watching particularily if you flirt, shows her that you are a normal person who can interact and has an active interest in other women. This shows her you are normal, social, and healthy minded. I am guessing there are desired qualities for a male to have. When I say flirt, I do not mean hit on. There is a subtle difference between the two and there is a line you can cross, which turns flirting into an overt display of sexual interest.
  10. Would you ever consider paying a prostitute for sex, what are your opinions of paying for sex.
  11. Hello again friends, I am in need of some advice regarding what to do/not to do on or for a first date. I knew this girl for a little while through a club, she had a boyfriend when I met her but now they've broken up a while ago. I bumped into her at the supermarket, we started talking about the old club and bla bla do you still go, i'm all no working too much bla bla talk, at one point i decided i'd better not be a coward so i said " if you're not seeing anyone would you like to go out with me to see a movie or do something". She looked pretty serious for a bit then smiled and said yeah. I got her phone number down and said i'd give her a call. I stuffed up by not smiling back, but I was nervous and I never smile when I am nervous. I'm going to call her tomorrow, I wasn't sure about my roster at work so I couldn't tell her when. I work heaps in relative terms (still a student, FT Quan. hours for work), found out I got thursday off, as I said I'm going to call her. Problem is, I'm not really sure what to do for a first date. I am 23 years old, a student of geology and Australian. I was thinking I could take her to the movies which is just down the road from where I live, but my car is buggered. I think that might be a problem, not much of a date if take her onto the bus. Other option I was pondering was to invite her over to my flat, I can cook up a mean spag bol. I'll tell her that, then be all lets watch donnie darko. Shes really cute, a couple of years younger than me and frankly, I am a very large ape like creature, I need a bit of help paraphrasing what I say when I call her. If you guys/girls have got any suggestions or advice on a first date I'd appreciate any input. Thanks in advance. BEST BUDS 4 EVER RUFUS DAWES
  12. But i don't want to be bad and assertive and aggressive to women, I like women, I want to be nice to them. Confidence is something you should have within you, it should not be flaunted, people should be modest. Isn't it assertive and manly to say I only want to be assertive and manly if I want to, not because a woman wants me too ?
  13. Well, in my experience at places where you aren't meant to be overtly social, decent people generally won't judge you flat out by how you look, or by small manuerisms. A positive person would be one who doesn't complain when there is work to be done, takes a busy night as a challenge, or a difficult situation as an obstacle to be overcome - and to approach that obstacle with enthusiam. If you're in a pub or at college, the time I have spent in these places have told me that it is everything to do with presentation. Speak in an energetic uplift tone, wear happy colors, don't appear to be tired. When you meet someone, meet them with enthusiam. Laugh a lot, and above all don't be timid or reserved, these might show as signs of negativity.
  14. flirting is ok, it is fine so long as it is done in a friendly way. Provided he is well aware that you have a boyfriend that you are staying with, honestly, i know lots of chicks who flirt with other guys despite having a boyfriend. It is fine so long as it is friendly and not suggestive or overtly sexual flirting.
  15. I don't know if they're used to seeing interns enter and leave the company quickly or what not (since internships are usually temporary). Thats probably it. I guess, i'd just walk up to a group of them and start talking, if they frowned at me i'd walk off... but i haven't had any corporate experience.
  16. Well, of course girls don't do it. Because it is the man who has to make the phone call . When a girl says she is unsure when a guy asks her out, it is exactly the same thing. People can be indecisive, both men and women, but men and women have opportunities to be indecisive in different ways.
  17. Tell him what you told us. If you've already told him tell him again. And if needs be move closer so there is not distance. You only live once.
  18. "It's easy from here on in - continue to be friendly and approachable but emotionally -keep yourself protected by having the mindset that unless and until he asks you out he is off your radar - there is nothing between you." No, thats not a good idea. If he is too shy to ask you out, he probably won't. Whatever you have will likely whither away into nothing. Please just make a move.
  19. you must learn to quiet your mind listen to what your heart tells you... use the force young skywalker
  20. Hes soooooo dreamy and his eys are just "shucks" omg. *giggles*
  21. That sounded like you were offended by his presense. I'd take that not as a rejection but a way of saying please back off and leave me alone.
  22. Physical attraction is like a switch, its either on or off. The personality of the person is like the voltage. It will measure how strong the current (attraction) will be. From what I have seen. A lot of women will tend to say it is all about the personality because we (men) generally decide how attractive we think we are and aim for women in the vicinity. They have a lot of attractive men approaching them and can virtually take their pick as men come and go. That pick, often depends on a few personality traits. What they are I do not know, but I am fairly certain you cannot properly ascertain what a personality is from brief meetings with that person. So I suppose to get the first date, mostly it has to be about looks.
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