Flyby

DAY 3 completed, close to DAY 4.... I just wish the 30 days can be up - not because I want to talk to him, but I'm getting tired of posting the days on this thread Today he wasn't on my mind as much as before. Each day gets better and better. I've been so busy chatting to friends and involved with work that I didn't even manage to get to this thread till now. The one thing I do worry about is if he does want to come back in future, I'm not yet sure how I'll handle it, whether I'd want him back in my life or not. These 30 days are meant for me to figure this out. (I've stopped yearning for his contact when I started realising that I have so many other interesting people who actually want to truly talk to me, knowing this helped a great deal. Surrounding yourself with friends makes a big difference)

DAY 2 of NO CONTACT

DAY 1 completed of NO CONTACT.... Strange, although it's recorded as DAY 1, I have been generally staying out of contact with my ex... I don't feel so bad, it's been 5 months since we really really were together. First 2 months he was confused and needed to make up his mind - I gave him the time, checked in with him now and again. Then I told him that I can't wait forever. So, we called it "SPLITSVILLE". All due to religious differences... I know he still has strong feelings for me and is scared of completely losing me. The fact is, he has lost me. I want to record 30 days of completely no contact, for myself and for my own boost. It will be proof that I am so much stronger than he expected or thought I was. I lived without him before, I can go on without him even now. I'm worth more than just a passing thought or a bored moment in his life. If he wants my attention, he will have to work for it. If not, well - just too bad. Initially, I felt bad for ignoring him and telling him to give me some space for a while, but then I thought of the times before we split, all the times I tried to contact him and he was so unresponsive and cold. Now he wants to talk - always on his terms. Guess what - I don't want to talk anymore. I can just imagine him sitting and wondering why I didn't grab his last request to chat. Normally I would jump at the chance of having 5 minutes of his time. He must be very confused now. Perhaps his new girlfriend can ease his confused mind. I finally don't have to deal with my own negative thoughts, nor with his Man, it feels so good letting it all out. I can sleep peacefully again. I can feel my mind and heart being liberated. I can actually feel my old self resurfacing. I'm so happy and proud of myself.

On the first day of NC I found out my ex is really "serious" about his new girlfriend. (he placed his relationship status on Facebook as Engaged). Along with other friends, I sent him a congratulatory message and told him I was very happy for him. That's it, I even "liked" the darn status message. DAY 3 of NC, he tries contacting me via Skype... I ignore it. Last night, on DAY 5 of NC, he sends me another message, saying: "U angry at me? Flllyyyby (insert my name)." I sent him a sms and said the following: "Hi, I am not angry at you at all. Thought it's best if there's some space for now. We'll always be friends, but right now I just want to move on like you have and respect your relationship". He replied "Good night and sleep well".... What is it with this man?! Why does he insist on torturing me, he made his choice and it wasn't me. Why is he so adamant to keep in contact? I'm so tired of all of this. I think back on how he treated me - when I truly needed him, he was off being "confused" with another woman. 3 Months after we officially broke up, he is engaged to her. I'm not going to give him the best of both worlds - I'M MOVING ON! HE'LL WAIT IN VAIN FOR ME TO CONTACT HIM - I WANT HIM OUT OF MY LIFE! (Man lost a good thing, he'll soon figure it out) Guess I'm back to square 1 of NO CONTACT

DAY 3 -I'm not feeling bad at all... I guess I'm really fed-up now... He tried contacting me today via Skype. I blocked and deleted him on Skype on Day 1 of NC, don't know how the message still came through. He just said, "Hi there. How are you? Nice pic." I ignored it, Yay! Don't care if I never hear from him again

Well, seems like my resolution just came at exactly the right time... DAY 1 of No Contact and just found out through Facebook that my ex is engaged - we've been broken up for only 3 months and 2 months ago he still told me he loved me... Don't know if I should laugh or cry - that's that, I guess - nothing more for me to do but pick myself up and go on

Okay, I'm finally up for the challenge. My ex and I broke-up in March and we've remained courteous and friendly to each other since. You know, same old story - "good old friends".... I am feeling much better since the break-up, more like my old self. I don't contact him, the problem is that he still contacts whenever he needs help or wants to chat and find out how things are going. I have never ignored him, not once. I have always believed that being a good friend means being there for your friends no matter what the situation. This will be difficult for me, but I need to do it for myself. I finally just want to move on with my life and see what else is out there for me. He had his chance and blew it. I realise that we cannot be friends right now. Though, as he says - we will always be friends, for sure, forever. I just can't be in contact with him now. Here it goes - DAY 1 of NO CONTACT!

No, I don't use those accounts (internet email accounts) for anything serious. I only use it to correspond with acquintances and friends. We've spoken about meeting, but nothing definite. We're both studying, so time-wise and financially it's still difficult. He's given me his mobile number so that I can keep in contact with him. I was waiting on him to bring up the topic about meeting eachother...

Hey RAYKAY, Yes, there's quite a few Red Flags. I shouldn't take this 'relationship' too seriuosly. I don't think I should loose sleep about this. Thank you

@ PRSOV She sent me a chat she had with one of the girls he supposedly chats with, but it's in another language. I tried translating it, it didn't work out too well... And I saw a comment on one of her blogs that he made in February. It wasn't anything intimate, but it had a kissy smiley next to it That's why I'm wondering if I'm only over-reacting...

Yeah, I think you're right. I always think that if a guy knows exactly what to say, it's usually because he's had enough practice at saying it to other girls too. The Internet makes it so easy for people to lie. I gave him my passwords because I wanted him to trust me too and it seemed the only just thing to do. At first I had asked him to change his, but he refused. He said he had nothing to hide. I really like the guy, I don't want him to feel insulted because I've changed my passwords. Thank you, I really need to me more cautious. It's just all happening so fast.

I'm kinda new to online relationships, which is why I need some advice Close to the end of last year I had joined an online community, I guess it was just out of plain curiosity (the community had nothing to do with finding a date or the love your life). So I opened my own blog on this community, my very first blog ever Somehow, I stumbled onto the profile of a very handsome, intelligent guy. I left a comment on one of his pictures and to my amazement, he sent me a personal message the next day. We've been chatting for 7 months now. The problem is that we live in different countries and he's had online realtionships before. The thing is, I know for a fact that one of his online relationships ended only April of this year. And, by April he had already told me how much he loves me I've been in contact with his ex cyber girlfriend and she's warned me to stay away from him. She says he's bad news and that I'm not the only girl he's chatting to. I asked him about it. And to my shock he gave me his passwords to most of his main email accounts, like GMail and Yahoo. He told me that I could use them freely at any time, isn't he just toooo sweeet ? I've noticed that he has quite a few addresses of other girls in his accounts. He says the sweetest things, it's as if he knows exactly what to say. He's seems too good to be true... I guess I'm just confused.... Could it be that he's 'ex' is just jealous that things didn't work out between them? If someone gives you their passwords, does that mean they're serious about the realtionship they have with you? Oh yes, I gave him mine in return. Though he didn't want it. I know I shouldn't take an online relationship too seriuosly, at least not until we've met. But, I don't want to waste my time either.