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One could hope, but it's not very likely. I think she's bound by the contract too, at least for another year. My ex however is definitely moving! I think being friendly with the new girl is a great advice, too. How much do you think it's going to cost me though? She doesn't seem to be the type to rumor much, which is more then i can say about some of the people who work there . They were "mutual friends" (e.g. his friends) and are always curious "how i feel" about one thing or the other relating to the situation.

Thank you for the advice, iamteddybearfeelmecuddle, Unfortunately it's not so easy as the job requires a year contract i won't be able to break-(

Just ran into an ex with his new girlfriend (we broke up in February).I'm very confused - i have no romantic feeling towards my ex whatsoever. I'd never want us to have a relationship again, there is no physical attraction, and i no longer miss him, and yet this one did a number on me. I felt like i couldn't take another breath. We've been in a relationship for 3 years, living together for almost 2 (he moved to a different town after about 6 month of us dating and i went to live with him a year later). Break-up was my initiative, although i have a feeling my ex was doing everything in his power to drive me to it. It was very traumatic for me - i felt, and continue to feel used for a variety of reasons (we counitued to live together for some time after the end of things). A couple of month after oficial "break" i found out he was dating someone he met a year before our relationship ended. They worked together and i met her a few times. Now, i always felt my ex spoke of that person in a very particular way, and pretty much had a sense that there were some emotions on his part. I even used to joke that he had a crush on that woman. Go figure I- it seems he's been plotting that one for about a year. Still it was a bit of a shock, since he still claimed to "love me" and "have a hard time seeing me". He seems different with her - takes her places he used to hate when we were together (nothing i did could make him excited about going!). In any case, here's the punch-line: i have an opportunity to take this amazing job with the same company my ex and his new girlfriend work for, and I'm wandering if i could handle it. This is a small town, and before the offer i was considering moving alltoghether as to avoid negative flashbacks and run-ins. My ex will have to be moving to a different state (they may do long-distance, who knows), while she'll be staying at her present job. Is taking that attractive offer a good idea, considering I'm seriously doubting my ability to ignore what happened? thank you kindly