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  1. thanks guys - yeah i am depressed. i really do want to see a counsellor cos i know i need one but i cant afford one right now. so unfair. I took a few deep breaths there and it helped a bit and forced myself to eat a few slices of toast. i wouldnt mind going onto anti-depressants. Was on them before and i didnt get addicted after my doc told me to come off them.
  2. its been 3 months NC totally. I thought i was getting better though but its hit again - even harder this time. I have aches and pains all over my body, im oversleeping and still feel tired all day. It hurts me physically to type even. Im getn panic attacks now and a sense of impending doom. I physically feel hungry but i dont want to eat - i dont even feel like getn up to eat. i feel so alone and im crying a lot now. I hate this so much. I feel like im dying inside and i feel so scared that im gonna lose it or something or get a heart problem. i just dont know what to do anymore
  3. oh i know that. i had someone one time say to me "Please add me to your do-not-call list". I dont mind the yelling and stuff. It doesnt affect me in the slightest. Im just looking for tips so if you have any tips for me i would appreciate it.
  4. YabbaDabba im qualified in Teaching IT and I did teach for nearly a year. I got my BSc Degree in IT(Sofware Engineering) and went on to do a year diploma in teaching IT. My mother and a few friends were constantly telling me that teaching would totally suit me - just like you were told but i laughed at them cos i never imagined me getting up there in front of students and teaching. But i did. I loved it! My teaching diploma was only for a year so i thought another year of books wasnt going to kill me cos i knew at the end of the year i would have two things to fall back on. Going into software engineering or teaching IT. Now selling has always been another area that i really like. Teaching and selling were the only two areas where i excelled in. I had recently decided to break into the selling industry - because even though i like teaching - i did find myself getting bored going into the college every day and the system there was absolutely ridiculous. They had this girl (which i think they must have just literally picked out of the street) making out lesson plans for the course i was teaching. How was she creating the lesson plans? From the Help function in the software! Sorry just not the way i was taught to do lesson plans. The support techs were lazy and they never had the printers working for the students. The students used to get annoyed with me over it and I had to explain that i was doing everything possible to get it sorted (even tho i was a teacher not a support technician). i made so many complaints about the lazy staff that the director didnt renew my contract (but sure she didnt know how to do her own job anyway - she just liked the 'director' power trippin) Anyway that wasnt the reason i didnt go back into teaching, but it was my first real teaching job and it didnt leave a good first impression - i was however offered another teaching job but didnt take it cos they only wanted someone to do 6-9 hrs a week. not enough for me. Overall i did enjoy the teaching experience itself. The students and I got on so well. And i know i did a very good job since i found out that the feedback i got from the students was very positive. But my advice is make sure you know the institution/college/school well. My situation was a little different because i was teaching in a privatised college so the directors had their own strange system. Anyway i think you should go for the teaching YabbaDabba. What have you got to lose? I read that you said you were a bit shy, i was too. I was SO nervous the night before but after the first 20mins up there, i was very settled. what i did to prevent my nerves going overboard i introduced myself briefly to the students and then asked each of them to introduce themselves out loud. Good luck with your decision. Follow your head and your heart.
  5. Hi guys im starting a new sales job in a few days and i would so appreciate some advice. I have done selling before and i seem to do well in it, but this is a more fast-paced company and obviously depending on how good a sales person you are, you can easily climb up the ladder. So i want to be AT LEAST as good as the average person there, its a telesales job selling advertisements and upselling is very important. Any advice??
  6. Thank you so much for the advice Ibenhad and believe me they are things i would be worried about. I will have to be sensible and i plan to get to know him for as long as i can. I found the site by searching for it through google. Cos im sick of non-Christian Irish men (no offense if there are any Irish men here). I found a Christian one. It was link removed. You sign an application thing and just put in your country etc.
  7. Hey Sparkle1 Congrats on your news there. How long did you know him before you decided to meet? The guy im speaking too is from the UK but we have spoken bout meeting up in a few weeks maybe when we get to know each other a bit more.
  8. i meant to say "I really love Enotalone". sorry i get thick sometimes.
  9. Sillygurl (change your username please cos u are not a sillygurl) thank you so much for congratulating me on my first change. It builds my incentive. I really appreciate that. Thank You. I really Enotalone so much!
  10. Annie24 i will definitely let my friends know where i am - didnt think of that till you mentioned it. Thanks again. I told him coffee if we were to met. We havent arranged yet but if we do i know a place where i will be safe. And NO WAy are we gonna meet locally. If he suggests meeting locally then i know its not good. Im living in Dublin (and i know im up till all hours in the morning cos i cant sleep!) and i know the best place in city centry to meet and i will tell my mother and a few of my friends. I have not met him face to face yet so you are right Southerngirl I cant fall for him till ive met him. ohhhh dilemma time. And Rightfromthestart i dont have a webcame and neither does he. ohhhh dilemma time.
  11. "don't fall for ANYONE until you have met them in person! you never know who you are really talking to. i remember last year.... funny story..... a man in italy made arrangements to meet this woman on the beach. they had been corresponding for a year on the internet, and had both decided the other was 'the one.' When he gets to the beach... he finds out.... the dream woman is ...... HIS MOTHER!!!!! they both put up fake and more flattering photos on the internet!!! talk about an awkward meeting! i guess it is true, a man's dream woman is his mother anyways, thought that might make you laugh.... i think it's a rebound also but enjoy it, but don't get too serious." Annie24 i read your post. i saw the funny side but heck i dont want it to happen to me. im not usually naive and i really dont want to be rebound gal but hence the reason i post this. I want all the advice i can gather. I just wish Enotalone could all talk to me in my appt. i really value and need all the advice i can get. I am gonna be careful in every way. I am a black belt (just in case) heheh. but still i dont really know him - obviously. He is a Christian and he hads quoted from the Bible but anyone could do that. We have agreed to meet in about 5 weeks. Am i being naive???????
  12. Thank you so much for the advice. i need ppl to keep me grounded cos i dont want to be naive in this cos my heart was hurt and i need to be guarded. Thank you Southerngirl. I will keep myself in check with all this. xxS
  13. hey Southerngirl all i can say is i hope im not in rebound with him - i have never gone rebound - well i dont think i have but i have heard my friends and other ppl mention that to me.i dont really know how one feels when they go that way but i really like him cos he makes me laugh. i love cats (apart from spiderman-hahha) but he has sent me funny cat videos and i have sent him ones too. I have laughed for 3 days straight over him. I have never laughed so much. My ex made me cry a lot nearly a year before we broke off. But i dont want to be rebount gal to this guy Southerngal i really dont you know?
  14. dont give up hope! my ex is goin...goin...goin - and nearly gone. im not rebound gal cos rebound ppl dont have true feelings for the next person who comes their way. But i will tell you i have feelings for this guy thats all i will say. i do welcome advice tho cos he's online and i dont know him face-to-face but he has told me a lot bout him. he speaks my language. i ahave known him few days now but i feel he is male version of me. i have fallen for him. I really have.
  15. Iceman it sounds like you have already had these talks with her and all you get is a negative answer. Maybe if you try the NC method, she might actually start having more respect for you because right now you are ALWAYS THERE right where she wants you. Its a mystery as to why ppl who have been with someone for years comes out of it and messes around with their ex like that. I would rather be dumped and have the guy say to me "Im not interested anymore. Im sorry. I can be your friend but thats all". Something in that line you know like what yer man from flippin Spiderman said to Mary Jane at the end of the first movie (I know crap metaphor but it does the job) or if the two completely ignore each other. But this " I want you" "I dont want you" blah blah. That is SO rude. Iceman you do what you feel is best about Saturday - if you feel you want to meet her and have one last dive at it, do but be prepared for what will be the outcome. You're a really nice decent man Iceman and im sorry you have to go through this cos I know it hurts bad.
  16. As for the drinking guys yeah i will be dead honest with all of you - 2/3 times a week i get a shoulder of bacardi and diet coke and drink it alone. i know obviously that is stupid of me to be doing that and i really want that to change soon otherwise my health is gonna drop big time (and thats putn it mildly) but the thing is I like the buzz as do we all and thats why we drink. I just need to find a way to get a buzz without alcohol.
  17. Iceman I dont feel happy with the way things are goin on with you and your ex. I really really feel she just wants you as a friend right now, and nothing else. Take her at her word. When you turn away from her, she comes running but when you turn to her she shies away. That baffles me,.i just dont get it. Iceman you have to do NC with her. You're in way too much contact with her and you're the one getting hurt not her by the sounds of it. Read over your last post there and try to look at it from outside the box. Whos head between the two of you is getting wrecked? who is moving on here? Who is the one doing the trying? I dont see any NC being initiated here by you. I know why you wont do that tho cos you dont wanna hurt her. Fair enough but why are you letting yourself get hurt? Why do that to yourself? Im glad i initiated NC with my ex cos i dont know what he's doing or who hes doing it with and im damn glad cos it wud tear me to know my ex is with someone. Thanks to ENA I initiated NC and by God its very hard but its working. Its actually working for me. My advice. Do NC - if she calls just make some excuse that you cant talk and keep doin that otherwise dont answer. She wants you as a friend and shes checking up on you to see that your still there. I feel shes treating you like a second resort. Respect yourself Iceman. SHOW her your not a second resort and you know how to do that.....
  18. after being at rock bottom for so long, its time for me to finally go UP! That should go for everyone.
  19. Thanks iceman. I would like to get myself together as soon as I can because then i would be able to spend time properly and give other ppl some advice. My advice lately sucks cos i still cant see the wood for the trees properly. I have to move on i just have to. i couldnt afford to go out and meet ppl because i was unemployed but i just found out today I got a job! Im delighted. And im taking vitamin tabs too. I still drink 2 or 3 times a week and i need to cut it down or out completely. That would be a huge change and I hope soon it will come. I have been reading some of your posts Iceman and I would love to be able to give you some good advice that might help. But as I see it i really feel you have really proved yourself to your ex and its a shame it hasnt hit her. I really really hope you get what you want.
  20. decided to make a few changes in my life to help me rid myself of my ex and to move on properly (tho I would still take him back). Someone on ENA advised me to start making changes in my lifestyle so did my angel cards. Went for a half an hour run to start me off on my fitness. Ran around the pier. Couldnt believe how unfit i was. after few mins of running the backs of my lower legs were excruciating. had to sit down somewhere and message the muscles. God it was SO sore. Never knew I was so unfit. But I got back up. Ran and walked, ran and walked, listening to my Fergie CD and I came back home sweating but it was good. I felt good after it and i enjoyed my run. So do make a change to your lifestyle while you're going thru your heartbreak. Its amazing what one little change can do. Gonna do my run every day, and after a few weeks i'll bring it up to an hour. thats my goal.
  21. "Well anyone who tells you to do NC is full of crap. Also, anyone who tells you not to do NC is full of crap." Nicholas I know how you feel cos i was feeling a bit like the whole NC thing is crap but i can honestly say it is not. Everyone here who says NC is the way to go are 101% correct. I hate doing NC. It has been 3 months of NC for me and my ex. I was the dumper but believe me with very good reasons. He was the one who didnt want me but still stuck with me cos he like the idea of having a gf to praise him while he spends more time without me and im jus there whenever he needs me. Anyway i couldnt stay friends with him even tho we were together for nearly 4 yrs cos can you imagine how i would feel if he turned around and told me he was dating someone. In fact i dont think i could ever deal with that. when I first went out with him he was in contact with his ex before me (and he was with her for only 3 months before she broke off with him) she stayed in contact throughout the 4 yrs we were nearly together. They didnt get back (well i hope not) but he told her a few weeks after they split up that he was with me. I really feel NC is the best thing for me and my ex. i am moving on with my life to the best of my ability but my heart is sore and i cry quite a bit for no reason. I would always be willing to work things out with him but NC has shown me that for now he is happy with the split, he doesnt want me. He might want me later on he might not. I pray to the angels for help and I got an angel reading the other day and it was very coincidental that i asked a qs about my ex and if he will find me again and I picked out a Romance card. It looked positive but the card mentioned something about me changing myself first - exercise is something i have to do. (im overweight now ) NC has helped me to move on - im still heartbroken to the ends of the earth but i feel it would be a lot worse if i wasnt doing NC. With NC your ex cant hurt you. And Nicholos NC has brought ppl like Laboheme said. I have read success stories. NC can bring exes back but if it doesnt at least it did something. It helped you move on. i am getting on with life but i still love Colin with all my deepest heart.
  22. Hey Sil Congrats on that. You so deserve it. I hope you have a great relationship and remember to keep communicating with him if a problem arises. Good on ya girl!
  23. What can one say when one hears tragedy like this? Only endless sorries to her and her family, and friends. A young girl but a short life. My Blessing are with you Leah.
  24. If Death is Kind Perhaps if death is kind, and there can be returning, We will come back to earth some fragrant night, And take these lanes to find the sea, and bending Breathe the same honeysuckle, low and white. We will come down at night to these resounding beaches And the long gentle thunder of the sea, Here for a single hour in the wide starlight We shall be happy, for the dead are free. ~Sara Teasdale God and the Angels are taking care of Leah now...
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