Hi Im a guy of 39 and have been in a relationship with a girl for 8 years. Initially we lived in Florida but 4 years ago I had to move up to the New York area for work reasons. Basically the realtionship is over as we dont make love anymore and although she is a good friend to me and I want the best for her I dont love her any more although she loves me.
2 Years ago I met a local girl and had an affair with her without telling her about the girlfriend in Florida. We broke up due to her suspicions (was hard to keep the two apart as I had to keep flying down to Florida to see my long term gf). However we have been in touch on and off, I have told her the truth abouit the original gf which she accepted.
Now we are in touch again and she has another boyfriend but she has made it clear that she would be prepared to give it another go with me provided of course that I break up with the old gf. Now fornthe crunch - the thought of the break up terrifies me and makes me feel physically ill. It will devastate her when I tell her even though she must kn ow that something is not right. Also Im scared of a time when I have time on my hands if Ive broken up with my original gf and if it doesnt work out with the new one for some reason) then I wont have the option of going down to Florida to see her and the friends I have down there (Im not from there originally so the only way I have to see the whole Florida thing is through her. If I had a wide circle of family and friends it would be easier I think but I dont as all the time Ive been up here, Ive still been living at least half my life back in Florida.
This is my last chance of sorting it out with the new girl and I even know that if I dont take the chance, Ill still be missing her and wishing I were with her and will resent the old gf for stopping me going for it.
ANy advice gratefully accepted!
