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It's a 30km/hour zone because there is a public park and school, and it's mandatory to go at this speed, but obviously rarely do drivers drive at this speed, it's so slow! Gosh, I still feel bad....
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thank you! I guess I feel this way cause it just happened, maybe in a year I'll look at it as something not so bad, there are way more bad stuff in life than this...still, I wish I could go back and decide to slow down and let the other car pass instead of accelarating! Oh well, you never stop learning do you?
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This morning, as I was driving to work, I got nothing more and nothing less than a speeding ticket! I was driving at 50 km/hour in a 30km/hour zone, and the police was hiding so that I never saw them. I was driving slowly, but the car next to me was going fast and wanted to pass me, so instead of decelarating, I decided to accelarate, dumb me! So obvioulsy they stopped us both, and we both got speeding tickets and a nice fine of $110.00 Now I feel bad like I did something really wrong. I've been driving for 2 years 1/2 and this is the first time I get a ticket. Has anyone has this happen to them? How did you feel afterwards? I want to pretend like it's ok, but can't stop feeling like I'm a bad person or something. I just feel awful!!!
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Indeed sexual attractiveness is a VERY important aspect of a love relationship, so I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do. I think you should try to bring up the subject very gently, and indirectly, so she doesn't feel threatened by it. You could tell her something like: "I was just thinking the night you put on this sexy dress, remember the one with spagehtti straps? You looked so yummy I wanted to eat you!" or something like that, and put on a big smile. Or if you shop together, and pass by a very sexy skirt, you can tell her: "oh my God, you'd look stunning in this skirt!" Get my idea? I think eventually she'll catch on, b/c all women love to hear positive stuff about them and that includes their body. When she finally puts on those sexy clothes and does her hair, puts make-up, whatever, ENCOURAGE HER to continue to do so....Good luck!
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Hi there, IMO, the only way you can be together in his country is through marriage. It's a serious commitment, but you have no other choice, especially that you've been waiting 2 long years! If he's not mature enough to marry you, then I suggest you end the relationship, as harsh as this might seem. Otherwise, you are "wasting" your time and his, b/c there is no future for you. You should talk to him about marriage as soon as possible, and see what he has to say. If he really loves you, even at his young age, he'll realize that's the only way and will ACT on it. If not, then he's being unfair and please end it and move on with your life. It's for your own good. Good luck!
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thank you melrich! My problem is that up until now, I NEVER really thought seriously about having a baby, and suddenly, I'm 33 and thinking that I don't have much time left to have one. Problem is, physically I'm up for it, but mentally NO. Yet, I have no choice, cause I'm getting older and don't want to have a baby too late (I actually want 2). I just wish I would be 25 again, so I would have more time to get mentally prepared. I'm sure what I'm feeling is normal, b/c a baby is such a BIG responsability, and also I want to be a good parent. But I think there's no getting out of this one, yikes!!! If I do want to have a baby, well, then, I have to go throught it! But I'll remember what you said: just relax and enjoy the whole experience, cause if I don't enjoy I'll make it worse. Thank you!
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thank you so much for your post, especially coming from a man. I guess I'm not still mentally prepared, and being 33 I don't have much time left. I just wish I would spend more time alone with my husband b/c I know how much having a baby changes your life. I know it's a lifelong responsability, a big one, and worst part is your stuck with the baby whether you want it or not! I know it will also bring a lot of joy, gosh, am I complicating this more than it is? Basically I don't think I'll ever be mentally prepared, but I have no choice, my biological clock is ticking and all I know for now is that I DO want to have children...but it has come so fast and I'm like "omg, already? can't it wait a little more?" and I guess the answer is NO.
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Good day all, Me and my husband are planning on having a baby in the next year or so...but first, I'd like to hear from the parents out there. What I'd like to know is how much does having a baby change your life as a couple? Did you have problems because the baby took so much of your time? What are the positive aspects for your couple of having a baby? What are the biggest problems? What is the best advice you can give someone like me? Basically, I want to make sure I've looked at all the aspects before jumping in the water so to speak. A baby is for life and cannot return it if I don't like it.
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wow, very insightful view there.... thx for posting, this is what the forum is about. Sharing our experiences.
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well, I just don't think there's anything wrong with asking and talking about exes, I think it actually helps in understanding the whole of a person, why should that be a taboo topic?
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Hi all I've been going out with my bf for a year and a half and all is going very well, except that for some time I've been dying to know about his ex-girlfriends!!! I mean, I'm sooo curious to know not so much who they are but how it was with them. Not that I'm jealous or anything like that, I just think that if I would know about that part in his life, it would make me understand him more, and how he got to be who he is now. All I know is that he had 2 serious relationships before me and I've tried in the past to inquire about them but he gives me very limited info and seems a little uneasy. So, the question is, should I try again and "sort of" bring up the topic, nothing threatening, or is that asking for trouble? Is it better if I find out through his friends and family? Please don't tell me "he's with you now, so you shouldn't care about them" b/c that doesn't help. thank you!
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for the record, I meant in general....obviously we cannot look at every single beautiful person and know if they're happy or not, it's such a personal matter. But, in general, I believe beauty does HELP in happiness, because how else do you explain the flock of ppl (especially women) that run to get all kinds of plastic surgery, and then come out and say: "oh, before I was ugly and I was miserable, but now I have an active social life and I am MORE confident in dating, at work, have tons of friends, etc" i mean, this didn't result out of their amazing personality, no, this is a direct result of THE WAY THEY NOW LOOK. If this wouldn't work, then ppl wouln't have surgeries, because the altering results (for the better) wouldn't exist. It's as simple as that. I just think that people that say that beauty has NOTHING to do with happiness most of all HOPE it's so, because then that would mean that happiness is unfairly given to such a tiny percentage of the population, especially when they did nothing to earn it. It is MUCH more comforting to think you have to EARN your happiness and WORK for it. But....I totally agree with STENDHAL.
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The what we like/love about ourselves thread...
mokajava replied to PRSOV's topic in Personal Growth
what I like about myself: 1- the way I look 2- having found the man of my life - I'm so grateful for that 3- being given the gift of laughter!! -
What do you like about yourself?
mokajava replied to neva_black_n_white's topic in Health: Body, Mind and Spirit
I'm lucky in that I was blessed with good looks, so I were really honest, I would say my looks. But more than that, is the fact that I laugh so easily. I love to laugh!! and ppl love me for that, cause laughing creates a nice mood. -
despite what she did to you in the past, you seem to still love her very much. The past is the past, you need to forgive her once and for all and move on. If you decide to stay with her, don't ever throw the "cheating" in her face. You seem to be very mature so make the best decision for you. You need to forgive and forget and hope for a better future. That's my advice.
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I agree that beauty doesn't equal happiness, BUT I've read many articles where it's been proven that good-looking ppl get special treatment, get jobs easily, promotions, even less time in jail, people give more attention to them, and so on and so on, so this in turn gives them confidence and self-worth, and as a result do better in life in general. So, having acquired confidence and higher self-esteem, even competence, arent' they happier in life? Is it because there is a downside to all of this?
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hi there, I think you're still very young to have children. You seem like a very wise and mature woman that thinks seriously about such an important decision, congratulations! I don't think there's a specific thing that will tell you if you're ready or not, it's life in general. In my case, I've always thought I'd like to have one at age 35, and until now, I still think the same (I'm 32). Listen to your heart, it will tell you when the time is right. Good luck!
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Hi there, I hope what you're going through is only temporary. I suggest you start with little things that motivate you, like going to the park with a friend, and build up from there. You'll see it's like a snowball. I think the hardest part is to start, the first step. But then, one thing leads to another. good luck!
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like, what type?
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There is a famous quote by Stendhal that says: "beauty is only the promise of happiness". So my question is, do you think (physically) beautiful people are happier? why or why not?
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do not worry about being short, I am 5'2" and although it bothered me before, now it doesn't. what's important is your body, being healthy, having the right curves and being proportionate.
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I think one look at Miss Universe or any other famous beauty pageant and you'll understand why men prefer beautiful women! I think it speaks for itself.
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Hi Zuchinni, I totally agree with you - he should have told you. He kept it a secret and probably thought he would never be caught. So having a discussion about it is important, tell him that he hurt you and got you confused as to his real intentions with the ex. But that's it, let it go. There's no point in continuing to drag this problem as neither you nor him can change the past. I know, you wish that he never did that, but he did. Eventually, your love for him will take over and you'll get over it. It's really just a matter of time. Basically you need to digest what happened. Good luck!
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wow!! So my bf seems to be the norm, not the exception hahahhaha ok, it's nice to know he's not faking!
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Dear You, You have a good life, don't complain. Everything is flowing so easy for you...and it seems that soon, very soon let's hope, things will get even better! Yep, the best is yet to come! Hang in there, it's only a matter of time... Yours truly, Your alter-ego