Past2Future
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I talked to the ex tonight. she seems optimistic. She keeps telling me that she doesnt know if she can make me happy, and thats whats holding her back right now. She said shes changed a lot she doesnt like to do pda, or cuddle, or anything really anymore. Her self esteem has gone way down hill and she has a lot on her shoulders with bills and such. We are long distance right now, but this girl has not left my mind for a year and a half. Is there anyway to show her thats It can work right now, and to take a risk with me? Thanks in advance ENOTALONE!
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O i have several. but the most recent one was this: I was talking to her on the phone cause she broke up with her bf (her second one after me) well, she strung me a long and made up with him the next night after sleeping with him. Heres the kicker. I told her I had been after her for a year after she broke up with me by her side trying to win her back ( i know no NC kicked me in the butt). She responded to that with, "Well if you asked me to marry you, that would of won me back." .... this is while she has had 2 boyfriends. shes a nutcase.
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Yep, most of us have been there/are going through it. It's possibly one of the worse feelings alive. I still get sick thinking about it.
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Hey, I'm not 20 yet, how bout the pre20 trend My story is a jerry springer type story, but similiar to yours. I never understood how someone could move on so fast either. Like you tretneo, I also suffer the consequences of being a nice genuine guy. I was so innocent before my first love, and now Im filled with hurt and pain (even after a breakup in january). I just hope one day I'll look at life like i did as a kid with such amazement and excitement. My days now are filled with heartache and hurt.
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I'm at a similiar spot. I have days like the ones your having. Im grateful i loved though. I wouldnt take that back for the world. If I never find a love as strong as that, at least once I had it, and I can say I loved.
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Off your rocker? absolutely not. I am not religious at all, and I prayed in my head, and went so far as to go to a church and pray. I tried everything, and its funny how in the end you realize how toxic they were for you anyway. You will see it one day. I know your going through intense heartache. These forums saved me a lot. The best thing you can do at this stage, is try to lways be out doing something and be around people. I am in college, so naturally (even with 0 self esteem) I went out to clubs and such and just got my mind off things. I still think about her everyday, but I'm at a point now where I think its just my ego and jealousy taking a punch at my gut. I know one thing that my first love taught me. Choose wisely who you want to fall in love with because of the heartache that can get involved in it. I wish you the best, and you are in my thoughts. I hope everything works out the way you want it to. Your interest will probally change over time, but hold your head high and smile. You never know whats on the next page of the book of life.
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Please help me get over my ex girlfriend
Past2Future replied to peg0r's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
This relationhip was sabotaged from the first breakup. It sounds like she took you back because she felt sorry for you over and over and over.....In order to get over her there is only one thing to do. Dont talk to her, look at her myspace/blogs/etc... delete her screen names, delete her number, and try to avoid her as best as possible. There is no sure "quick fix" way, but if you keep with that plan, over time it will just start to fade, and each day you will think of her less. If you aren't over your ex dont rush into a relationship. It wont work first of all, and it isnt fair to the girl. -
To have a love as strong as your first? My ex broke up with me a little over 7 months ago. I have had a girlfriend since then but did not fall in love with her at all. I was wondering can you actually fall in a deep love like you did the first time, or it hopeless. Thanks in advance!
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He's still the 1st and last thing on my mind
Past2Future replied to kittenmoomoo's topic in Breaking Up Advice
It goes away over time. I know everyones probally sick of hearing the "time heals all" but its true. Fortunately it will go by faster than you think, and before you know it you wont even shed a tear over them. Once you realize all the bad things they did, and how they are in your past now, it will go by faster. -
that works both ways too. When you dont contact her, you will eventually get over her completely (in a sense) and if she does come back, you might be happy where you are and deny her.
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Don't take that the wrong way. Myspace is probally a blessing. If she would do it online she would certainly do it in real life. It separates the weak from the strong. You deff want a strong girl that when she gets hit on, she says "I alreaydy have the man of my dreams"
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Confusing breakup... what is my ex thinking?! Advice or Opinions?
Past2Future replied to Big D's topic in Breaking Up Advice
Exactly. She wants to move on, but she wants you to be there by her side as she does, and not have you dating anyone else. As much as it hurt me (and still does) I'm pretty sure my ex doesnt give a * * * * anymore, and doesnt even think about me now that she has a new guy. But honestly, it has helped me move on. It is slowly but surely happening, and Im close to being over her. -
Myspace (in my opinion) is the reason for a lot of breakups. Nice and caring people would never go on dating sites but myspace is considored just a place to meet people and chat. It always turns out that someone gets hit on, and then they start talking, and then... you get the rest. I have personally known myself and several others get our hearts broken because of myspace.
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Ya, I understand that feeling. I want her life to go miserable to, and It has somewhat. I mean I know all the bad she did to me, and that helps, but then I happen to look at her myspace page which is covered with pics of her new boyfriend (which happens to be buff and actually ok looking) and how much she loves him, and dreams about him, and how finally she found the man of her dreams. I thought I was the man of her dreams! It hurts, and it hurts bad, but somehow im just gonna have to push through and make it out the other side.
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You deff need to see someone to put it to rest. My ex girlfriend had someone rape her at a young age, and she ended up very emotionally unstable. It caused many problems on her outlook. She thought all guys wanted was sex (which a lot of them do) but she would give it to them in exchange for hope that they would love her. I would advise a professional with this kind of matter.