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my ex is making me so confused...we broke up two mon ago and i started NC after a few days of the typical begging/pleading/ridiculousness. after a month and a half i called him once and we had a friendly conversation. i was going to leave it at that but he texted me about a week or two later with just "boo." then we didn't talk again. about another week or two later he starts iming me asking if i hate him and if we are friends and if im dating anyone. everyday after that he kept iming me. then he imd my best friend who he never talked to online while we were dating (he didn't really like her). then i went away for the weekend and he sent me texts. i just feel so confused. i was starting to get over him and now im pulled back into this web. i think he only wants to be friends but i am not positive. i am going to see him this friday at a friends bday party and i just dont know how to act. does anyone have any idea why he could be acting this way? please help with some insight/advice/anything!

this is a little off the topic...but another thing about this ex is that he has remained friends with ALL of his ex's but he isn't trying to remain friends with me which i find strange. he is the type who hates to be on bad terms with anyone, so i can't understand why he isn't trying to at least be friendly with me.

update...found out the ex had been at a picnic and was really drunk...well this whole thing just set me back a few weeks...next time i will know not to even respond

yea i don't understand why they do it...do they just want to make sure they are still on our minds? and why do they care if they are?

yea that sounds like him...he broke up w/ me bc we were just fighting too much and we were both starting to lose feelings bc of all the fighting

Well after my ex and I broke up I went into NC for about a month. At that point I called him we had a nice conversation and that was that. So last night after about a month and a half of being broken up and 2 weeks since that call he texts me "boo". That is it. It is something he used to do while we were dating to say hi sometimes. I didn't know what to do, so I waited two hours and texted him back "hey". I never got a response after that. Then today I called and left a message saying hi and what's up. What I don't get is why would he send the text and then never say anything else? What was his purpose? Has anything similiar to this happened to others?

actually i am just curious about people who have been in a similar situation and how that worked out...that is what I came on for

All my friends have already given me this same advice etc...what I am looking for is someone in a similiar situation and how it ended. If that is not you I appreciate your advice, but it's not what I'm looking for.

I have already realized all this stuff that everyone is saying, I would just like to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation and how it worked out for them.

the month was actually my idea not his, he said "we can talk before that" and i was the one trying to be all strong and saying "nope a month it is..."

I am so sad and I really hope someone can give me some advice. My bf and I had been together about 2 yrs when we broke up about a week ago (we are both 23). After about 1 yr and a half we had a fight and he got upset and we broke up for about 2 weeks, he saw me and we got back together right away. This time is different though...for the last two months things have been shaky and he would pull away and then be ok and it was so difficult. i started to get very clingy and it just pushed him away more. Finally last week everything came to a head and we decided to break up we fought/talked for a long time and he said he needed it. We both cried and he told me I had been his best relationship (I am his first longer than 6 mon) he said "let's take a break bc it's better than staying together and being unhappy or totally breaking up." I thought it was just a break so i went over to get some dvds and he basically seemed like he was done w/ things, he said I had lost myself and I was smothering him. I couldn't handle it but I said "ok I'll give you space, lets talk in a month" and I was really going to stick to it. About two days later I texted him and he was very cold, so I said "Fine if we are done forever I am coming to get my stuff." I went to get it and we fought and he was SO done with things and I stormed out. I didn't talk to him for three days after that then I broke and called him. He said there was no point in getting together bc it wouldn't change anything, but he would if I needed closure. I decided the next day it was a bad idea and I sent him a nice email and told him so. Now I don't know if it's too late to ever get things back. I started NC immediately after I sent the email, but has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Did you get your bf/gf back? Please help me I am so upset and distressed and I miss him terribly. I am not really looking for advice on how to heal/how either of us acted...just basically want to see some similar stories and what did/did not happen.