So my GF broke up with me earlier this week. We were in love, or so I thought, until she apparently met another more interesting fellow at her summer job.
We had been in a serious relationship since highschool. It would've been 4 years in October.
Last summer, however, she pulled some stunt very similar to this summer's where it ended in a breakup. The only difference was last year I tried desperately hard to get her back into my life. This included nightly calls, giving her romantic letters, running errands together, and actually going through with a trip to Hawaii which we had planned months earlier.
Maintaining contact last year seemed to do the trick as we were back together a month and a half later, happy as ever it seemed. She told me her experience made her realize that I was the only man for her.
Well apparently not.
This year she broke up with me similarly to last year where things were good until she started receiving attention from someone else. As you can imagine I felt like the biggest sucker in the world (the breakup actually finalized on the same day as last year, 4th of July -- her independence day you can call it).
But now I have moved to the point where I can't let her treat me like a doormat anymore. I feel like taking her back eventually, if she comes back, but I know I can't be as forgiving as last year or come next July 4 the same thing will occur.
Thus far I have deleted her phone number, blocked out her myspace and the new guy's myspace, taken down pictures, and avoided contact.
It took me a second time being a sucker to figure out No Contact is the only way to go in matters like these. There are really only two things that can develop: 1) She comes back, and 2) She doesn't. In neither scenario do I have a direct stake in it, so I may as well prepare to never see her again because it is quite possible I never will.
I'm still hurting, but I am feeling 99% better than during our first breakup last summer.
The Catch 22 here is her behavior is entirely predictable to the point of I know she'll be coming back, which is reassuring. On the flip side, though, I fear she'll never change her ways. The most depressing suggestion is that she isn't good for me and I need to move on, but whenever we're together I'm just so happy. She's a totally awesome girl, but I wish she could just get her head straight!