LilPixie

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling blue. In one way her engagement makes the end final - it will be easier for you to move on. I can't comprehend how anyone will leave an awesome human being like you. However - you deserve better! The door is fully closed now - time to start the rest of your life. I hope that this year brings you someone who loves and respects you for who you are - with all your beliefs.

I would. Through all the pain of his cheating and lying at the end of our relationship ...most of our 3 years were amazing. He is what he is....unfortunately and he can never change. I know that I would never take him back or even want to see him again. But I wouldn't give up all the good moments. They were real - at least for me

In 5 years I would like to have a child. I would love to be married and travelling with my job a lot. 2006 was the worst year for me. I hope that in 5 years I would be able to forget the nightmare and be really really happy.

When I separated with my ex I had a suspicion that he was cheating on me. One night he didn't come home. I kicked him out when he came back in the morning. As he was walking out of the door he opened a box with an engagement ring in it. He said "This is what you are missing out on - I got this for you". The next day I found pictures and e-mails and it turns out that he was cheating on me for sure. The kicker of the story is that he was already sleeping with this girl when he bought me the engagement ring. I will never know what the point of this ring was. Good times...funny stuff.

No matter how bad the relationship was - it still leaves a void in your life. I haven't talked to mu ex in 5 months - we've been apart for 6. I miss him today. I went to the movies with friends - it's just not the same. I got back to the empty house. Sigh.....I am really looking forward to the end of this year. It's been an alwful time for me and so many other people. Let's smile and try to make it through the next few weeks. Then if God is willing things will change. Love ya, guys. I am so happy I have other people to share with. Blessings to all of you. Merry Christmas!

Yeah...finding God after my break up was probably the reason that I am still alive. The pain is still there but I don't feel like I'm alone anymore. It's a good thing that your ex is moving on. At least it will unable you to move on. Fully closed doors feel easier to deal with than the once that are half open.

My ex also cheated on me. One day I found the e-mails and some pictures. In my case she was not good looking at all. I kicked him out. Now I see where you are coming from. If he cheats with someone, you can't help it but to compare. A lot of times the society puts value on a woman based on looks and on a man based on money. But looks mean nothing. You can go to the gym tomorrow and look ten times better than her in a month. If that's what you want - do it. But never, ever forget that a man who is capble of doing this to another human being is not worth your time or your love. You , my darling have so much value and worth, so much beauty. In another man's eyes you will exceed in beauty. He is not worth your tears. Hugs and kisses. Stop going to his page. Stop looking at her picture. You are all that matters now. You are all you've got.

Oh man, The christmas music in the malls. I actually started crying in the make-up section. The store was playing "Blue Christmas" and yeah....there I was. I just miss him so much lately. It's been 6 months. NC for 5. I feel like it's getting worst instead of better. Maybe after Christmas .....

I have been hit with a waive of sadness in the past week as well. I was doing great - it's been 5 months. Unfortunately the holidays bring all the memories back. After my divorce I started going to church - I wasn't religious before. It helps me a lot. I also started working on new projects. Helping other people helps too. I am not holding on to any hopes - he cheated so what's done is done. Someone told me the other day that I need to face the death of my marriage and mourn it accordingly. Only then I would be able to move on.... I don't know...I am not sure when and how it gets better. I am still waiting and mourning accordingly.

I am going on 5 months and I just went through a very rough patch. Between the 2nd and the 4th month I seemed to be cooping better. Then the 4th month came and it literally opened a door to a very physical pain. I felt that I couldn't breath for two weeks straight. Maybe I am in a period of facing reality now. Before it seemed very painful but yet unreal. I haven't had any contact with him since the break up. People say that it does get better after the 6th month. I am trying to make it there without loosing my mind completely. I am not sure what stage I am in though. I still feel like I am in all of them. Anger, depression, pain...maybe denial is missing now. But the road ahead looks a lot better from where I am standing now than the place I was in just few months ago. Keep the faith...

It's been almost 5 months since my ex and I broke up. NC for over 4 months. I still love him even though he cheated. I took myself away from the situation and respected my self enough to not contact him. However - I can't change my feeling towards him yet. I try and I try. No matter what he did to me, no matter how bad he hurt me - my feelings are real and they cannot be changed by his actions. I went to visit some friends in a different city this week. I am so depressed I don't even want to go out with them. When does that hell end? Why is this love still real for me? Thank God for this forum is all I have to say.

Well....after me and my husband broke up I moved in with his mom and dad. I KNOW I KNOW - weird. My husband cheeated on me, lied, took drugs, stole etc. I found out about most of it later after we broke up. His mom and dad are pastors in a church. After the break up they offered me a job in the town they live in. My ex lives in a different state. So I moved in with them and started the new job. They don't have any contact with him. They don't support his lifestyle, his decisions and most of all what he did to me. Obviouslly this type of relationship is not for everyone. But I don't have any family besides them. I didn't want to loose my husband and the only family I have all at the same time. Sometimes his name comes up and it feels a little painful - but it's rare. There are no pics of him or reminders of him in their house - they move a lot so he has never even been here. I have requested that IF they ever talk to him, my name is not mentioned. I don't want him to know anything about me. I have also requested that if they hear anything about him I don't want them to tell me. So....my advise is - do what feels right. My ex's parents are saints and I feel priviledged to have them as my family. Just because my ex is a looser doesn't mean that I can't be with his family. They all know him better than me and know the idiot that he is. Good luck.

Dear C. Today is a hard day- I miss you! You cheated and you lied. You destroyed me my dear husband. I don't ever want to see you again...but it hurts.... It's been 4 months since I saw your face or heard your voice. I wish I could just stop loving you. I wish I can keep the memories and all the good moments. But I can't. I have to try to erase the last 4 years. You took away my future and my past. You took away the only thing that ever mattered to me - YOU! I hope you miss me. I hope it hurts you. Maybe one day I would be able to thank you for all the things you did to drive me away from you. Maybe one day when I am married I will be able to look back at this break up and Thank God. One day.... Today I forgive you and I let you go forever. Me

Why are you letting him get away with cheating? I dumped my cheating husband right away. His drinking and religion have nothing to do with the fact that he cheated on you. You do not deserve to be cheated on!!! Number two: He will do it again. He didn't do it because he was going through stuff or because he was drunk. He did it because he is that kind of a man. He did it because he wanted to. You have so much more value and worth than that! And no - it is not ok to be cheated on. It is not ok to make excuses for him. It is not ok to be lied to. You will have to deal with it again in the future. So you have two options: Either deal with it now and get over the pain and the hurt and have an awesome future, or drag it out and suffer all the way through. And honey - if he cheats on you now when you are young and pretty - think about what he will do when you are 50? Just my opinion. What would Buddha do? Peace

My advise is to change your phone number. I tried turning my cell off as well for the first few weeks. My husband cheated on me and there is nothing in this world that he can say to make it better. If he called to apologize I would cry. If he called to tell me how he doesn't want to see me ever again I would cry. The result is exactly the same. So I changed my cell number after a month or two. I deleted his e-mail account and moved. It's been 4 months. I feel safe and protected. And I stopped crying.

WOW! You just made me realize that my ex not only took the dreams and the hopes that I had for the future but the past we shared. All the memories are too painful to look back at. I don't think that in this lifetime I would ever be able to look back to the good without remembering the pain that he caused. So all this years and all the amazing moments will forever be erased by the pain. The color of deception and lies. Very sad....We had a really good marriage up until the end. Then he lied and cheated and lied. I really hope that God will restore me. There HAS to be some justice in this world.

It seems to me that your insecurities are kicking in. You think that the reason you are not with anyone is because you are not good enough. And everything that your ex has ever said to you is suddenly appearing in your mind. Well - YOU ARE WRONG! You are beautiful, smart, amazing woman and you need to be just a little patient. Don't choose guys who are not even interested in you only so you can fill in the gap that your ex left. The guy that you are seeing - are you really into him or is it just that you feel like you NEED someone there? Don't lower your standards. Don't settle for just anyone who is willing to go out with you. You don't deserve that. You deserve a guy who is really interested in you. Otherwise your next relationship will end as bad as the last one. He is looking for someone who fits better with him - not someone who is better than you. That has nothing to do with your worth as a person. You really, truly don't need a man in order to be complete. Once you feel good about yourself - then you will get the man you deserve. So I suggest that you use this time to take care of yourself. The way you want someone to spoil you - spoil yourself. Love yourself - you are all you have. And really - be proud of all that you have done. Be proud that you had the strength to leave a guy who treats you so bad.

Song: Probably Wouldn't Be This Way LeAnn Rimes Lyrics : Got a date a week from Friday with the Preacher's son, Everybody says he's crazy, I'll have to see I finally moved to Jackson when the summer came, I won't have to pay that boy to rake my leaves I'm probably going on and on it seems I'm doing more of that these days (Chorus I probably wouldn't be this way I probably wouldn't hurt so bad I never pictured every minute without you in it, Oh you left so fast, Sometimes I see you standing there Sometimes it's like I'm losing touch Sometimes I feel I'm so lucky to have had the chance to love this much God give me moments grace Cause if I'd never seen your face I probably wouldn't be this way Momma says that I just shouldn't speak to you, Susan says that I should just move on, You oughta see the way these people look at me, When they see me 'round here talking to this stone, Everybody thinks I've lost my mind but I just take it day by day (Chorus I probably wouldn't be this way I probably wouldn't hurt so bad I never pictured every minute without you in it, Oh you left so fast, Sometimes I see you standing there Sometimes it's like I'm losing touch Sometimes I feel I'm so lucky to have had the chance to love this much God give me moments grace Cause if I'd nevber seen your face I probably wouldn't be this way I probably wouldn't be this way, I probably wouldn't hurt so bad, I never pictured every minute without you in it, Oh you left so fast, Sometimes I see you standing there, Sometimes I feel an angels touch Sometimes I feel that I'm so lucky to have had the chance to love this much God give me a moments grace Cause if I'd never see your face I probably woudln't be this way I probably wouldn't be this way Got a date a week from a Friday with the Preacher's son, Everybody says I'm crazy, guess I'll have to see

Don't cry to me If you loved me You would be here with me You want me Come find me Make up your mind Should I let you fall? Lose it all? So maybe you can remember yourself Can't keep believing We're only deceiving ourselves And I'm sick of the lie And you're too late Don't cry to me If you loved me You would be here with me You want me Come find me Make up your mind Couldn't take the blame Sick with shame Must be exhausting to lose your own game Selfishly hated No wonder you're jaded You can't play the victim this time And you're too late So don't cry to me If you loved me You would be here with me You want me Come find me Make up your mind You never call me when you're sober You only want it cause it's over It's over How could I have burned paradise? How could I - you were never mine So don't cry to me If you loved me You would be here with me Don't lie to me Just get your things I've made up your mind

Last night I also had a nightmare that my husband and his new girlfriend were together and laughing at me. I woke up in a very strong pain. Things that help me are: SHe is way way worst person then me - physically, intelectually and in any way. He deserves to be with her - he belongs to this trashy, alcohol and drug infused world. I am grateful that we don't have kids because I cannot imagine being bound to this scumbag for the rest of my life. It also helps to know that he will cheat and lie to her as well. And any woman that knows that she is sleeping with a married/attached man gets no respect at all and is heading for a bad bad karma. Same karma is heading towards your ex. God/The Universe never ever allows for deeds like this not to be punished. Be grateful you found out now, be grateful that you don't have an STD. Be grateful that you will get awesome karma - because you didn't do anything to deserve the cheating. You are in for an awesome life - they are heading to hell. So smile every time you think of them -they will suffer. And you darlin are worth SO MUCH MORE!!!! If he is a man who cheats he will cheat for the rest of his life. Be greatful he is gone. If he is sleeping good at night - you certainly deserve to sleep better.

Dear sweet, pretty, smart and kind girl, You allowed this man to step all over you. You allowed his lies and his cheating to cause you so much pain. Please look around- life is so much better without him He locked you in a world of lies and insecurities. He disrespected you and made you cry. All his insults are not worth even one tear from your pretty face. You need to get back on your feet and show him how much you are worth. You should never ever allow this man close to you again. All he can do is drag you down.You deserve a good life, a happy, healthy beautiful life. You should keep trusting and loving. He is never ever going to be loved the way you loved him. Just smile at your blessings and be very very grateful that he is no longer in your life. God is great - you are no longer bound to this person. You are free to love and be loved. Every time that you feel like you miss him just say Thank you Lord for allowing me to see who he really is. Thank you for releasing me from the pain and the lies.

Reason 1: He cheated Reason 2: He picked up chicks in FRONT OF ME Reason 3: He lied all the time Reason 4: Alcohol problem Reason 5: Drug problem Reason 6: He let his ex con friend insult me ( I am his wife) WHAT A LOOSER I MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!