samis

Just come to San Francisco. I swear these days Asian Man/Caucasian Woman pairings are almost equal to the opposite. Especially under thirty. That goes for Korean, Chinese and Indian men - usually second generation though.

If she was interested in you as a genuine friend -- and just a friend --, getting together to hang out wouldn't be so difficult. She might not be a direct person. It's easy to email or text message people without any real commitment. Do you just want to be friends? Or are you hoping something more? If it's the former and a friend wasn't being communicative with me - if she was a good/close friend I'd ask what's up. Are you putting more energy, thought, significance into the friendship than she is? If you want to hang out and she isn't interested, what does that say?

Hey, this sounds like a situation I was in a while back. It wasn't a coworker but a woman (both of us in our very late twenties) in a group/club that met every month for a couple years. My advice... ignore the other guy. Unless your friend explicitly says they're "going out", she's keeping her options open. The less she says about him to you, the better. As to whether that means she wants to date you in particular, the only way to know for sure is to ask her on a date. And you've already seen her a couple times outside the context of work. So, just ask her out on a Thursday or Friday night. How she responds will say more than all the analyzing in the world you will ever do.

Back when I used to go out to bars/clubs frequently, one of my friends was 6' 8'' and fit. I'm 5' 10''. Let's just say my tall friend got plenty of looks. An added bonus were the awestruck comments from some women : "Your friend's so tall..." This aint rocket science men.

Grand gestures can work on the right people at the right time. Caveat: Unless you make it hard on yourself. But from what was said, she aint interested. Sorry.

Yeah, I'd go with a pre-date call - especially when you've started dating someone. When you're older, life's busy and getting stood up on a Friday night plain ol' sucks for anyone. Though like someone said, be confident (i.e., "so we're on for 7. Yeah, Mediterranean over on so-and-so street, blah blah.") Think about it from her end also. "It's been a week since we made plans. Hasn't called. Are we really on? Shoot, should I call him? Don't want to sound desperate. How well do I really know this guy?" The added bonus - you give her the opportunity to break the date. Sounds counterintuitive but you'd be surprised how many people say yes when asked out but flake when it's time (without offering to reschedule.) Saved myself a couple bad/uninterested/awkward dates that way. Oh yeah, a couple days before the big night is what I do. Eases the entire: "Shoot I called Thursday evening for our date tonight. It's Friday afternoon - on a workday - and she hasn't called back. What gives." Remember, we all have lives, sleep nights and some of us work for a living. From an older person's viewpoint. Aren't into the whole IM, email/online 24 hours a day thing.