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So there's this girl I work with, I'm very interested in her but I'm not sure how to make that known because I never really liked someone like this before. I don't konw how to figure out if she's interested or not. PS- We're both lesbian, I'm not confused on if she's straight or not So I've been intersted in this girl for awhile. I imed her awhile back and we chatted for awhile. We've been working together more and all. I really enjoy talking to her and stuff, but I'd like to take things further... and that's what I attempted to do awhile back... She sent me a message about two months ago while I was at work that she had a dream about me the other night. So when I got home I asked what it was about and she said we were dating and were keeping it a secret for some reason and that I tried to kiss her. Being the giant pile of nervousness I am, I kinda laughed it off and all. Then I figured it was a sign she was interested, but I haven't done anything about that because I'm not sure. A few months have gone by and I went home for the holidays and now I'm back. We've been talking and stuff, hanging out with friends from work occasionally. She likes a straight girl which bugs the hell out of me- I'm afriad I might have gave her the wrong sign when she told me about that dream and made her think I'm not interested. I'm looking for advice, how do you know a fellow lesbian is into you in the first place? Secondly, what should I do as to not make a fool of myself, I don't want to flat out say it becuase I work with her and that would make it ackward. Thanks in advance

I was exactly the same way, never had any desire to be with guys... and I do hit a point where it disgusts me. I've had 1 intense female crush, and a couple other little ones. Those feelings sparked the whole idea I could be lesbian because I never felt feelings that intense for a guy...

So there's been this thought in my head for a long time that I'm a lesbian. It's something I ignored through high school. People always asked why I never dated guys, I just responded with, "I don't really want to right now." I never really put two and two together until I hit college. Everyone back home used to ask me if I was, I just said no, that was that. Now I'm jumping back and forth with the idea I am or I'm not. Part of me is attracted to women physcially and everything, but I'm scared to death of anything. The main reason I've thought I'm gay is my attraction to two women through highschool, they were the first times I had a crush, I never felt like that about a guy. I've always had an issue with intimacy, even with guys, maybe that's because it was guys and I never got off... Who knows. I'm nervous about how to get out there, I don't want to meet a girl and somehow realize I'm wrong and mess with her emotions. I don't want to do this and realize I'm wrong, then I just look flushy. I guess my general question is, how did you come out to yourself, was anyone else this unsure? I just need some advice or something to realize who I am...

I've had a best-friend for about 2 years now. Back in our hometown we were inseperable. Where there was smoke there was fire, where she was I was. We had fun doing the most unfun things. We became such close friends we decided to move up to college together... Then things went downhill So here I sit in a new town, the only friend I have is her until I start classes, but it's not like I want her around 100% of the time. So after about 3 weeks, we still had not hung out once, gone out exploring, she just went out or sat in her room etc. So I was like, "Okay, I suppose she wants her space." So I buzzed off, I started at a new job and hung out in my room and rented a lot of movies from Blockbuster for the next week. Then she starts being cold to me after a week. Dirty looks, cold statements, the whole shebang without directly confronting me (which she usually did). So at this point, I was infuriated, I did nothing. So at a point I sat her down once SHE had time and was like what's going on. "I don't want you on my * * * all the time, you're always around me." First of, I obviously wasn't and secondly, we live 5 feet from eachother (literally) what do you expect? I didn't say that. She goes on... I'm "clingy" and "needy" she doesn't feel like bothering with me anymore etc. Some pretty hurtful things. I'm still sitting there quiet, feeling like crap because she's making me sound like a bad friend, when I honestly did nothing. I keep listening. This is where it got bad. She said that someone asked her, "Why do you put up with her?" and then she continued to say, "I should be honored she even wants me around" Okay, insult to injury there... big time. I am 5 years younger than her, but it hadn't been an issue the entire year we were best friends. So between that, and treating me like a child, I'm fed up. I don't know what else to say to her. I've asked her several times if she would like to hang out. There's no more time. I just feel pushed out. She's distant and cold, she even admitted it, she's "like that in a new city" So where should I draw the line in this friendship, I'm a doormat, I let her walk all over me and I'm sick of it. Expressing any anger toward her just results in her going off on me, which kills me. I don't know what else I can do, especially when I live with her. I'm tired of talking because I'm always the one messing up What do I do next?

I have a bestfriend of two years, who I live with. I've always had a sort of crush on her, especially the past 4 months. I just disregarded the whole thing and let it go. Then the other night I came out to her that I'm fairly positive I'm a lesbian. She just smiled and said, "I know it. Everyone knows. Hell a lot of people think you're in love with me." I was shocked that was said, thinking to myself oh no, crap. But then she said, "It's okay I told them I'm not your type anyway" That's what gets me, did she expect me to say, "Yes you are my type." Anyone else in that situation, as far as my girlfriends go, would have said no way and been slightly uncomfortable. The whole conversation went so incredible well, and she looked at me like she doesn't normally look at me. It got me all back to square one with my feelings to her, and to think I was finally over it all... This is where my question comes in, where do you draw the line between friendliness and flirtation. She's bisexual. I never see her with chicks, but she does comment on them. We are very cuddly, more than I have been with anyother girlfriend. She will kiss me on the cheek, she will hold me from behind when we go to bed, she will play fight me, she will hug me, hold my hand. We were sitting on a blanket in a park watching a movie one night and she linked her arm in mine then commented that an older lady smiled at us and thought we were lesbians. She's "joked" around and said if we were to sleep together who would be the butch and who would be the femme" etc. All those thing, just crossed my mind after that night, and I'm sitting here wondering if she's trying to figure out if I'm interested in her or I'm just over thinking the whole situation. I've never been like this with a female friend before in my life. So, where do you draw the line?

I've posted before, about other things involving a friend of mine and all, but now I've hit a point where I'm questioning myself. I just moved cities, I've gone to a more liberal open community from a very conservative community. I've met a lot of homosexual people, straight people, basically every kind of person, and it has really opened my eyes. More so it opened up a Pandora's box regarding myself. Every since I can remember I've always labeled myself straight, that is until a year ago, when I met my best friend. I've developed strong feelings for her, but never told her, and don't see myself telling her because she's getting back with her ex-boyfriend and I'm pretty sure all the flirting she did with me was purely playful, but mislead me. In the process of this friendship however, I did come to terms that I was bisexual, at least. I've always thought about girls etc. I said I was straight, but I always knew a little something was different about me. I'm in college, I'm not shabby looking and I've been getting the guys, but never in my life have I felt a real connection with them like I have with a few women (other than my best friend there has been one other girl I think I might have fallen for) A guy never gave me butterflies in the stomach, a guy has never sexually aroused me enough. I've never hit an orgasm from a guy, maybe it's the guys. Who knows, fact of the matter is I've hit a point where I don't know if I'm bi, or in fact gay at all. Don't get me wrong, I find guys attractive and sometimes I look for some manly affection. But when it comes down to it, I'll click on the lesbian porn before I'll click on the straight. I'll have more of an emotional connection with a female then I have ever had with a male. Moving into a new city, I've met people, they've immediately thought I was a lesbian, not knowing me at all, just meeting me and reading me from that. Everyone else I've ever known in my life has been from that small town and we all grew up together, they just assumed me straight. I've been single for two years, I'm wondering why, I have no problem getting guys, I just never want them, they're never "good enough" I'm hitting the point where I'm wondering if I'm on the "other team" and need to come to terms with it. I'm not scared or anything, I just want some outside opinion and where better than here. I'm not going to take it up with my best-friend because what if I'm not, then I just look fickle. I want to be sure myself before I say anything to anyone close to me, I just need outside opinions for some insight.

I'd love to do that, but I don't know if I'll have the balls... I don't want to ruin the friendship because she's the first truly best friend I have ever had and I don't want to lose that either. Maybe next time we're a little under the influence (I know that sounds bad) I'll have the liquid courage to make a move... if it doesn't work out, I have an alilbi... if it works out, then hey... all the better huh? Thanks for the advice

I've posted before on this topic, I waited out after her boyfriend was out of the picture, and now I'm more confused then I was from the get-go. I'll start from the beginning, I'm in love with my best friend. I have been for months. Maybe it's not love, I don't know, I've never been there, but I feel for her like I've never felt for anyone else before. She's bi, I'm bi. We both know that and are very open about our sexuality. I just want a chance with her. She had a boyfriend, so I never gave it much more thought than a fantasy, then he was out of the picture about a month ago, now it's all I can think of. She's sleeping with other guys, going out with other guys, and sacraficing sleeping to go out and drink when she has to work early the next morning. Given she's new to the single world, but it kills me to realize how she's acting, it's just seems irresponsible in a sense, and as bad as I know it sounds, I'm jealous, very jealous. We have a great friendship, we are very close. She holds me when we go to bed at eachother's house, we hold hands on occasion, a few times she's kissed me on the cheek. We joke about being lesbians, half the people think we are, we joke about "sleeping together", the irony of the jokes is I wish it was all true. While we were sleeping I've found her to be feeling me up while she was asleep, or kiss me and I just push her away, as much as I want it. We will be sitting on the couch and just starting at eachother and I see such a connection I just want to hold her chin and kiss her, I'm that close, but I don't have the courage and end up just looking away We're moving in together in 2 weeks for college and I don't want to keep this from her anymore, it's killing me inside. I don't want to ruin the friendship at the same time, I want her as a friend, she's the best friend I've ever had, but I want her just as much. What do I do? Do I get over it, and how? Do I tell her?

We have had conversations about our sexuality, we're really open to eachother about everything. Thing is we joke about hooking up, wanting to sleep with each other, etc. all the time... I just need to think of a way to make her realize I'm really not joking around this time...

As of today she has broken up her boyfriend. Given, I know I need to give her time... But out of curiosity, how do I find out if she's interested or not, without bluntly coming out and saying it (I don't want to risk the embarrassment)

I've had this best friend, a girl of course, for almost two years. We're somewhat inseperable. We spend every moment together when we're not working, we cuddle, we occasionally hold hands, etc. We closer then I have ever been to any other girl before... We're so close friends and complete strangers comment that we're lesbians, but we do nothing but just laugh it off... For the past few months I've found myself growing closer to her, not in a friendship way, but in the way of a crush. I've recently come to terms that I'm bisexual, I had been dying to tell her for months, then I finally did yesterday. We took one of our aimless car rides (to Miami) so we had a lot of time for those good old highway talks. We launched into a conversation regarding her current boyfriend. She told me how she was planning to break it off with him because she's not happy, the sex is short, and she's left to do the job on her own... So I added my advice and all and the conversation led into sex. Now I knew she was bisexual before this relationship, I didn't know if that stopped or not so I went ahead and asked her, she said, "I don't care what people say once you're really bi, you're always bi. I haven't hooked up with a chick in awhile because of this relationship." So then I realized it would be alright to go ahead and tell her, she wasn't shocked or anything she just knew "I was keeping something from her..." So we continued our aimless drive stuck in rush hour traffic and talked about our bisexual experiences. Trust me, that got my excited, and now I'm even more hopeful then I was that something could become of our relationship. I'm absolutly crazy about her, her eyes, her body, her personality, I honestly think I've fallen in love with the person she is.... but I didn't go as far as to tell her that... We kept talking and she was saying how she hasn't had sex with a girl in "soooo long" not sounding like she didn't want to. We were sitting at a rest stop and out of the blue she said, "So what if we were to get together who would be the butch and who would be the femme?" So now I know that she's breaking it off with her boyfriend that there might be a chance for me, or just some wishful thinking at least... My question all of you is, do you think she wants me. We have a much closer relationship then most friends, she will turn around and stare at me in the eyes, then I always find her going to my mouth, we stare at eachother for what seems like minutes before she turns her head and comments on something else. We cuddle on the couch and as we fall asleep, we will hold hands occasional, swap massages. I just feel such an incredible strong connection to her and I wonder if it's just me lusting for her, or if anyone else thinks it's really there? So out of my aimless rambling (in hopes of getting you guys to fully grasp what's going in my head, sorry it's so long) I want to know your opinions, I'm dying to make a move, and now that I know she's open to hooking up with girls, I'm wondering if I should go for it, and if I should how to go about that... or if she's even attracted to me (although that day she commented on how beautiful I looked) Please and thank you oh so much, I really need the help...