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  1. summerday
    I'm an asian girl, all my previous relationships were with asian guys, I just recently started going out with one or two white males. I guess everyone is different. I have some asian girlfriends want to date whites (or other races), but there are others wants to date asians only.....
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    I'm very sorry to hear your story, but I think you made a very smart decision. I'm going thru the same thing with one of my friend too. He is a wonderful guy, helped me alot during my difficult time, and expressed his feelings for me a few times..... I know he would be a great bf and husband...... But I know FOR SURE that I don't love him, thereforeeee I have to let him go. There is nothing you can do to change her mind if she loves another guy. Right now, the best thing you can do is live your own life. She knows you are interested, if she feels the same, she will come to you.
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    Littlesensitive, i'm curious to know if you have moved close to your ex? Do u still want to move? Are u happy w/ your decision? Wish u the best
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    I had an ex who got married after we broken up, and forwarded me junk mails once a month for 6 months. To me, it was his way of telling me that he was still alive and wished I still miss him. I was so upset everytime i got one. I finally wrote him a email asked him to stop, I never heard from him again. I moved on eventally, but it took long time.
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    I don't think you need tell someone that their bridge is burnt. You show them with your action, ignoring them, be happy and finding a better man. sooner or later, they will realize that they can't have/hurt you anymore. Sometimes when we are so angry, we say things that we don't mean, we make promises that we can't keep, only regrate it later. When love is gone, we should still try to keep our dignity, even that is very hard to do.
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    1. exercising. I used go to gym 2 times a week. Nowaday, I run twice a week at park and work out at gym once a week. I don't worry about my belly fat anymore, because there is none 2. dancing. I go to clubs w/ gfs at least once a week, and I'm talking ball room dancing class. 3. chatting on the phone w/ friends every night 4. visit link removed 5. going out on dates I enjoy my life so much better, but still alot of down time. Keeping busy helps take my mind off of things temporarily, but only time heals.
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    wow, i'm so happy for you. wish one day i'll get there too
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    great storys! The turning pt of my first love was finding out he was getting married 6 months after we broke up. that was a 2 1/2 years relationship, took more than a year to get over. Then I had this 7 months relationship, didn't know he was married. once i found out, i couldn't run away faster, the pain still lasted for a few months. my third relationship was my last one, lasted 2 1/2 yrs, ended 6 months ago, still i'm waiting for the turning point
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    thanks, kiki how long it took you to get this point? I don't think you are pathetic. You can't judge a relationship by it's length, once you invest your emotion and time into one person, it's hard not to get hurt I had good and bad days. I think exactly like you during the good days, but then there are bad days like last night, when i finally called him after long time of nc and feel the wound is fresh again.
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    have you thought about going to therapy? when i've felt stagnant it's been a great help to me. sometimes there's only so much you can do for yourself, only so much you can see from inside your own head. Is therapy really going to help? I'm willing to try anything. As much as I apppreciate how much this forum has helped me, sometimes I doubt if or how we should take other people's advice. For example, now I wish I don't follow NC rules because first, i maybe doing well in 2-3 months, but i always end up break them, so in a way i suppressed my emotions and delay the healing. secondly, I wonder what would happen if i did respond to his emails before, most likely it won't change the situation, but maybe there is still a chance it would, and that is better than nothing. Am i being pathetic? i really hate myself for being so weak
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    Jules, My ex has never had courage of telling me it was really over neither. I'm like you, I prefer to hear him saying that, so i don't keep waiting. We broke up a few times before, and everyone time I had to force him to tell me it was over, otherwise he would just keep me think we still have hope. Last night, we talked again. I asked him why he did that. He told me it was hard for him to turn me down because how special i am (LOL), and he just wished by not saying or doing anything to me, I would eventally get the sign and leave. was he being honest or he just wanted keep me around for him ego? I don't know. I guess this is something guys do universally.
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    I do take care myself well, physically. But emotionally, i feel there is a void needs to be filled. My parents want me to settle down, i want to settle down too, it's the only puzzle that's missing from my life.
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    My ex and me broke up 6 months ago, we had very limited contact. I know what I shoud do, don't contact him and move on. I tried everything that people tell me to. I go out w/ friends like crazy, I meet new guys and go on dates, I pick up some new hobbies, etc...... I am sooo desperately want to forget about him, I know he is BAD news for me. But I still have hope we will be back together one day, I feel so lonly and miss him so much every night come back home. I finally called him tonight, only find out that he is dating another girl (not serious yet), and I was there to persude him taking me back. I didn't beg, as he was still very caring toward me. But I feel ashamed of what I did. 6 months i still can't get over him, is there any hope that I will ever get over this guy? What else I should do? any secrete methods out there? Do i have to fall in love with another person in order to forget him? Please tell me, i'm willing to do anything.
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    Thanks for you guys advice. Mousty, I don't feel "I must write" to him. As matter of fact, the more i think about this issue, the more I feel I shouldn't write to him anymore. Yes, the mature thing to do will be send a simple card and forget about him. But I am tired of trying to make things right. I feel contact him again will make him think i'm still available. I've followed this forum for a few months. Many times, I see the same storys repeating: 2 person breaks up, one wants save the relationship more than the other. By the time other person realize his/her mistakes and wants make up. It's already too late. unfortunally, my love story would probably have the same ending anyone knows how the avoid the fate?
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