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confused25

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  1. I don't want to sound to pessimistic but if you're having doubts already then I would say that LDR is probably not for you. I went through the same thing a couple of years ago with my ex-bf and I ended up breaking up with him (we lived 6 hours apart). Maintaining a LDR is serious hardwork and not to mention that it can be a drain on your bank account if you are planning on visiting each other often.

  2. If you really think it will make you feel better about it, then I'd say go for it! I had the same dilemma as you a couple of months ago when my ex broke up with me out of the blue. I was so shocked that I didn't get a chance to say everything I wanted to say that night so I decided to send him an email. And you know what, it made me feel a lot better afterwards because I was able to get everything off my chest and I felt like that was MY closure. Just make sure your letter sounds calm, composed and professional, and not pathetic, sappy or angry. Because the last thing you want to do is make yourself look like a bitter and psychotic ex . . .

  3. I want to make my arms look more lean and toned. To get your arms like that I heard that you should stick with lighter weights with more reps. I started doing some light lifting about two years and the frequency is off and on. I had a trainer for about a year during that period but got rid of him once our contract was up. I noticed that my arms feel more muscular than before, but I also noticed that they look "bulkier" than before which is what I don't want. I don't think the weights I lift are too heavy, so I don't understand why my arms are getting so bulky. What is a good weight range for the reps and how often should you be lifting in order to achieve the toned look??

  4. I was in some what of a similar situation as you. My ex broke up with me out of the blue back in Nov. and we kepted limited contact until new years when he asked if we can get back together. I was scared that he's going to hurt me again so I told him that I can't trust him. Although we never "officially" got back together, we still hung out and did the same exact things that we did before. After about a month I decided that I'm ready to get back with him and I had a talk with him. This time, HE was the hesitant one. He told me that he had gotten too "comfortable" with our current status that he'd rather just stay the way we were. That to me, meant that he wanted to have the benefits of being in a relationship, but without the responsibility. And he even admitted to me that he was not sure if he's ready to commit to me 100%. So that was the breaking point for me and I had to end things in order to look out for myself. I can't be with someone who can't decide on whether or not they want to be with me, I don't have time for that. Maybe you'll have better luck than me. But I would advice you to just give her time, let her try to figure things out while you still keep on the lookout for other potentials.

  5. I think that if she really is interested in you, that she would've said "yes" to you already the first time you asked her out. If I were you I'd ask her again and if she still doesn't give you a definite answer then I'd say it's time to move on.

  6. So I've just passed the 2 year mark at my current company. I got great reviews from my manager and received a good raise, about 8%. My current position is probably what you consider a "junior" engineer. My goal for next year is to get promoted maybe to a senior engineer, given that I will have already worked 3 years at the company. I've been meaning to ask my manager about the advancement opportunities available for my current position but I'm not sure how to bring it up. I'm trying to bring it up in a way that it wouldn't sound like I'm going over my head with it. Any advice??

  7. Ok, I've made the biggest mistake of my life by sleeping with my ex when we are not even back together. Actually, a month ago HE was the one who pleaded with me to get back with him, but I told him no at the time because I was scared that he'd break my heart again. So we agreed to take things slow by just "hanging out" and see how it goes. So that went on for a month and finally I decided that I am ready to give it 100% and get back with him. But this time, he was the one being hesitant about it because he had gotten so "comfortable" with our current status. So I asked him point blank if he still loves me or not . . . and guess what he told me? He said "I really care deeply about you and have really strong feelings towards you, but I can't say that until I can be 100% sure." What the heck? Before we broke up he used to tell me he loves me all the time! How can he tell me he wants to get back with me and can't admit to me that he loves me?? I feel so USED!! It's my own fault for using me as a doormat and letting him step all over me. I had thought that this was actually going somewhere. Needless to say, after he said that to me, I walked out of the door. I still feel so mad at myself over the whole thing though . . .

  8. Yeah I think it's pretty normal to feel paranoid about the situation. If I were you I'd prolly feel uneasy about it too. I think inviting them over for dinner and hang out as a group is a good idea. Maybe you'll start to like him once you get to know him better.

  9. I know a couple of my girlfriends have they mentioned that the first thing they notice is their shoes, but I've never heard of watches. For me, I think I would prolly notice his physical features first rather than clothing, ex. his eyes, smile, etc. Clothing is secondary but it plays an important role too. And I agree with the above poster that yes, tight clothing (jeans and top) would be a major turnoff . . .

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