therookie

These 2 girls like me, I know it. They're both best friends in school... The problem is I believe they BOTH like me, but one likes me a lot more. The one who likes me a lot is quiet (let's call her Michelle), and kind of clams up when I try to talk to her. The other one I usually talk to more, (at least I try too) but for some odd reason she's been kinda avoiding me lately. Today was the real kicker though, I was out talking to her dad in the school parking lot. When she approached the vehicle she kinda looked around the side and saw me standing there talking to her dad. I walked to the back of the vehicle and she was putting her books in the back. She wouldn't look at me and didn't answer my questions. I asked her if she was alright and she said she was fine. Just then the girl who likes me a lot came walking by and saw us 2 standing there. BOY! She just kinda gave a weird look and just kept on walkin, didn't even bother to look at me or nothing! Do you think this girl realizes that her friend really likes me, and she's avoiding me because of that?

Yes, I do have a suggestion. Ask your doctor to take you off the Paxil and to put you on Wellbutrin. This drug has less sexual side effects. WOW! 150 mg is a lot to me! You should talk to your doctor about this dose....

Do stares or glances mean anything? I catch this girl looking at me, and when I look back at her, she looks away. This happens often....Why??? I feel this girl likes me, but is she to shy?

Then why the constant eye contact? I believe you like him and are attracted to him more than you think, but for some reason you're cautious and hesitant. (sub-consciously, that is!) Why? Only you can answer that...

Maybe I am to friendly...I've always treated others with respect and friendliness, I guess that's how I want to be treated. What could ever make these girls think that, I don't know. Maybe I was a little overbearing wanting to be included in their little group, and maybe they didn't like that. The odd thing though is that one of them is ALWAYS staring at me...and when she sees me look back at her, she turns away quickly. ??????

Ladies, Perhaps you can help me! THese girls I know are constantly avoiding me, and whisper back and forth about me. Now I'm not conceited, but I'm a fairly attractive male..... When my friend confronted these ladies and asked them why, their reply was" "He's a little to friendly!" Give me a break! I've NEVER made any unwarranted sexual advances or comments to either one of them, EVER! I guess that's what I get for being a NICE guy to people! Right????

Do girls find it easier to talk to men they have no interest in, then men they have a CRUSH on? These girls like me, (I KNOW IT), but when I'm near them or within talking range, they clam up, and seem very quiet. Is it because their nervous, shy, or what?

I believe this girl does like me though...I hate to give up, is there any chance in the long run, maybe?

There's this beautiful girl I'd love to ask out, but at this time I'm trying to get out of a current relationship. This girl is 18, and she's beautiful! The problem is: She has no interests in men, boys or dating! When her friends ask her to go out and party, she'd rather stay at home and read a book. She never went to the school proms, and when her mother teased her about having "love notes" in her purse, she says she doesn't have any! I've never met a girl like this before! I guess my real question is, why? Is she just anti-social, or, immature and shy?

That's some excellent advice chai714! I've done that where I've held off saying hi at all, and it seemed the next time she saw me at work she would be a "little" more conversational. I think she's also very cautious also...She probably likes the attention, but has a difficult time on the giving end...

I really like this 18 year old girl who will be 19 shortly. I'm a few years older than her. My opinion is that she is very "inexperienced" with men and thereforeeee shy. To tell you the truth, I've never seen anyone like that before! I know she likes me as she stares at me when I work, (were co-workers) then looks away real quick when she sees me glance at her. Her mother said she doesn't go to the school proms, and when her friends call to see if she wants to party, she would rather stay home and read a book. She really won't talk to me that much, but she talks to ALL the other female coworkers a lot. How can I deal with this situation? Is she uncomfortable?

Sorry...I disagree! There are girls who will do the above to impress boys they like!

Hi! I'll try to make this as short as possible... I work part-time at a group home doing maintenance. There's this girl who works there who I really like, but she's 10 years younger than me, (she's 18). I've been there about a year. I've never asked her out because of the age difference, (though I've wanted too!) I know she likes me, I believe. She doesn't talk much to me, but does a lot to the residents and her fellow female emplyees. She might say a couple sentences to me, but that's about it. Being the nice guy I am, her graduation came up, and I gave her card, along with $50. When I called the group home the next day, her mother answered, (her mother works there too!) and she said that Samantha was excited and said thank-you very much! When I saw her a couple days later at work, she thanked me for the card. Things were going good for awhile, she would talk to me a little more, say "Bye" when I was leaving, etc... I just got back from a 2 week vacation, and when I saw her this past Tuesday, I said "HI!, nice to see you, I missed you!" She just nodded her head a little, with no remark. She then got a phone call, and ALL i heard her say at first was, "What, are you just being nosy?" (I think she was talking with her mother about us!) She then went downstairs to continue to talk on the phone!! On Wednesday, I stopped by for work again, and she didn't even talk to me! She talked to veryone but me, so I just did my work. When 8 p.m. came, her assistant who she chats with (she's in her 60's!) left for the day. The residents went to bed, so it was just me and her. I sat in the front room on the couch, repairing a table. She sat in the kitchen, facing the room I was in, and read a book at a counter. We didn't speak! She started to slouch in her chair, (no eye contact, no talking!) then the next thing I knew, she was gone from the room. I completed my job, when to clean up, then went to look for the vaccuum. I saw her sitting on the couch in the front room, by herself, just blankley staring. She didn't look at me, or say anything. I gathered my tools together, and left. Just yesterday I saw her and asked if she was ok. She said, Yeah, just doin my paperwork!" She never really talked to me, so I went about my work. I saw her in the kitchen sitting at the counter doing some paperwork, so I thought I'd just go over and give her a small affectionate squeeze on her shoulders with my hands. She said, "Don't touch me!!!". I was embarrased and dumbfounded. I gathered up my tools and left!!! What did I do wrong? Why do I feel so awful? Should I just ignore her, or perhaps avoid her altogether? I really like her, ALOT! Where did I go wrong?

It couldn't be said any better! I agree with the above completely!

I get so sick of hearing this! People fussing over age! If Joe Blow is 40, and he wants to go out with a girl 20, what's wrong with that? I've seen people gasp and say that's not right. If you really LOVE someone, should age matter? Any thoughts?

I can sympathize with your story! I know a girl who does the same exact thing! She stared me down, left and right, and I usually caught her staring at me. I knew she liked me! I talked with her at lunch, (I really sat next to a friend of mine and that girl! She didn't talk to me to much, but she did say hi. She looked and acted nervous. Then she started with the tough act routine! I told her she would have to come see me over the summer, and if she didn't, I'd be at her house! She then told me she'd call the cops! Kinda pissed me off, but for some reason she was trying to look cool in front of her friends!) Anyhow, after that I ignored her. She did the same thing to me. Go figure! Maybe she wanted me to notice that I was ignoring her. Why, I have no idea! I know she likes me, I just got this feeling. She still looks at me! Why are girls like that?

Thanks. So basically you're telling me these girls are just shy? Why the nervousness? (Yes, I am good looking, but I don't flaunt it!)

At school, there's a group of girls who always whisper, giggle, run to each other, etc.., whenever I walk into the room. I'm a very good looking male, however, they avoid me, and if I try to talk to them they get nervous, and move on real quick. One of the girls I like alot, and she constantly stares at me. When I see her walking accross the parking lot I always wave to her, and sometimes she waves back, (very discreetly, or quickly, I might add!) What have I done wrong? I've done nothing I believe to offend these girls! I'd love to talk to them. Please help!