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I posted an updated picture of my baby. He looks so much like my first son. But I guess babies tend to look alike. I cant believe it that I will be able to hold him in my arms soon. I went through so much and he is my little reward.

Is he being mean and blaming you for it. Did you really want it to happen? It takes brave women to want to get pregnant, pregnancy and bringing up a child is a big life changing thing I dont think I could ever have the courage to say ok I want to take on the challenge. For me in both cases it just happened and I have to deal with it. I know its not going to be easy for me, but I also know this child will bring lots of joy in my life just like my older son does. I believe that good communication between the parents is very important. And it takes responsible people to be able to do that. Looking at other single moms that I know, it seems that none of them have a good word to say about the childrens fathers. All I hear is constant nagging about them and it doesnt seem to matter if the child is present or not. All i believe they are doing is showing their children hate. I used to also say, if it wasnt for him I wouldnt have my son that I love more then anything. And till today when we talk I always say thank you for giving me the best gift ever. He laughs. I know with my second child it will be the same way. To answer your question, I think I am done with him, because I have someone else that I have been more into for a longer time. Also I always kept in mind how little my first sons father means to me but how much my son means to me.

I thank myself everyday that I didnt have the strength to go through the abortion. Everytime I feel my baby move, its like hearing him say "Thank you Mommy for not killing me"

I never wanted him to leave his wife for me. What do i need to wash his socks for and iron his shirts. "Be more carefull", I thought I was being careful. I thought he would be more careful also. I will never understand why he did what he did.

Tell him not to forget to send a post card from the Domincan Republic. My story is very similar to yours and abortion is also not something I could live with. You also have a child already so you know how important the child becomes in your life. My son means the world to me and my baby will also.

It has been a while since I have posted. Currently I am 23 weeks pregnant, my baby is doing well. The heavy bleeding I encountered several times was due to my placenta abrupting. I am still at risk of of it detaching completely before term but everyday the chance of my babies survival is grater. The doctor at my last visit said though that my chances are good and the baby is developing very well. Since I got pregnant my ex boyfriend that I broke up just before I had this affair has been contacting me. I was ingnoring his phone calls and emails, because I just didnt know what to tell him. Finally one evening I wrote him back telling him that I am pregnatnt. I honestly didnt await a response but he called me early next morning. I told him the entire story, he suggested for me to have an abortion and even offered to come down to town to help me with that. I told him though that I could never kill my baby. His response amazed me he said he wished that we never parted and that he will always be there for me and my children even if we just stay friends. I couldnt believe his reaction, maybe I didnt believe that there were still good men out there. My feelings for him are stronger then ever, he is a great man that I appreciated in the past but know he is even more then that. He is a true man and his love is so strong for me, that even the fact that I am carrying another mans child is not going to break it. I feel bad that I ever got myself into this affair with a married man, but now I know the only reason I did was to forget my ex boyfriend. I also wondered why I got pregnant and why all of this happened to me, but I am starting to believe that there is a reason for everything. I have also talked to the father of my baby. He doesnt want to fight with me anymore, and said that if I prove to him that this baby is his he will give support for this child but it will be reluctantly. Words like this just blow me away, I trully do not want this man to have anything to do with my baby. All he wanted for this child was death and still does. When I told him about the complications he was happy and is hoping I will still loose this baby. I really do not know what kind of a man he is.

I was having sushi with my friend from work. He was sitting next to us alone so we started talking. We exchanged business cards. At that time I didn't have anything on my mind, so I wasnt even looking to see if he had a wedding ring. The second time we met up though, he honestly stated that he was married. I liked the honesty, most men lie, he didnt.

Now I am 17 weeks. My baby is doing well as I saw on a ultrasound a few days ago. When it comes to me I am doing worse then ever, besides the fact that my babies father is acting like a monster it just seems like nothing else is going well in my life. It seems like I am in a stage of hoplessness, why is it impacting me so hard right now, hormones should be leveling themselves out by now and not kicking in. Last night I had a second episode of heavy bleeding, it happened to me also two weeks ago and the doctors couldnt figure out what it was caused by. I am just so worried about loosing this baby, I have gone through such an emotional war for his life that it would be hearbreaking for me if I lost him now.

I so agree with this statement. I had my first child when I was 24 just fresh out of college. I thought it was the end of the world when I found out that I was going to be a single mother when I was 5 months pregnant. Currently I am almost 30, have a good career, house and comfortable life. But most important I have a wonderful son, that I love more then anything. Currently I am 15 weeks pregnant with my second child, the father does not want anything to do with it. Its hard, but I know I can do it, I think the hardest part of all is the betrayal. You can read my story under

I wouldnt tell him. Make him suffer and wonder. He put you through lots of pain, why should you ease his. I feel you did it to get him back, but was he worth it. How are you feeling after this.

How are things coming along with your pregnancy. Did he overcome the fear yet?

I forgot to add that in the past he has told me that he wants me to tell his wife, but I never took him seriously. Why would he want me to do that?

I have been emailing the father of my baby that I really want to do this without any hate and that I will protect his interest. I really dont have a desire for his wife to know, but he he is not responding to me and it seems like he wants me to go over the edge. Is it possible that maybe he wants me to tell his wife so he doesnt have to? Any opinions?

Currently I am 13 weeks. He is still insiting on the abortion. I am so discusted by this man, I feel that even when the baby is born he is going to want it dead. I am finally realizing that what all of you have written me is true. I will be honest, for sometime I hoped that you are all wrong. But its true he wore one mask infront of his wife and another one infront of me. Ofcourse STUPID "I", thought that with me he was honest. I went to hawaii for a long weekend hoping it would help me forget, but it made me realize more that for a while I will not be dating other people, I will just be alone getting fat. But I know in the long run it will be worth it, just looking in the childs eyes thinking of if it wasnt for me this child would get no chance to prove itself in life.

I am clean, I was clean before I got to this relationship and I also tested myself when I got pregnant. Still clean. Honestly if I was married, I would prefer for my husband to have a relationship with one clean woman then multiple one night standers, like he did before he met me. He can not achieve orgazm with a condom, so she should know that if he is cheating he is not using one. If a wife is refusing or limiting to have sex with her husband, she should know he is going to look for it somewhere else. This is why I dont feel guilty, if it wasnt me it would have been someone else.