Misschris1031

I think it is redundant to talk every day. My BF and I used to talk everyday but as the months progressed we started talking every few days..it varies. It makes it better to let some time pass in between so you have something to talk about. It is also a good test to see how clingy your partner will be. If they cannot handle going two days without talking to you.. I don't think that is a good sign. You have to have complete trust is that person and also know that an LDR means that each of you have your own independent lives and then you have your time together. It is impossible to include every mundane detail of your life into a conversation. We just stick with the important stuff. It is about including that person in as much of your life as you can. Try taking a couple days off inbetween talks.. it really makes a difference.

Help anyone?? Do you have someone in the army or going to boot camp? Any insight would really make me feel better thank you

LDR's work! I do not care what anyone else says.. I have only had 2 serious relationships in my life and both were long distance (started as).. It is not like I plan who I fall in love with so I do not prefer it. I do not choose who I fall in love with. That is another important part. Keep it casual until you know you are in love, otherwise it is not worth the heart ache. Cause it does suck some of the time. It is totally dependent on the couple and how committed they are to each other. LDR is the same as any other relationship. Let me warn you that you will get a lot of flack from everyone, all of the time. Especially guys that want to date you.. it is total crap. Also too, LDR are not for needy or dependent people. If you are the type of girl with no friends, career and life of your own, that is always concerned with being with your BF 24-7 ( not saying that you are but some girls are like that), then do not get into a LDR. Do not get into one if you are easily jealous or insecure ( I mean abnormally) All of these things do not work for LDR. That is a little advice for you. I had a few guys before I met my current Beau ( lives 1 1/2 hours away) that were long distance guys (one I met on the internet and talked to for 4 months before he told me that LDR don't work.. jerk!). All of them seemed interested but eventually the relationship question came up and they told me some bull about how LDR don't work and this and that... That is when I dropped them. That is all bull. If you love someone, you make it work. That is what commitment is all about. You make it work, no matter what. Both my bf and I believe the same thing. We have been dating a year. I think that we are stronger than most other couples and enjoy our time together because it is sometimes few and far between. We both have careers and make it a point to hang out as much as we can. I think the fact that he wants to be with me even if I am far away is a true sign about how much he cares for me. After a few other dudes told me a line about "it will not work" it goes to show you that it can... I would question this guy a little ( cautiously) about what his thoughts are about it. He may not be even be thinking that is an option for him.. seriously, guys can be lame sometimes....but they will get into bed with you if you let them. LDR teaches you to be strong and less reliant on one person for all of your happiness. It is not for everyone. You have to really be honest with yourself about whether or not you can handle it.. Can you have your own needs met? It is fine if you can't, it does not make you lame...like I said it is not for everyone.

Hello, I joined this discussion board to get some support or talk to others boys/girls that have partners in the CHP/Police academy. My BF leaves in about a month for almost 7 months. I am wondering what to expect. I already know that it is going to be hell. I am not expecting anything except that I am hoping that we can survive this. We already have a long distance relationship. He lives almost 2 hours away so it is not that big of a change for us. If anyone has had any experience with this, I am all ears. Thank you in advance. C