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When I first saw this in its beginning stages I didnt want to participate because I really felt that id fail. But its only been a few days and quite honestly. I feel great. Like Creo said, I still miss her, I still love her very much, but I no longer feel tempted to call her anymore. Yet I still do check my emails and phone to see if I got a txt message from her. lol But I dont expect anything right now from her.

I appreciate the kind words Zorba. But keep in mind knowledge means nothing when you cant learn to apply it to real life. Its why im beating myself still after a couple of months for losing my ex. However, it feels like ive learned so much from everything.

Hey dude. I IMed my ex the other day with the intention of just saying hi and to see she'd been doing. But we all know thats not truly the reason we made that contact. I made contact with my ex because I really wanted to discuss things with her. And I feel you really do to. Saying hi sounds like a cover. She then asked me if I needed something. Its the coldest response ive ever gotten in the world and it hurt so bad. If shes as stubborn as mine, I wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy it was so cold. So in my opinion, if shes as stubborn as you say she is, the fact you made contact with fill her with so much joy but when it comes down to it. She will probably be very cold. And it will probably hurt you quite a bit. We all know breaking a NC of 4 weeks takes all the balls and preparation in the world and theres a good chance youll probably be hurt. What if she really is over you bro? How would you feel after that? It probably start the whole missing her cycle all over again but even be stronger this time knowing she really is over you. If she wants you back. She will eventually break. Its been 4 weeks. Do you still really want her back?

Super Dave, being someone who is older than me with a lot more experience. I can try to grasp where exactly your coming from. But you must also take into account that most breakups, USUALLY end in ways that are more extreme then they need to be. However, if they werent extreme, there probably wouldnt be a reason to break it off altogether. Take me for example, Im still deathly inlove, yes, IN LOVE! with my ex and just if she called me out of the blue for a favour, I would be at her doorstep in a second. Its just the type of guy I am. But, also taking into account what was said to me and how hurtful it was, it does boost my motivation to stay completely the hell away from her and try and get over her as fast as I can. Though I feel no pride issues before, during the relationship if it came down to who broke first, the situation would usually become untimely long simple out of pride. And we both knew it. But deep down, I know the person she is when she loves someone and how the person she tried to show just wasnt her. I knew that if things didnt end up the way they did, she would still be that loving, caring, amazing girl I fell in love with. And we'd still be together. But hey, s*** happens you know? True love? What the h*** is true love anyways? Its not the notebook here bro. If the couple was taken away from eachother by chance when both of them didnt want it. Be it moving away or whatever other reason. I could understand one or both would do anything in their power to even make communication with the other. But because breakups are so nasty, they usually deter people completely. No matter how much pain someone is in and how much they would absolutely love to be with their ex again, I dont doubt that most of the population would forget about trying to get the love of their life back and move on, simply out pride.

Personally I disagree with one thing you said Dave. And thats because of stubborn people. If one person says I want NC. And the other agrees but doesnt really want it. Because both are so stubborn, they wont call eachother and will just force themselves to get over eachother when they could have revived a perfectly good relationship. Assuming they didnt really want to get over eachother or better yet even leave eachothers lives. Its better to experience something then wonder for the rest of your life what could have been is it not? I do agree that a call or an IM may be bad but its all a matter of how you approach it. Its very easy to come off as manipulative, controlling, clingy etc... but thats because people let there emotions get to them. Thats one thing thats costly. If someone leaves another because they feel there too controlling and clingy. And that person then calls the dumper and begins crying on the phone and begging for the other back. Obviously thats gonna mess things up and bring you farther from that person wants to be. If your planning on a breaking a reasonably long NC (and by reasonably long I mean a period where most would get over someone, its only those who truly love that other person that still want the other back) then be prepared for the worst and be prepared NOT to show emotion. Thats the detrimental thing. If you cant hide your emotions, dont make the call! Thats my 2 cents.

Ok you guys brought up a few things. In some positions, just watching the action south of the boarder makes me want to blow. So yes I get stimulated visually. When shes ontop theres very little "in/out" action actually. Most of the time her full weight is on me and im all the way in her and what she will do is shift the angle of her body so it moves around in her. This doesnt feel as stimulating for me but I still enjoy it alot.

Hey guys, me and my gf are beginning to explore more positions aside from missionary. My gf likes being on top because of the clit stimulation id assume and she usually can orgasm that way because shes in control. As long as she orgasms Im happy. But im noticing now that after about 10 minutes ontop, I begin to lose my erection Not completely but its somewhat a little limp. When Im on a full hard on my penis is barely able to move its so stiff. Does anyone know why this happeneds to me? Im only 17.

She can always orgasm during sex. She moans very loud when I go down on her, I know she isnt faking it. She brought up the point of being consistent with it. Same goes for me I guess. If I want to orgasm, I need to be given consistent motion aswell but I guess its the same with her. Shes not sad about the fact she doesnt go. But I am. I wanna give her everything and more when it comes down to that. I dont want to make a big deal of this and you guys helped me understand alot better. I usually wouldnt discuss this with other women or even my guy friends for that matter. That why im glad I found this forum. Thanx a bunch girls/guys

Ok its been a while since my last post. Things are going great with my GF now But we started having sex quite a while back but now we are really starting to get into the real nitty gritty of it. Ive become more "educated" of her more sensitive spots in her and on the outside. Mainly what I do when I give oral is mainly focus on the clit. One in a while I will use my tongue a bit near or in her for a few seconds just to excite her a bit. But she never goes. I experiment all the time with different pressures I use with my tongue, what surface, etc... and I think ive found a good combination of what pressure, what surface etc...to use by the sound of her moans. Sometimes there so loud she has to put a pillow on her face and hold it. Ill see her stomach constantly throwing spasms and stuff, but no matter what she never goes. By the time im about 10-15 minutes in...she always makes me stick it in her. Why isnt it possible for her to orgasm when I lick her? I sure as hell can orgasm when she sucks me

You guys are absolutly right. I cant let this hold me back. Shes a great person, this was way before I even knew her but when I didnt know about it, I didnt seem to care. I just went with everything and it was great. But now that I know, why should I let things change? Guys, thanks for much for your advice. I dont know what I would have done without everyones advice. Probably something really stupid that I would regret.

Tonite I told her that the last thing I want to do is have sex with her. And I didnt mean it in a discouraging way. I dont know if I want to be sexually active with her until I really know. And I felt terrible about saying it to her because it made her look like a bad person. We both were crying for a bit on the phone at different times. I just hate this. My last girl friend was a total innoscent untouched girl. It made things so much easier. And I know I need to look past her history but Im just so stubborn with this thing. Like she said she doesnt even wanna kiss me now because she thinks im not going to enjoy it or think it has meaning. A girl I was slightly getting involved with before her recently told me she wasnt a virgin, and again, the same thing happened. I dont even want to talk to her again. But I cant let this one go so easily. I dont want to either but I dont look at her the same. Sometimes i just want to get it over and screw someone (lord knows its not hard in this day and age) and the other half of me says to wait. If anything I wanted her first experience to be with me but obviously that cant happen now so its like a piece of me has been ripped out.

I dont want to carry this on too long but here goes. Im dealing with someone right now. For last year now ive known her but we were just friends. I helped her out alot with problems like her ex boyfriend. I ended up liking her and same thing happened with her. We spend alot of time together on weekends and stuff. But heres my problem, from the very beginning she made it look like she knew nothing of sex. She never spoke of it, was really immature when I would discuss it etc...for a while now she has said shes done nothing more then kiss. But for some reason I didnt believe it. And tonite I finally beat it out of her. Turns out in the past shes done everything but actually have sex. Now im only 16 and im still a virgin. Shes 17. I dont know what it is but it bugs the living sh*t out of me. I cant get over what she has done. And I wanna be with her so badly but theres just this mental block. I always see her and her ex boyfriend doing stuff and its killing me inside. Like i just get sudden spurts of insane anger when I think about it. I punched a massive whole through like 3 times, ive been pacing everywhere, fists klenched, heart racing and I cant sleep. I talked to her for a few hours on the phone tonite but I tryed to make it sound like everything was OK. I told her that with time I can get over it but really, I think its always gonna be in the back of my mind and I dont know what to do. Things were going so great before I had known about this. And as much as I want to look at her the same, I just cant. And I dont know what to do now. And its not as if Im against sex, ive had the chance to do it before but Im really not in a rush to do it. I want it to have some meaning. And she told me that she doesnt regret anything but shes sorry it hurts me. Alot of people I know that have girlfriends that had sex before dont even seem to care, but for me. I care so much about it. And it buggs the hell out of me that it buggs the hell out of me. I just wish I could look past this and carry on with my life hopefully with her in it. Anyone have any idea what I should do now?

Recently I began getting involved with a girl. Now to make a long story short, shes not one for sex. She doesnt plan on losing her virginity anytime soon and she wants it to have meaning the first time, and thats exactly the same way I feel aswell. Its just the weird part is...embarasingly enough, Ive stopped masterbating And I dont know what it is! I dont care at all do it. And if I do, its like a chore now. When I was with my ex, we would always be talking about having sex but it was all talk but none the less i thought about it all the time. But with this girl i dont think about sex at all with her. Like shes so attractive it just doesnt seem to enter my mind, i care about her too much, when I think about her, sex isnt what I see. Its cuddling with her, kissing her, holding her, making her laugh etc.. Like if even the thought of having sex with her enters mind I get almost disgusted with myself that I looked at her in that way. But mean while my ex was the slutty and naughty as hell in my mind before. And the worst part of all now is I havent masterbated in about 2 weeks now. Now coming from me, THATS ALOT. Before it would be everyday...and now im starting to have wet dreams all the time and I hate it. Anyone have a clue why my opinion on sex has changed so much...I cant stop asking myself this question.

OK I think you need some younger insight here. Im turning 17 soon. I have a friend that is absolutly inlove with a 23 year old. In my opinion, I find it utterly disgusting because you know what, all that guy is after is getting into her pants. And im a male aswell, still a virgin and I dont plan on losing it anytime soon. No rush for me. But anyways continuing...I dont like putting all guys in that age range in one category because I know there are great guys out there who actually want a relationship. But honestly dude, I gotta say. Your going after alot...getting the parents acceptance would be a war on its own. And what happeneds if you 2 were to break up, everytime you go to your friends house and your there it would be weird. Personally I think you should just keep your eyes open for someone around your age. Your just not looking in the right places. If you dont like hanging out in bars, find someone who doesnt hang in bars either. There are tons of places to meet girls, just not bars dude. Good luck...

I just wanna say one thing. Im 17 right now dude and I think im really mature for my age. What I want to say about the love thing is really try not stress it. At the age of 14 (im not looking down on you) and even at the age of 17, I dont think someone at that age can really experience true love. So if you want to say it once in a while I guess its ok because I guess thats what people do, just try not to overdo it. Even if you just had a long make out session that made you feel like a million bucks or something and you just wanna say it...dont bother with it that much. About the kissing, it really depends man. Some girls wait till you make the first move and vice versa. And when your about to have your first kiss with her. Make it somewhat of a peck. If you go straight into tonsle hockey, she might think your coming on too strong. Let her be the judge of that