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  1. I'm proud of myself in going 30 full days of being completely happy without her. I realized in only one month how unhealthy being with her was for me. My life has more options and possibilities. I know that she doesn't want to part. She even went as far as to say that she doesn't want me having sex with anyone else. She asked me if I love her and told me that she'll never love anyone else like she loved me. She kept asking if I was sure I wanted to leave her in many different ways. I told her that she made the choice for me when she put her hands on me. I don't know what I was thinking trying to make it work with someone who has so many emotional issues. I have the divorce papers and this should be over very soon. My challenge is over.
  2. Well, in May, I'm going to have to break my no contact. I need to get the ball rolling on this divorce. She makes me sick to my stomach, so I'll try not to vomit. I just want out of this marriage so I can get on with my life! I'll give it maybe 2 more weeks.
  3. Feeling even better and going out with a new lady friend next week.
  4. I'm feeling great about not contacting her. I'm actually on a countdown to when I will have to break NC to discuss the marriage. 75 days to go.
  5. Everything is still going fine. I just don't think it's such a good idea to actually hangout with other people who are going through a divorce/separation. It made me automatically place false judgement on my situation, and feelings started to bubble up. Those feelings are just an illusion, so I'll continue to take care of and be strong for myself! I'm not gonna relapse. No way!
  6. Nothing to say besides "I'm feeling great!"
  7. Double digits and nothing much to say. Glanced at a pic of her when I was trying to send something to my friend. I looked at her and felt no type of attraction. My feelings are gone.
  8. No signs of slowing down here, folks. As the days go by, I get happier and happier. Target NC= 2-3 months. I'll have to tell her that I'm moving because that won't look good in the eyes of the court if I don't.
  9. I know what you mean. After 2yrs, we finally got to live on our own away from military. We finally had a chance to build something. Out of nowhere, she bailed out on me. You can make it through this. Just stay focused on other things. For me it's been 9 days and I feel like I'm on top of the world. It's like us parting was the best thing that could've possibly happened in my life. I keep myself occupied by associating with other people and enjoying my hobbies. You'll make it.
  10. Everything is still going fine. I had to drop off her mail since it is still being forwarded here. I just slid the bill in the door while she was away at work. I have no interest in talking to her. I just got my recommendation for school and am leaving in 5 months. Gonna have to figure out the divorce/separation in between that time.
  11. So it's day 7. I'm feeling pretty fine. Went for a morning jog and listened to some music. I was about to pay my phone bill, so I went to my online banking. My account was locked because SOMEBODY failed all my security questions. I'm leaving it locked until I get answers. She is the only person in the entire world who knows my user ID. If you were in my shoes would you confront her? There's no doubt here, and I'm not being crazy. IT WAS HER!
  12. Wow! Today was such a great day! I'm actually happy at this job I'm working because of all the people I get to talk to. I'm interested in this woman at work. She just seems wonderful! I'll admit that I had butterflies when I first saw her and thought to myself "I just have to get to know her." Saw her today and finally got a chance to speak for a second. Just as lovely as I thought! Planning to make a new friend on Tuesday and hangout with her. Haven't thought too much about my wife because I know the negativity is gonna do a 360 when it's time to do paperwork. Ugh! WHY??? My life is FINALLY moving for ME not HER! Off to jog!
  13. I feel so great today! Feels like I'm walking on air! I realized that she's always gonna be bitter about this and that it won't change anything. I'm doing a great job of taking care of myself by excercising and doing more to look appealing by changing my style in clothing. My confidence is through the roof, and it's all because I'm not dealing with that pessimistic, non-supportive, possessive, controlling, and abusive woman! Who knew letting go could feel so good? I could talk to her now and not see it as a big deal, but I'm just gonna prolong this as much as I need to. We're still married, so we're gonna have to talk at some point. I'm going for at least 3 months.
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