kimi_baby

nine days.... it was madly fast, but very true.

Yeah that's so true. I tend to go off a guy who acts like he's really into me, and i tend to fall head over heels for the ones who dont seem to care either way it's stupid, but there you go... I dont know what guys prefer, everyone's different so i guess it depends, but i think if a girl is aggressive towards getting a guy, then they end up being misunderstood, by both guys and other girls. Girls should show just enough interest to attract the guy's attention but then she should act all cool and confident... maybe start a conversation with a bit of playful banter (not as in your face as obvious flirting)... but try and be themselves and see what happens...

It drives girls crazy too... to know that you have someone right there who cares so much about you and wont cheat on you or screw you around etc... but you're just not attracted to them... you're attracted to some jerk who doesnt really care about you at all....

Family, friends... ice cream... and thinking of everything about him that does or could possible annoy the s*** out of you. Trying to hate him may work for a bit... and after that, maybe if you start to focus your attention on a different boy for a while. It really just takes time, patience and being able to remove him from your thoughts until you think differently about him. Unfortunately there's no miracle cure... but oh how i wish there was...

Try finding something he's interested in and bring that up in a conversation. Maybe start the conversation with his/your friend and then ask him what he thinks about it... or something like that. Or just ask your friend to subtly talk to him about whether he's interested in you or not... Even shy guys talk to their mates about girls sometimes

In the words of John Mayer: "So I was thinkin' about relationships and about how it pertains to songs about relationships, and uh, I was trying to think, well it occurred to me that the key, I figured out the key to a relationship and how to make it work. Check it out, this is, this is, a tip from your uncle John, check it out. When you first meet somebody, you find out they like you, first of all, a friend of a friend of theirs say, he or she really really likes you, and it kills you, floors you, sends you to the ground, you've got to pick yourself up off the ground; then you get their phone number and you call them up, right, and you say "Yeah, that's a really great phone conversation, can I see you some time?" and then they say this, they say, "I'd like that." Nothing feels better than "I'd like that". So now, your blood pressures' goin, you're six feet off the ground, you can't sleep, because of "I'd like that". So then you hang out for a while, and you call and you talk on the phone all the time, and then you drop the bomb, what feels like the bomb, you say, "You know what, I've been thinkin about you a lot." And she goes, "Ahhhhhhh!" And you go "What happened?" and she goes, "I'm sorry, I just, I just, I just, that's, I've been thinking about you too." Bam. Higher into the sky. But now "I'd like that." Tch. Done. Now you're up to "I'm thinkin about you." Then however number of months pass, it makes you feel comfortable saying it, you say "I gotta tell you something." They go "What?", you go "I'm in love with you." And nothing in the world sounds better than "I'm in love with you." And then maybe she starts crying, or maybe he goes "*gasp*". And all the sudden you're like "I'm in." But now what doesn't work?; "I'd like that." and "I've been thinkin about you." Now we're at "I'm in love with you." Then maybe some day it'll move up to "I love you." Fast forward, now you're like "I love you a lot; I love you more than anything in life." Now "I love you." doesn't work. It's a threshold that keeps movin' up. Fast forward, like six months, six weeks, whatever the case may be, now you're on like, "I want to marry you." "I want to impregnate you with my love." "I wanna, I wanna just send my love to you." "Damn it, words don't work anymore." And then you say this line, and you know, you know you've used this line before, "I just wish they'd put a new word in the dictionary bigger than love because love just doesn't describe what I feel." And so now he or she starts askin', "Do you love me?" and you start goin', "Of course I love you." "Well say it." And then it becomes "Say it twice." And it goes "Say it three times." And then, you cross a really interesting point, where all the sudden it becomes "I hate you, I hate you." And you go, "Oh my god she hates me." And now it's like "I hate you more than anything." And then it's like "We're over." And then they go "No we're not." And you go "Yes we are." Now the words completely do not work at all, you're left with nothing. You're throwing punches under water. You're done. You know what the moral of that story is, if there is one. Never, ever, ever, ever underestimate the power of "I'd like that." So, dont be too stressy about who says what... just enjoy it for what it is. If he's said it before, and you trust him, then no worries.

Gently and slowly, lick his bottom lip while you're kissing him. If he doesnt like that... then i'm not saying its the ultimate tongue related turnon... but maybe he just isnt into using tongues. Not everyone likes the same kinda stuff, so maybe you can find something else that he likes... and try that. Or, you could... somehow... just *tactfully* ask him, without confronting him/making him feel awkward.

yeah i agree with blue skittles, i think the girl is confused. And i dont think you necessarily have done anything wrong, but just dont be so afraid to address things and be honest. If you miss her, you shouldnt not say it just cuz you're scared of being too clingy. It's honesty like that that keeps it all alive. But i know where you're coming from... she asked for space, so you gave her pressureless space. I just think maybe you have been too nice throughout this. You should confront her properly. And if she doesnt want to talk about it then at least you'll have brought it up. And if she is still interested in you, hopefully what you'll have said will sink in and she'll start thinking about it properly, and realise that she should be more clear about how she feels. If not and she goes all weird again... then it's tough, but at least you'll know that either she's not interested in you romantically... or maybe that she plays too many games to know when to stop... I hope that helped... Good Luck.

Yeah, thanks, i know. But does it mean he wants to be with me rather than just sleep with me and move on to someone else? I mean, is this normal, cuz all of my friends seem to be able to develop the friendship part of a relationship without sex being involved til later on. And they end up having good long healthy relationships... whereas i dont.

Hey, okay so i'm new here, but i'm so confused... I'm afraid the pattern's always gonna be the same... Whenever i'm with a guy or meet someone new, they always want one thing... and as soon as they get it they leave me. So now obviously i realise what i'm doing wrong. It's just... with this new boy we actually talk... but he still only really wants one thing. Does that mean he's just like the others...? And should i be offended that he wants to sleep with me and not just sit and talk to me? kimi_baby