Thanks Scout. I definitely think initiating NC from the very beginning was a huge help in getting her back. I walked away, so to speak. I kept telling myself during the period of NC that I was giving us the best possible chance of making it. I had to encourage myself that what I was doing was a very positive thing even though it was killing me inside. The period of NC also added that bit of mystery when we did start hanging out again.
As for 'the talk', I agree with Scruff, we mostly let it happen naturally. But there were several times when we spoke in depth about what happened and how we could do better this time around. The one piece of advise I can give is to keep it any talks light hearted and speak of the negative aspects in a constructive manner, if you get me? Remember, at the start of a relationship there is no water under the bridge, no negatives, just fun and laughter, so it is important speak of everything in a positive way.
The one most important thing I learnt is this. Nobody likes a negative person. Nobody likes a dullard who always complains about the smallest things. A positive outlook on life and an upbeat nature are such attractive qualities and can win over anyone. Think of the most popular person in your school, college or work place and I bet they are someone who knows just how to smile and laugh. This, I believe, was the secret to my success!!!