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Brando, I appreciate your comments. I do know that I care about him, I would not want anything bad to happen to him. But i also know that the interest is not there anymore, and it's because I have not received emotional love in the relationship. He is a very shallow man, worried about looks, money, physical attributes, ect. He thinks buying things for me make me feel better or make up for the way he acts. We have had this discussion a thousand times and he always promises he will try and change, but it never happens. Ten years later, and I'm beginning to think he will never change. I feel like I am going crazy just being with him and I walk on eggshells when we are together. I just don't know.

Plugger 123, All I can tell you is that I'm going through similiar situation, but for 10 years now. I have told him multiple times how I feel, he's swore to me he would try and change, he is now on antidepressants, and let me tell you HE HAS NOT CHANGED. I have asked him to see a counsler, but he refuses. I am not the only one who is affected by his attitude, everyone around him is. Well, I just hope you make the right choice!

You are right, I did know, but circumstances kept us together (pregnancy), I guess this is not an excuse. Do you feel your Mom made the right desicion? Would you have blamed your mom for leaving him, are you happy they stayed together?

I agree with the rest, if this is the beginning, think of what will come if you continue on, trust me from experience, leave it alone.

To make a long story short, I have been with my husband for 10 years. We have had problems since we've been dating. He has never had an interest in my friends or family, he has even tried chasing some away literally, and he doesn't have many friends of his own. He is always gotten upset when I go out, but will never come with me. I feel like I am alone, even though I'm married. He seems to be very depressed and has been taking medication for a couple years. We have two children together. He is a good father, but I do not feel he's a good husband. He never wants to talk. He never asked me how I feel. The only time he's interested in me is when we're in bed. He treats others very badly. He's a pessimist. I, on the other hand, love to be with friends and family, love to be doing activities. I'm an optimist. This is probably one reason I'm stayed with him over the past years. I have drowned myself in school and work. This has also put toll on our relationship. But I think I've done this because I've been unhappy. We have a nice house. We have money, but don't feel like we have love. We never seem to be happy together. I don't know if I can live the rest of my life like this ( I am only 25). When I talk to his family about his attitude, they say that he's been like this since childhood. Any advice?