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  1. freelove
    Broke up with my girlfriend of 2 and half years today. I did it because it was the best thing for both of us. If I had waited any longer, things would have gotten worse for both of us. It's not that I wanted to, I had to...for me and for her. I love her and respect her and cherish her so much, that's why my heart breaks right now, because I have hurt somebody that I love. But I believe in the long run it will be the best for both of us. We tried many time to make things right, but we were not meant to have a intimate relationship together. That saddens me as I think she is wonderful. My thoughts go out to you all...the dumper and the dumpee.
  2. freelove
    It definitely feels like everyone has a different take on the subject and what to do if you hear that question being posed. We spoke about it and I apologized. She did to and said sometimes she just hates the way she looks and instead of getting all upset about it, she is gonna just focus on losing it. She has been eating better and exercising more. She's also not bringing it up as often. I just keep on loving her and telling her how beautiful she is.
  3. freelove
    I was feeling like you 2 weeks ago. Listen to me....calm down, relax, you're going to drive yourself crazy. I decided to finally just calm down and take a step back. Sure I still felt the anxiety about things but I forced myself to slow down. My gf started coming to me, calling me, telling me how much she misses and loves me. Let them miss you, it's a good thing, believe me...i'm learning this first hand!! Stop talking to him about it. He's right, actions speak louder than words. Stop asking him how he feels about you and just go with the flow. You're gonna drive yourself crazy for no reason. He's with you, he's been hanging with you...otherwise he would be avoiding you if he didn't want to see you.
  4. freelove
    What you're doing is relying on him to make you happy!! You need to make yourself happy first before anything else. You also need to trust him if you want this relationship to work! Try be open to him hanging with his friends and if you can, make plans with your friends and do stuff that you enjoy. When he wants to hang out and you cant because you have made plans, it'll be good for him to see you have your own life. Also, when he says he has plans, try and be happy for him and tell him to have fun! I promise you these things make a world of difference to a relationship!!!
  5. freelove
    See, he is making the effort!! I mean, what more could you ask for! You are getting exactly what you want from him. He is paying attention to you and wanting to see you! You're in a really great position to help things grow between you two!!
  6. freelove
    Exactly! Big no, no! Do not talk about the relationship and don't hound him with questions! Look, i'm not saying you have to go on like this for as long as it takes. Give yourself time and see where things lead. But be patient and have faith in the fact that you 2 are trying again! Just know, that if you question him and act jealous you are definitely gonna get what you don't want...and that's pushing him away from you!
  7. freelove
    I personaly wouldn't worry about the logistics of it right now. Like I said, try your best to better yourself and just go with the flow. He obviously see's something with you and that's why you are spending all this time together. Try your best to not get upset infront of him or jealous! Show him that you have strength but most importantly just make every moment together a positive one.
  8. freelove
    shoebaby, I'm in the exact same situation with you. Broke up and got back together! I have also been feeling alot of anxiety over this, but 99.9% of the time my worries are unfounded. You really need to try to slow your thoughts down and go with the flow. I know it's easier said than done but just look where you are now. You're back together and spending wonderful times together. He must want it to. Don't sabotage it now by over-reacting to everything. You have a fresh start in this relationship, do your best to work on your trust issues and be more giving to yourself. You are so lucky you have this second chance, make every moment positive and enjoy your time together. If you just relax, in time, things will be better!
  9. freelove
    BrokeHeart, Thank you for such inspiring words! You're right. I did give her that time and look where I am now! Just be cool, calm, relaxed. It will be all good!
  10. freelove
    Hey man, I'm in the same position as you. 6 weeks apart and then decided to get back together, however, we are taking it slow, looking at it as more like dating again. It's kinda hard to take things slow like this, but it's probably for the best. I don't know though, i'm kinda anxious about the whole thing as I love her so much and I am not sure how things are gonna turn out...
  11. freelove
    Sometimes we all just need a wake-up call to realize where we went wrong! How I wish someone had sat me down many years ago and told me the steps I should take to ensuring my relationships last. If you really love him, I think you should give him another chance as long as he has learnt his lesson and shows you over an extended period that he is working toward the relationship. I can't promise you that things will work out great, but I believe that everyone deserves a second chance unless infedelity or abuse are involved. I know you're freaking out. I'm in a similar position to you and I know it's hard to be secure about the relationship. Try go with the flow and enjoy the moments you have with him. No matter what happens, you will be alright
  12. freelove
    Yeah, that's how we're playing it to. I'm just so incredibly anxious about it. I'm finding hard to go to "dating" when we already have 2 and a half years invested. I just wanna be with her when I want to be with her. I feel like I am walking on ice right now. Why can't I just relax and go with the flow!?
  13. freelove
    Shoebaby, How you guys handling the "dating" thing? How have you defined it within your relationship now? Are you ok with the way it's going? I'm doing the same thing and I'm kinda anxious!! I keep telling myself i'm overthinking things... What do you have to say?
  14. freelove
    Hey Jupiter, I'm kinda in the same boat as you. Our relationship is awesome, but she needs the whole time and space thing, yet at the same time really sees a future with me. We're not together but have been hanging out, sex, the whole shebang. It's kinda tough not knowing where you stand and from the sound of things, being with her is something YOU really want. I guess you and me need to give them that space so they can figure it out, yet it's also kinda like being in limbo and not knowing what to expect, which totally sucks. I dunno man, I'm kinda stuck myself. I hope it works out for you! Annie, please could you check out my latest post and tell me what you think!! : "It feels right for both, then why are we confused or is it just me?"
  15. freelove
    I felt like you when our first break happened! It was like I couldn't move... I broke up with her 3 weeks ago, haven't seen or spoken to her since. I'm telling you NC bro. It's ok to think about things but get your * * * up and reconnect with the world. The possibilities are endless for you and this period of no contact make you see things in a new perspective, which in turn helps you to grow. Don't make the same mistake I did the first time! All that happening to you right now is more hurt on top of more hurt. Step away. The priority is you!
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