I have weird situation going on:
A friend has been lying to me and I don't get: why?
My friend and I live pretty far from each other, and we usually communicate via Instant Messanging. For the past year, she's been living with some guy as roommates. I figured something was going on there, but whenever I asked her if she he was her boyfriend, she would just deny it.
Anyways, she visited me last summer and just acted different. She wouldn't hug me anymore just act generally like she used to act. She was really reserved. I asked her about this and she told me that she was hit by someone on a date, and she now has issues with contact. (Mind you that she is 5'11" and has a 2nd degree blackbelt in Karate).
Secondly, I just don't call her anymore. Whenever I did call her to see what's up, she never picks up the phone. Or she would pick up and hang up and turn it off. The only way I talk to her on the phone is if she calls me up. When I asked her about this, she tells me that she was just in an area of bad reception (her room). We've spoken when she was in her room before and reception is fine.
Third, I wanted to send her a birthday gift and she told me to send it to her parents. She made up some far fetched story about her boyfriend not knowing their legal status in their apartment.
Anyways, when I finally got her to admit she was in a relationship, everything just made sense. All the weird stories she made up.
My only question is: Why? Why could she have just said "Hey, I'm in a relationship and it would be awkward when you contact me." Why did she just make up all these weird lies?
I've written a thought out letter to her to basically tell her how I feel and how I'm ending our friendship, but I haven't sent it off yet. I have deleted her from my address book. I just can't figure out why a friend had to lie to me so, and why she would even talk to me, when most everything she talked to me about was just a lie?
And recently, she even messaged me about travelling together abroad or at least come over to her place, but why? What the heck does she want from me?
I feel like....a fool. Why all the lies? The truth would have just made sense.
No wonder it's easier to get along with guys.