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I'm at a breaking point where I just don't know what to do, so I decided to come here desperate for some honest good advice. This will be a long post so please grab some snacks before hand. And I apologize but please PLEASE help me Over 3 years ago I met this guy*Ed who stole my heart. We started off as just buddies, but then it escalated into more but nothing serious. We would see eachother on and off with taking few breaks for couple months. After about two yrs I got back with my ex fiance because our breakup didn't leave any closure, and I wanted to see if there really wasn't any chance between us. My parents would pressure me to get married and well since he was my fiance, I thought it would be right to give one more chance to our relationship and try the serious thing. So I told *Ed that I have to get back with my ex fiance to try our relationship one last time for the sake of having closure and to make my family think more of me. *Ed was very supportive of me, but told me that he was beginning to fall for me. Silly me still went back with my ex fiance. My fiance and I lasted for six months. After few months of us being together, things went really sour, really fast. I put my heart and soul into that relationship to make it work, I literally put my whole heart into it in hopes of finally securing my future, but unfortunately it didnt happen that way. We fought ALL the time, he would talk down on me and totally ruined my self esteem. I felt like I got fooled for giving him one more chance. One day we got into a huge fight because I found out he lied to me about another female, it started of as a pity argument but it escalated into this huge thing. He broke up with me OVER AIM. no matter how much I begged for him to give us a chance, he refused, talked down on me again, made me feel like it was all my fault, and told me I should've never went back with him. After that I am not the same person I was before. I'm no longer ever happy, I get upset over the most insignificant things. I don't know why, my feelings for my ex fiance totally diminished, I no longer feel like I need him, nor do I want him to ever cross path with me again. In a way I actually think I have forgiven him for hurting me....but I do know that he changed me, and not in a good way. Its been over a year since me and him broke up, yet I'm still not the cheery, happy go lucky girl I used to be. ANd I do NOT wish to have him back, which is why I don't know why I'm such a different person (by the way I'm not the only one that thinks I changed, my family says the same thing). Back to *Ed, after my fiance and I broke up, Ed was there for me. He would take me out, show me a good time, give me lots of attention, was always there for me, was soo sweet to me, something I have not had for a long time. He is completely opposite of my ex fiance and I love it. He is what every girl wants her bf to be. Ed and I have been dating solid for a yr now, yes we have had our fights and arguments, but don't all couples? We talk about marriage, how we want babies and a house and all that corny stuff. Basically I'll say our relationship has been very serious. But I keep causing arguments between us because of my jelous insecure streak. I can't stop. I need attention all the time (I think its cuz of my previous relationship), I tried many times to be the confident gf who never gets jelous or anything but it just doesnt work. Last summer I met this guy name *Joe, our personalities are so alike which is why we get along great. I met him thru friends of mine and we would hang out once in a while. Yes I am attracted to Joe, yes I would IF I WAS SINGLE probably hope for more then a friendship from him, but nothing has ever happened between us besides maybe some flirtations. My bf found out thru our mutual friends about Joe, for some reason everyone around the town told him that me and Joe have more then friendship going on which is where my my current problem started. I stopped hanging out with Joe for the sake of my relationship, but I still kept somewhat in touch with him, just little conversations here and there online or something. Nothing big deal at all. My bf became very insecure about it, once in a while he would catch me chatting with Joe online and would get very angry, thinking that we have something going on when in fact we were just catching up on stupid conversations. About a week ago my bf and I got into a huge HUGE fight, he called me a name he shouldn't have ( W**re) and I got very VERY upset. I told him I need a break, I can't deal with this drama, I want some time to myself, to go out with my friends and not worry if my bf will get mad if I do that. We cried, we argued some more. Last wknd I saw Joe at a bar and we had an awsome time, nothing happened, we were just hanging out like old times. My bf found out about this and now he thinks that I wanted a break to hook up with Joe. No matter how much I deny it, it doesn't matter. He is convinced. I don't know how to fix this situation. Part of me wants to be back with my bf Ed, he is amazing, I always pictured my future with him. But there is another part of me that wants to hang out with Joe without any drama. I just want to have fun. I'm sooo confused. Why do I feel this way? Why am I always stuck between two ppl unintentionally. How do I fix it? How do I decide what I want? How do I get my relationship with Ed to what it was in the beginning-a very healthy, happy relationship? Someone Please tell me something to fix this, to guide me in the right direction. My mind tells me I should be single for a while, just to solve my wild oats, but my heart tells me I belong to Ed. I can't stop crying and thinking that I just ruined my life because of my selfish actions. I feel like a huge part of me is missing since Ed and I broke up. Literally I feel like I just tore my heart to pieces, it hurts. Please advice and thank you for reading this ridiculous long post but I just feel like I needed to let all my feelings out on this for the complete picture.
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I see your point, but she specifically told me to call her as soon as possible and let her know, because she would like me to start asap so I can still get into their training classes. I just mereley did what she asked me to do. .................................................................................................... I'll wait till tomorrow to hear back and in the mean time pull my hair out waiting grrr , Thank You everyone for advice, you were all very helpfull!!
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what a bad move on his part. If my significant other did that he would be in the dog house for a long long time.
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so today I shouldn't call anymore..if I don't hear from Cindy, call her again tomorrow and don't call the other mgr??? She really did stress that she wants to hear from me asap letting her know if I want the position, which is why I'm a bit perplexed by this. I'm confused
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Hey guys, Ok I had an interview on FRIDAY for a job that I really really want. It is working for a fitness club. On that day, I went to one of the fitness clubs to interview with one of the general mgrs (mike), he liked me and then told me to go 10min away to go interview with another general manager (cindy) at another one of their facilities which is the one I would be working at. Cindy really liked me as well, offered me the job but told me to go think about the position over the weekend and to give her a call on Monday (today) and let her know if I want the job. Cindy also gave me her cell number in case I can't reach her at her office. So today is Monday and I have called Cindy at noon, was told that she wasn't in the office, so I called her cell phone, no answer so I just simply left a short vm telling her that its me calling regards to the position and for her to give me a call back, and then I gave her my cell #. It has now been three hrs since and I'm freaking out..I really REALLY want the job, all kinds of thoughts are going thru my head like what if I didnt say my cell number clearly to return my call. Should I wait for her to return my call? should I call again? should I maybe call Mike (the first mgr I interviewed with, who was at another facility) What is the right thing to do in this situation for me to secure my job at this company. Thank you
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my boyfriends ex gf is back in town...
makeupgrl99 replied to makeupgrl99's topic in Relationship Advice
My fiance and I broke up long long time ago...there was a time where we tried to work it out but in the end we concluded that its a waste of time. This is about my current bf -
my boyfriends ex gf is back in town...
makeupgrl99 replied to makeupgrl99's topic in Relationship Advice
I have not talked about this to him yet...I don't know if its good idea, I'm afraid of being that jelous girlfriend. He knows alot about her situation, and he sees her friends all the time whenever we go out somewhere, so he asks about her. -
So my wonderful boyfriends ex gf whome he dated for couple yrs, she was the love of his life, first everything just moved back home. She lives few houses from his. Apparently she wants him back. They havent seen eachother in about three yrs because she was going to school out of state. She has told everyone, their mutual friends that she wants him back. He asks about her all the time to everyone. I'm freaking out...I don't want to lose him I'm afraid that they will see eachother (its kinda inevitable, sooner or later I'm sure they will run into eachother) become friends, he will realize he still loves her blah blah blah How do I handle this? How do I stop worrying, or should I be worried? I love this man, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me, but how can I compete with someone who he has so much history with.
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We've known eachother for few yrs and were really good friends, but didn't start dating till about six months ago.
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My parents have not really talked about it much, they did ask me what I see in someone that young though. He is the youngest in his family, his whole family is really close. The question I get most is, shouldn't I look for someone older to settle down with. And the truth is that I don't base a relationship on age, you never know who you might fall for. And alot of people don't think that way which makes our relationship open to judgements and makes me very nervious.
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fiance hanging out with another girl
makeupgrl99 replied to makeupgrl99's topic in Relationship Advice
he knows.... -
fiance hanging out with another girl
makeupgrl99 replied to makeupgrl99's topic in Relationship Advice
he spends time with me every weekend. Her maybe once a week or less. Maybe most of the time every few weeks. -
Hi everyone! I have an issue that hopefully some of you can help me with. Let me explain my situation first: So my fiance has alot of girl friends. THey are just friends and I trust him with that. There is one that he claims is his best friend that I just don't like. I don't know what it is, but she is just shady...I get bad vibes from her. They have dated in the past, yrs ago, and have stayed friends ever since. They both have pictures with eachother on their online profiles like myspace saying their little sayings and how they are best friends forever blah blah blah. Keep in mind that we are in our mid 20s so this shoudn't be a childish issue. So this is what happened, lets call her Pat. Few weeks ago, an old friend of mine that knows Pat as well, aims me online telling me that my fiance is out to dinner and a movie with Pat. My fiance never mentioned that he would be going out with her. My friend gives me Pats screenname, and this is her away msg "out with Dinks, priceless!" (dinks is her nickname for my fiance). I get all upset, start calling my fiance asking him where he is, why didn't I know this and so on. My fiance got very mad that I would accuse him of cheating on me, when I should know that he would never do that saying Pat is just his friend and he can hang out w/her whenever he wants. This has upset me tremendously. I don't feel comfortable with him going out with girls, even though they are JUST his friends out to eat, movies, little "dates". Especially since I don't like her, and dont trust her. For some reason I think she still has feelings for my fiance and he may be attracted to her. I have no idea why I think this, but I do. The other day her away msg said something that implied that she was with him. He was online all night, but I think she was there too. Am I being crazy? my fiance keeps accusing me of being jelous of her. I am not jelous of her, I dont even think she is attractive, there is nothing that I would be jelous of besides her spending time with my boy without me there. So bottom line is, am I wrong for being upset that he hangs out w/her going out to dinners, sending her msgs of their little secret sayings and nicknames and such. I honestly don't think my fiance would ever cheat on me physically with a girl, but I'm not sure about him having feelings for another one. He has other girl friend that he claims is his best friend too, but she is super sweet to me, and has never made me feel like there is anything more then just friendship between the two of them, unlike Pat. How can I resolve this? Very sorry for the long post, but I had to give the details to make more sense.