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If you want to have sex with a girl, and don't want to get into a relationship with her, make sure that is CLEAR to her before you have sex with her.

I don't think you should keep putting in this much effort if you don't feel like they are making the same effort in return. You could try talking to them about it. However things change after high school and it's not uncommon for people to drift in different directions. However perhaps rather than giving up, you simply need to lower your expectations for the friendship. I understand what you are going through though as the time after high school can be a difficult transition period, do you have any opportunities in your life to meet new people and make new friends? If you fill your life with things you enjoy new people will trickle in and perhaps you can build strong friendships with them as well, while still keeping in touch with your friends from high school.

Well, in this country it does. At least in the eyes of the law.

-graduate from university -spend more time writing -take a trip to Latin America -be a better friend

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, especially at your age. You have your whole life to be faced with the worries and problems that the harsh reality of life will throw at you. If things are going good right now then I say be happy and enjoy it. Just don't be naive or think that everything is always going to be peachy keen. Also, if you want to give yourself a dose of reality, why not direct some of that upbeat optimism towards volunteering and helping out others who the world hasn't been so kind to? See if you can spread some of that optimism to other people.

If he's emotionally attached, is there a reason you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend? Also I think you just need to keep experimenting with masturbation. The feeling like you can't take it anymore is normal, and means that you are near orgasm. When you get that feeling maybe try to keep touching yourself, but maybe more lightly or not directly on your pleasure points. It just takes time and practise.

Well it is different from school to school. I have a Sociology Major, and a Religious Studies minor. I can't really say what the value of a minor is, that's a hard question to answer. Mine has taught me about different religions and I feel like I will be more culturally sensitive when I go travelling. We have very few prepackaged double majors at my school. Most people I know who have done double majors did it because they wanted to strengthen their degree, or because they had a strong interest in two subjects. Usually at my school it will take a bit longer than the standard 4 years to complete all the requirements for a double major, unless you make the decision very early on in your degree. Also you will have less electives in other courses, which can be a turn off if you want a well rounded education. At least at my school you don't always have to have something that goes hand in hand. I know people who have taken a wide variety of double majors, however again I think it will vary depending on the university. Your best bet is to talk to a counselor about how long it will take to complete everything for a double major or what your options are there. If you do a double major though make sure you choose something else that you love, I think that is key as you probably won't have much room for option courses.

I think there is a general difference between college guys and high school guys. By college everyone has matured a bit, and everything isn't so superficial. I think there is more of an interest in dating a diversity of women, rather than just the barbie dolls. I never had anyone interested in me in high school, I thought I was ugly and it just seemed so weird in college when guys started taking an interest in me. I am sure you are beautiful and now you have found someone who sees that, and is loving and accepting of you. I agree with versat though, don't act like you worship him. I think you need to realize that you are great and you do deserve him, and just show him how much you love him. You are equally amazing and that is why he is with you. I don't really know how you can get over what you feel, I think it is just a self-confidence thing. Just remember you are out of high school and have now found someone who loves you for who you are, and it was only a matter of time before that happened. Just keep telling yourself that YOU are amazing and YOU deserve this guy, because it's true. I also think it's good not to overthink things, and overanalyze things, I think that is what leads to these feelings. I overanalyze everything and I think I have learned if something is going great it's better to just enjoy it rather than to try and understand why it's happening to me. You have found something that sounds incredibly beautiful, so I hope you can continue to embrace it.

I have heard it can reduce your night vision. Did you experience that at all?

I don't think anyone here can or should try to answer what is in the best interest for your marriage and family. Have you tried counselling? It seems like you should definitely make sure all avenues are exhausted before you make the decision to leave, if that is what you decide to do. Also, it is just my opinion but I don't think your children should all be sleeping in your bed. I think that is fine once in awhile but I think when it is happening EVERY night it can seriously strain marital relations.

When you put the condom on be sure to pinch the end of it. This ensures there is space left at the end, and if you don't do that it is quite likely that the condom will break. Also if you are going to use a lubricant dont use anything fancy, just use ky jelly. It would probably be a good idea if you found it dry and would make it more pleasurable for both of you. Also make sure you are doing enough foreplay before hand to get her turned on, as this will help make sure there is enough natural lubricant during sex.

Ok, now here's a question.. Do you ever worry that when you do find someone you will be, umm, shall we say lacking in sexual technique? I didn't have boyfriends in high school or anything, so I'm not very experienced. I worry that if I find someone I like and start dating them, I just won't measure up as far as kissing and other things go.. I actually had this problem this summer when I was dating a guy for about a month and when we first made out he told me that I hide my lips when I kiss.. Whatever that means. I just don't want to disappoint my partner when I do find them ](*,)

I have also been single for 3.5 years. Even before then I only had one casual, long distance relationship. I've gone on a few dates but so far haven't met anyone I have a mutual interest in. I figure it's got to happen soon though, and it will for the rest of you who are waiting too. All men want sex, but that's not the only thing men want. I know men who are greatly interested in romance and a partner to share life with. I think the best way to go is to try and find activities that interest you, where you can meet new people while doing them. This way you are keeping yourself busy and expanding your social circle to include more people who share your passions. It does suck sometimes though. I get pretty lonely and wish I had someone to share in my life with me and give my love to.. I feel like I've been waiting forever

I think the English degree would be the best way to go. While you are doing it could you volunteer some time at the campus radio station, or write for the campus newspaper? That way you can start getting some work experience. I don't really know though. I've been thinking about journalism too. I already have a BA (Sociology Major, Religious Studies Minor), and I've been thinking about doing a Master's in Journalism. I think really either path can get you where you want to go, talent, hard work, and a little luck probably have as much to do with it as which degree you choose.

Yikes. I have a very strong prescription, and I can't really wear contacts anymore because they irritate my eyes due to years of overwear. I hate wearing glasses though because they make my eyes look so tiny.. I've been thinking of laser surgery but I'm still unconvinced that it is worth the risk.

He was practically married when we first met, having been in a relationship with a live-in girlfriend for about 5 years. That ended about 6 months after we met, and during the time I was single I kind of hinted that I was interested, but I got the impression that he was not. It was also at this time I started to show the needy, insecure side of myself which I'm guessing was a real turn off and has probably killed any chance of romance. About 4 months after his breakup he met someone 11 years younger, he was 28 she was 17, and dated her up until a few weeks ago. This absolutely crushed me as I felt like he had chosen this teenage girl over me and I didn't understand it. This led to me saying a lot of nasty things to him that I really regret. I just really believe there was a spark there when we first met, but I know for him it is now gone. We've been through so much as friends in the past two years and he has put up with so much from me, I wonder if it is too late to rekindle the spark? I just don't know what to do. Do I keep trying and hoping or do I forget about him? I've tried to date other guys but haven't met anyone that lights me up like he does. I would like to move on but a little part of me (that has been wrong before) keeps telling me to hold on. Also if I am to move on I don't know how to do that and still keep a strong friendship with him. I love his friendship. He is moving because he got an amazing job offer, one he couldn't turn down, and one I would never ask him to turn down. I couldn't be happier for him in that regard.

I say you are young and there is nothing wrong with you! Just do what you are comfortable with. If you meet someone you like, the more time you spend with them and become comfortable around them, the easier the intimacy will become. Just don't rush into anything as you are still young and there is lots of time to explore your sexuality. I think people can get nervous about intimacy at any age. I think the key is to find someone you like and know well enough to be comfortable with, that makes it a lot easier.

Two and a half years ago I met an amazing guy. I feel we clicked instantly and developed a great friendship. However there was one problem. I started falling in love with him from the day I met him. This has caused a lot of problems in our friendship, I've been jealous, bitter, resentful, needy, and just about everything else under the sun towards him. I realize I have major self-esteem issues that, mixed with my feelings for him, cause me to act like this. We fight a lot, on and off, mostly due to my insecurity with the friendship, however he still claims I am his best friend despite all the drama we have. Anyways, things are now changing. He is moving to a new city (2000 miles away), and I will probably only see him a few times a year at best. He is also very involved in his career, and has a hard time maintaining friendships. So I am of course worried that we will drift apart even though I know I can't control that. I don't know what to do though. I feel like I need to get over him. I've been somewhat of a crappy friend to the guy, though at other times our friendship is amazing. I think he knows I love him, but he has had several committed relationships since I've known him and never attempted to initiate anything with me. Part of me thinks that there is something between us, but the spark just hasn't been ignitated yet due to my own emotional issues, as I'm sure the emotional basketcase I am can be quite a turn off. However I know I have to stop thinking like this, as it is likely wasting my life away when he doesn't want me, at least right now. But I don't know what to do. How can I stop being in love with someone, and keep the cherished friendship we have? I have been in love with him for two years, and to lose that love while keeping the friendship seems impossible. Sometimes I think I need to cut him out of my life completely, but I don't have many close friends, and he is truly the best friend I've ever had, so I just can't imagine doing that either. I don't know what to do, I can't live with the pain of unrequited love anymore though.

Here is the UK organization that can help you plan your trip abroad. It has info on all the countries you can work in. It has a lot of info and could probably answer a lot of questions you have: link removed I got my work visa by going through the equivalent organization to bunac that we have here in Canada. It took about 5 weeks to get my work visa from the time I applied for it. You don't need any qualifications as these are working visas designed specifically for young people who want to have a working holiday. Some of the programs do require you to have been a student in the last year in order to get a work visa. The Work America program does, as well as Work South Africa. However many other programs like Work Canada, Work Australia, and Work New Zealand, do not require student status. I saved up about $7,000 Canadian before I went. My flight was around $2,000, so I went over with about $5,000. This was enough to allow me to not have to work for a couple months after I arrived. There are minimum amounts that each country requires you to prove you have in your bank account before they will grant you a work visa, so that they know you can afford to support yourself when you first arrive in the country. I would recommend working hard and saving as much as possible before you leave, as once you get there you will not want to start working right away, as you will be in a new place and will want to explore. I know this may suck and it may mean it takes longer before you leave, but it is really the best thing to do. Also, your currency is worth more than the currency of any country you will be travelling to, so it is better to make as much money as you can before you leave home. Don't expect to make a lot of money at the jobs you will get overseas, most of them are casual, often seasonal, employment. When I went to New Zealand I stayed mostly in hostels. Hostels are places where travellers stay that can have anywhere from 4-12 people to a room depending on the hostel, and have communal bathrooms and kitchens. Some of them have bars or restaurants attached to them as well. Staying in hostels allows you to save money on accomadations and also meet other people who are travelling on a tight budget. My first job was at an apple orchard, picking apples 10 hours a day. It was tough work but met lots of cool people and had fun nights at the hostel which was filled with mostly apple pickers. Then I worked at a cafe in a small town, which was cleaner work and a bit better pay. When I got this job I moved out of the hostel and into an apartment with some people which is a good option if you are going to be staying in one place for a long time. After that I worked at a resort on an island about 100km off the coast of Auckland. The pay was almost nothing but my room and board was covered, and it was a beautiful island to relax on.

Hi there, I'm a bit older than you, and went through the same thing when I was younger. First, no one in my family believed I would go to university. No one before me had gone to university, and out of several generations of our family I was only the second to graduate high school. I did go to university for a year, but I was lost and didn't know what I wanted to do with my life, so I decided to look into travelling. My family told me I couldn't do it, it would be a waste of money, etc, etc. You just have to develop a thick skin and believe in yourself. I went to New Zealand on my own when I was 19 years old. It was difficult, I was nervous, I had never been overseas or even on a plane before. But I was so determined and I just did it. Where do you live right now? And where do you want to go? There are programs for young adults that allow them to get work overseas in certain countries that their home countries have made agreements with. This can be a good way to go if you want to travel for more than a couple of weeks, and really get to experience a place. I got one of these work visa's when I went to New Zealand and it was great. You don't have to be rich to travel overseas, but you will probably have to save at least a couple thousand dollars. Anyways let me know where you are from and I will get back to you with more detailed information. Also, feel free to ask me any questions you have.