caligurl

Let me explain something to you..... i messed up around in my past, but it was a mistake. i grew up on my own with no parents because they were drug atticks. i never had anyone to teach me right from wrong. i started makeing bad choices... sleeping around,, etc.. drugs.. etc..... but now i graduated high school i'm going to a university and i am doing great..... i regret my past but i can only make my future better.. my bf found out i slept around.. and he was hurt... but we got through it... my point is, if your gf did things in the past forgive her.. it's never too late to start a new.. if you love her... don't worry about her past and start worrying about your guy's future... in a few months or so ... see if she wants to marry you and start a family... don't worry about the past because you won't be able to change it

Hey everyone i am in a very bad situation and i need some help. Me and my boyfriend have been together now for 7 months. but we've been good friends for almost 2 years. the first 2 weeks into our relationship he was arrested and was in jail for 30 days... when he was in jail i had gotten drunk and there were guys that were hitting on me but i pushed them away... i told them i had a boyfriend and NO i never ever cheated on him... i ended up going home... well i never told my boyfriend because i was scared... he found out and wasn't too happy he thinks that i cheated on him because he knows the guy that was hitting on me... the guy that was hitting on me told everyone that we had did things together.. But i DIDN'T... i don't know if he was telling everyone that because he wanted to brag... i don't know.. but i swear i never cheated on him.... well yesterday my boyfriend started calling me names that i'm a b**** and a hoe and things like that and that he doesn't give a S*** about me...... now today he was alot more calmed and told me that he loves me and he said that things had changed now and they won't be the same... i can't stop crying I don't know what i would do with out him i love him soo soo soo much...i know it was wrong for drinking that night i should have never went with my friends but i did back off and i never ever cheated on him and i don't know why he doesn't believe me.. he says that he doesn't know if he wants to be with me and i don't blame him for being mad and upset but i never cheated.... i don't know what i would do.... please help me because i can't live without him....

hey everyone, if you read my story from yesterday get this, he comes home crying. i had said something on why he is treating me like this and he got really upset. he started saying everything at once to where i couldn't understand him. He says he is a really really jeolous person and that he's lost alot of his relationships over his jeoulousy. He couldn't stop crying and i've never seen him like that... so is he really cheating on me or did he accuse me because of his jeoulousy, i'm really confused and i don't wanna be in this situation... it hurts me really bad... what should i do...?

Hey everybody I'm sad to say i'm back again with a different relationship and this one is not working out again. My boyfriend is accusing me of cheating and lying and all that stuff. i can't go anywhere, talk to anybody, i can't even talk to my sister. He accuses me of cheating all the time and i found out the other day that he was hanging out with these girls while i was at work. he never picked me up from work the other night and he came back home around 11:30 pm all drunk. then he never picked me up from school at 2:30 and he didn't come back home until 10:30 at night drunk again. he never called during that time, nothing. it's really hurting me. i like him alot but i don't know what to do. i dont' have any friends anymore because of him. well i gotta go but i'll explain the rest later.

Hey everyone i need some help. I've known this guy for a year now and i've always liked him but everyone told me he was a player. Well now we've gotten together. We've been together for almost a month. It's been really cool. He got me a necklace and no ones ever gotten me anything. and one night about a week and a half ago he started crying because earlier that day i was telling my dad how much ive been wanting a car and all this stuff. and he started crying saying "i can't get or a car or anything you want, i'm a nobody." and i looked at him and told him i don't care about the money or gifts or anything i said all i care about is you... and he tells me he misses me when he's not around me. he calls me all the time... but now here's my problem... he's in jail right now for only 50 days. i went and seen him earlier too. but anyways, he just called me and we were talking and i said that i was gonna go hang out with my new friend alison....he started saying "oh well things are different now and i've been hearing stuff about you that i didn't wanna hear." i heard that you were a hoe" and i got so hurt i started crying but i didn't let him know and then he changed the subject. and then he asked me if i was gonna go and hang out with my friend and i said "no i don't know now" and he said " oh well i hope it wasn't anything i said" i said no. and to tell you the truth i've been hurt my whole life and i've never been in a healthy relationship, and to tell you the truth, i did sleep around but not because i wanted to but because i was always lonely. i would sleep with a guy the first night and always hoped that he would stay with me, i was raped a couple of the times. and then i gained strenghth and havent' been with anybody in a year and now i'm so confused i had forgotten what love feels like. and when he said that he heard of me being a hoe, i knew what he was talking about. i'm scared. should i tell him the truth??? if he leaves me does that mean he doesn't understand me?? i don't know what to believe anymore. and on the phone earlier he even kept saying he misses me and stuff. and i had told him not to hurt me...because i don't wanna get hurt again. can somebody please help me?!? i just can' t stop crying. i'm hurt so bad.

thanks for the advice. i have an update but it's not much. now he won't reply my text messages and he won't answere is phone. i had no sleep last night from crying so much. i know i have to let him. but i guess if i let him maybe he will come back to me in a year or two when i'm a lil older and when i move back. if he doesn't come back then i guess it was never meant to be.

gurl i know how you feel. infact you remind me of you, everyone always tell me i look older (i'm 15) and i am way mature for my age. the guy i am in love with is 22. i was 13 and he was 20 when we first got together. he says he never looked at me being this young. but your mom is right, keep in touch if it' s something you know is real then don't throw it away. you can email me if u wanna talk about any problems with this. i know what you are going through.

gurl i'm 15 myself and i'm in love with a 22 year old. all i can say is yea,its a big age difference but it's the love and the feelings that count.

hey. i am practically in the same situation only bigger. i am 15 and the guy i'm in love with is 22. i really don't care about the age difference. it's the love and true feelings that count. but i think your dad is just looking out for you. i never had a dad so be thankful you have one that cares about you.

I met my first love two years ago. i had met him through a friend. ever since the day i met him i knew that i had liked him. well about a month later my friend trista and her boyfriend will (my friends that introduced me to him) they had thrown a party. the party was great. about an hour into it troy (the guy i like) had started to flirt with me. i was really shy because i had never had a boyfriend before and i knew i liked him. well later that night about 3 a.m, troy had walked me home. when he walked me to his house, before he left he asked if he could kiss me and i said yes. it was great, from then on i knew i truly loved him plus he was a really nice guy. the thing is, from that night on we secretly seen each other (we decided not to tell our friends because of our age difference. he was 20 and i was 14!!!) about 2 months into our relationship, our friends through another party. well that didn't go to well. Troy had gotten drunk and i got drunk and he told people we were together. the whole party turned into a fight. all the guys jumped him because of the age difference. the next day i was forced to move 30 hours away to california. after that night we never spoke. well after 8 months, we had got in contact again. my friend trista decided to forgive me about the whole incident and she gave me his number. i gave him a call and he was surprised. since then we were talking again for about 8 months and he started to tell me he loved me and he wanted to be with me. i fealt the same way for him. we always talked about how much we were gonna be together when i got back home. well we lost contact again for a month and a half due to phone problems. well when we started talking abain this month, i told him i will be coming home for christmas. it seemed like he had changed. he doesn't tell me he loves me that much anymore. he never answeres my phone calls and when he does he says he can't talk because he is with his friends (friends that can't know he is talking to me) i know for the past year and a half we haven't seen each other, that he has been seeing other girls, i try not to let it bother me because i don't care how far away i am from him i won't ever be with or love somebody as much as i wanna be with him. i never really told him how i fealt. well, i guess my point is,is that should i let him go? he is also an alcholic and 95%of the time i talk to him he is drunk and he is a big a**h*** when he is drunk. i cry all the time. i don't know what to do. i thought of going to his work but i am really scared. i'm just really confused. is he truly my love or was it just a teenage puppy love that i thought was love? he knows i'm home too. is he telling me he can't talk or not replying my text messages when i text him i love him that he doesn't wanna be with me?? i feel if he doesn't wanna be with me then he should tell me instead of me being hurt. please give me ideas on what to say or do. i feel i would do anything for this guy. my time is running out, i'll only behere til' the 26th!!!

hey. i know how you feel. but when you said you guys broke up becuz you were crying and and stuff and he told you that you were childish becuz you were crying. gurl, don't ever take that from a guy. never apoligize for you emotions either. and if he gets angry for you crying then he is not the one for you. he should be supportive and be a man about it. i think you should really move on.

hey. i know how you feel. i was forced to move 30 hours away from my first and only tru love due to personal problems, but even tho we are far apart i don't see other guys. he has a new girlfriend and it hurts really bad. i told him how i truly fealt just like you told your love. but what got me was, when you said you told him you were sorry for getting upset. gurl, you should never apoligize for your emotions to any guy. your tru emotions are what you really feel deep down inside and you should say your sorry because it's not your fealt. if things work out between you guys then that is great and i am happy for you. just remember, you should never apoligize for how you really feel. thank you

hi. i know how you feel. i was forced to move 24 thousand miles away from my first love (my only love). i can never sleep at night. everynight i get about maybe 4 hours asleep. most of the time i will cry myself to sleep. i can understand what you are going through. maybe you should call him at night so he can comfort you even tho he is not there. that's what i try to do. but love is love and there is no changing your emotions.

yea i don't think you should be with him. my boyfriend is an alcholic himself. when we talk on the phone when he is drunk it turns into something like that, but only worse. i'm stupid just to still be with him. but even tho he is an alcholic i still believe in us and i believe he can change. you should try talking to him. if he doesn't stop getting drunk and yelling at you, you shouldn't be with him. If you ask him to quit, if he says no, leave him right away. trust me i grew up around alcholics i know how they are. thank you.

i met this guy almost two years ago in january of 2004. and i had met him thru a friend. the day i met him i knew i liked him. there's just one problem, the age difference. there is a 6 year difference and i am the minor. one night about 2 months after i knew him, we went to a party at my friends house and he was there. after the party it was about 3 am and he had walked me home. i was kind of nervous because i knew i liked him and at the party he had flirted wit me. well, as he walked me home we went in my backyard to say goodbye, he had asked if he could kiss me. i said yes, and after that i knew i liked him alot. we continued to secretely see each other without telling our friends. but after 2 months, we went to another party at our friends house and he got drunk and told everyone we were together. it was horible it just turned into a huge fight and he was beat up because of it. the next day, not only did all our friends find out, but my family found out. they sent me 24 thousands miles away to go live with my parents in california. (i grew up with my cousins aunt and uncle my whole life i never lived with my parents before now) so after that night we didn't speak again. because it was just 2 days that i was sent to california. well anyways, we lost contact for 8 months. i was back in contact with him after my good friend forgave me for seeing him (she was mad at me cuz of the age difference between us) and she gave me his number. we were talking again for 4 months until he told me that he loves me and he wants to be with me. he tells me every nite we talk that as soon as i come home he will come and see me. well we lost contact again for a month and a half due to phone problems. we got back in touch and he still tells me he loves me, but i don't believe him anymore. i don't believe him anymore because he has been with other girls lately. i know i can't blame him, but even tho we are 24 thousand miles apart, i don't see other guys. guys try to hit on me but i tell them i have a boyfriend. it's not about sex to me. just because he's far away doesnt mean i need someone else to satisfy me. i feel that if i love someone i will stay with them and not cheat on them. even if i am far away. but why can't he do the same???i try not to think about it but it kills me. well i am back in town and he knows that. for the past two nights i texted him to ask if he could talk and he said no. so i texted him back to tell him i love him and he hasn't told me back. i don't get it. i never really told him how much i care about him. i dont' wanna lose him. he is my first love and i want it to stay that way. i don't know what to do?? should i let him go for the next year and a half until we can actually have a real relationship???in a year and a half i will be moving back home for sure. but should i let him go and try to see other people??? i really don't know what to do. i'm lost. i cry alot over him. i cry at friends, at school, and at home. almost everyday. please i need help i don't know what to do. everytime i talk with him, i always tell myself i will tell him how i really feel about this. but i always get scared. i just wanna know why he has to see other girls just because i'm far away. to me it isn't right and it really does hurt. i always have him on my mind. i just wish i could tell him everything that is on my mind. i'm just scared because i don't wanna lose him again.