Byakugan

Hello all, I was wondering if anybody could offer me some advice. I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. We are very happy together and she is the type that is heavy into commitment. The problem is she is /very/ paranoid about getting pregnant. She is on birth control pills and we always use a condom but she is also reluctant to have full on intercourse. We do outercourse/frottage and it is nice and we both orgasm that way but still if there is even a hint that some sperm might have leaked out the base of the condom she will be anxiouse for weeks and convinced she is pregnant until she has her period (and her pills give her a period only four times a year so it can be quite a while) What can I say or do to put her at ease? I love her very much and would never leave her because of it. I'm willing to wait until she is ready but I get the feeling that if I do not help reassure her, she never will be. Can anybody help? Thanks, Byaku PS: If anyone is curious I'm 22 and she is 21

Hello all, I was wondering if anybody could offer me some advice. I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now. We are very happy together and she is the type that is heavy into commitment. The problem is she is /very/ paranoid about getting pregnant. She is on birth control pills and we always use a condom but she is also reluctant to have full on intercourse. We do outercourse/frottage and it is nice and we both orgasm that way but still if there is even a hint that some sperm might have leaked out the base of the condom she will be anxiouse for weeks and convince she is pregnant until she has her period (and her pills give her a period only four times a year so it can be quite a while) What can I say or do to put her at ease? I love her very much and would never leave her because of it, I'm willing to wait until she is ready but I get the feeling that if I do not help reassure her, she never will be. Can anybody help? Thanks, Byaku Edit: If anyone is curious I'm 22 and she is 21

Well she wrote me back saying that she's pretty busy this week too. So I think I've finally gotten the hint. Thankyou all for your advice, helped me see the situation for what it was. Hopefully I can improve for the future. -B

I met this girl at a party and we hit it off big time. Same interests, same age (21) good rapport, both jewish. Unless I'm not as bright as I think i am she was giving signs ("You're not gay or attached are you?") She's the first person I've met in a long time I feel so compatable with. We met the next week for dinner (I picked up the check) and then watching some videos at her place. Furthest I went was putting an arm around her and kissing her good night on the forehead...didn't want to come off too strong on a first date. After that I haven't been able to see her for five weeks. She had rehersal and then opening week for a show she was in, then there was a vacation from college where I went home. I kept in touch all this time, went to see her show, talked to her online, though more often than not I'dbe the one who initiates the conversations, but she seems to enjoy chatting with me. We got back two weeks ago and we made plans to get together tomorrow. I'd planned to surprise her by cooking dinner since theres nothing all that exciting to do around where I am. before I could tell her she messaged me tonight saying she has to reschedule because a thing with her friends came up that she forgot about. She said we can reschedule for later in the week. I think about her alot and I really want it to work between us. Most relationships I've had have never gotten past "lets just be friends." Have i done something wrong? Am I being paranoid and sabotaging myself, reading too much into what could be an honestly busy schedule? What should I do? Thanks in advance for any help -B