Ex-Girlfriend is Pregnant shortly after breakup in Breaking Up Advice Posted March 3, 2007 It sounds like you guys are on different pages. She seems more ambitious. Is sounds like she was interested in having a future with you which is why she was doing so much planning. However, at the time you were interested in partying. It only seems natural that she would move on. She's buying a home and saving, but you haven't saved. It's not that one is right and the other is wrong it's just THAT YOU GUYS SEEM INCOMPATIBLE. That's it. Sorry, it took a little while to get it out. If you want to plan a future together then you both have to sacrifice. It doesn't make sense for her to move to your neighborhood, and leave her good paying job and home. Espicially to work as a secretary?! I've been a secretary, but if I get a job that pays MUCH better I'm not going to want to give that up for less. And why should she move to where you are. You haven't proved to her that you're dependable. She couldn't depend on you to support her, you want to hang out, party, you don't own a place of your own, and you don't seem serious about work. And it also seems selfish that you wouldn't want to move to where she is. Espicially sense you mentioned (twice I think) that there were plenty of opportunities in her town, and no opportunities for her in your town. It seems like you're really demanding and maybe resentful of her in some form or fashion. It sounds like you didn't want to grow with her, you wanted to pull her back, you wanted her to digress. If you read over your post, I think it's clear that she was better off moving on, as are you. If you want to party and have fun, live your life to the fullest. But don't expect her to give up all of her hopes and dreams. She may be pregnant right now, but at least she'll be able to provide for her child. If she had quit her job, moved in with you and gotten pregnant, would she have been as well off??? It doesn't sound like it.