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For starts this girl already has a bf so I respect that and not gonna do anything here,but just one of those curious thoughts here. would it be wrong or not for a 24 year old and 17?? which i'm 24 and the girl is 17. she's a girl from work,which i've gained a crush on but not gonna act on it just because she has a bf. she's a pretty cool girl. very friendly,nice,smart,has a good heart. type that i'd like

I like this girl from work ( though she's back in college now which is 2 hours way) anyhow awhile back I sent her a message on myspace just stating that I have feelings for her such. which I didn't really want to say it over the internet but was either that or at work. which my chances would be low. at the time with her leaving soon I didn't want to ask her to hang out just to tell her that. haha Since at work she was back and forth with me. at times seemed distant,uncomfortable,uneasy...other times she was fine with saying hi,bye,this and that. with grins...a time or two I was in the back room working on something and she'd come back there to use the copy machine. we ended up having that moments of silence which I just froze with nerves lol she ended up eventually speaking up first,just ask if I was having fun with what I was doing. After 2 weeks with her no reply to my message. I just went ahead and sent her another message. stating that it wasn't fair to her with my wanting an answer with her leaving soon and having a million things going on. I just said i'll back off from the topic and keep in touch/chat as friends. which she replied back stating that would be fine with her. told me good luck at work..have a nice fall,where she might be back for a bit during her fall break to work. anyway since I've sent her 3 messages just stating random things like about my life,work,hoping everything is going well for her. everyone she's read but didn't reply. maybe i'm overracting but in this case is that a bad sign?? I wasn't gonna use this as an excuse here but she does have that fear of commitment,which she's never told me that but I happened to come accross it one day awhile back on her myspace where she has a survey posted on there and she put that for the biggest fear part.

could fear of commitment cause a person to be indecisive with their actions by going back and forth?? this girl that I like has fear of commitment,which she didn't tell me face to face,where actually I notice it on her myspace page lol she has one of those surveys and one question is biggest fears and she put commitment. not saying this is the case with me or not just wanting your opinions anyhow on this topic. anyway she and I work with each other,where I only see her at work and talk off and on,on myspace. recently I have gain this feelings for her and the problem is she's leaving for college soon which is 2 hours away from here. like what should I do. haha I decided to send her a myspace message just spilling my feelings yet keeping it cool just because she is leaving soon and no time to start anything if she were to be interested. she read my message last tuesday and has let to respond back to it. at work since she's been back and forth with me. where at times she doesn't say anything to me and seems distant. when i'm near her at times IN MY OPINION she seems jumpy,uncomfortable...well whatever the right term to use here. other times she'll talk to me by saying hi,bye this and that in a nice friendly tone. yeah it's confusing haha

I'm in a little tough spot here on what to do. I just started to get interested in this girl from work just within the last couple of weeks. where i'm 23 and she's 19. we only talk at work and from the computer on myspace off and on. my just becoming interested came at a sucky timing that she's moving away next month into a apartment nearby where her college is which is 2 or 3 hours away. she'll be there for the most part for another 3 or 4 years or however long that she's studying to become a pharmacist. another one of those what would you do question. would you just go ahead and spill about the liking to this person or keep your mouth shut with the person leaving soon

say if someone has a fear of commitment,what kind of signs might they show with someone that he/she likes?? let me guess they won't show any signs? lol just act nervous around the person?

hey everyone.... kinda in a tough spot on what to do. about this girl which was pretty much my first crush growing up and I liked her for a good portion of my childhood but I didn't do anything about it because of shyness and other reasons..well years ago maybe 4 or 5 years ago she and b/f at the time broke up so I decided to finally give it a try which she stated just wanted to be friends. I had to be Ok with it then and move on. currently we're both on great terms,,pretty good friends. past few years she's been away at college which she just graduated from college recently so she's back home now well lately like my old feelings for her are starting to come out again just by seeing her several times in the past couple of weeks and just hearing her name come up many times. like my feelings never left me. I know it's my decision but say if it was any of you would you eventually discuss this topic with this certain person or just keep quiet and continue with the friendship only.

not really a question here just curious if anyone has been thru this sorta situation. where say you turned someone down because you weren't interested yet after time passed you started to realize you have feelings for so and so.

OK I don't know yet if this is the situation with me but just curious about others out there if they've been thru this sorta situation like for example say you were concentrating on just staying single because you were leaving for college in a matter of months or moving..whatever the reason was,out of the blue you gain interest in someone plus found out that person likes you back but decided you wanted to hold back and just tell the person want to stay strictly friends because leaving in a few months or however long.

OK first off i'm not saying all girls are full of gossip,where they like to go to their friends and state every little thing that happens lol well about this girl that I like,but she just wants to stay friends,so she and I are just friends,but doesn't mean i'm not still frustrated about the situation,so i'm still venting ( well venting by meaning i'm frustrated but never said anything bad about the girl..all positive remarks)with friends. well couple of my friends just happens to be close friends with the girl that I like. those 2 friends i've vented to a lot about this. I got to thinking,what if they go to her and spill everything i've told them. just in general speaking,could that be highly possible.

she doesn't work anymore for the rest of the week,so next week i've decided to ask her to do something again. knowing she'll be around others,i'll probably just ask her if I could talk to her alone for a moment in another room or somewhere to have privacy. might be a little awkward to her but what I have to do. thinking how i've been wanting to say this..how does this sound? "First off I was wondering if you wanted to hang out again sometime soon because I enjoy being around you and would love to get to know you better. how about going bowling this weekend?" right now I don't have a vehicle,so I feel weird asking her out then say she has to drive us but I can't help it. plus I think she knows about my lack of vehicle but i'll probably state that to her.

little update: last night near closing time I asked her how she's doing,well she looked away from me with a grin on her face and said fine. I said that her hair looks nice which she said thanks.. she said gonna get killed with that storm.( we had a blizzard) I said yeah wednesday when I joked about probably getting a snow storm i'd probably have to work alone,well that might actually happen tomorrow. she didnt' say much,I said have good night and she rushed out the door. today I did anything today to get her to talk,even say some smart * * * remark back to me. when she got to work I said ( her name) came back to work,she kept quiet then. she left to run an errand,when she got back she was ready to open the door,well I stopped it with my foot. I kinda grinned at her and she didn't say a word and no reaction at all. she ended up tracking rocks all over the place,so another woman got the broom and she got the dust pan. well when she went to put the dust pan back I'm like (her name) making a mess sheesh. she went to walk away then just looked down to the floor while walking and ended up saying one word " always" then I'd ask her a job related question then she'd talk a little.

First off there's this girl that I like from work and she's 20 years old and i'm 23. she and I have always gotten along pretty well with talking and joking around. awhile back she and I were more flirty/sarcastic with each other. I decided I'd give it a try here. I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime which right then she got all speechless and hesitant plus kept changing the subject. after that i decided to cool it. since that time she's been giving me mixed signals,where one moment she's talkative,smiles,jokes then she'll turn around and get shy like with me with quiet, lack of response, and limited eye contact. of course frustration started to hit. I ended up talking to one of her friends which happens to be one of my friends as well. she said that this girl likes to seem blunt and outspoken but really is a quiet keep to herself kinda girl. truthfully she's never had a b/f and never really been on a date. where she doesn't know how to show affection in that way w/o getting uncomfortable which leads to mixed signals. gets uncomfortable where she doesn't probably know how to act or what to do. stated when this girl does like someone she won't tell the person just because of afraid of rejection. couple weeks ago I decided to ask her again about hanging out for that week she said yes but had few tests to study for during the week,so nothing happened. week after I asked her again and she agreed once more.this past monday we were suppose to do something. well closing time she was ready to walk out the door. I asked her is tonight still on..she's oooh I forgot,where I think she was embarrassed afterwards,she smiled then said how about wednesday? which I agreed. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. spring break,she's always busy doing something. this past Wednesday after work I met her at DQ. which she was already inside,sitting at a booth with a drink and reading a magazine. I went over to her and she had a grin on her face. I said get whatever you want it's my treat,she said she wasn't that hungry,so I said i'll be right back,which I just got something to drink as well that i wasn't that hungry.(that I was full of nerves lol) when I got back she grinned and had a little surprised look I guess she figured i would get a meal. I said I wasn't hungry either. she said she doesn't eat dinner that much anymore just because getting off work so late anyhow she and I talked about anything,just random stuff. she was really talkative but limited eye contact. she talked about probably doing something afterwards with friends or go somewhere which that made me feel good just because she took the time to do this especially not getting something to eat at a dining place. we were there for 30-45 minutes. say i'd say something silly or whatever,she'd just smile and say that's funny. while leaving she spoke up first saying see ya or have a good one. I said have a goodnight. well Yesterday,I thought just maybe from our hang out she'd open up more well I was wrong,she was back to being quiet and limited eye contact. she barely said a word to me thru out the day. later that evening me and boy went over to where the boss and she were. while talking she'd look at the boy,she'd look at the boss but wouldn't look at me. she'd talk to the boss about something,then she'd strike up a conversation with the boy but not me. while leaving she didn't even look at me and I said see ya and she said see ya back think there's possible liking but she's just being shy and scared here with her back and forth actions?

well say a person has that fear of rejection,possibly how might a person act towards someone he/she likes?

since her and I have been working with each other. she's always been nice to me. would laugh at some of my pranks and jokes. awhile back she even said I love that guy,though I didn't take it seriously that girls love to use that line for anyone. we've talked alot and acted silly but actual flirting like her touching me or whatever she's done it here and there.

I'm trying to figure this girl out..I'll explain what has happened the past 2 days for example. she and I both work at a drug store. she's in the pharmacy and I work with OTC items. other day I was almost on my knees looking at items from the bottom shelf and she came over to get something and from behind pushed me on the back trying to knock me down. after she grabbed the item she did it again tried to knock me down. later on I went into the pharmacy to type something into the computer and she sat down at the drive up window and kinda stuck her foot out. which I laughed she just said I tried to keep my balance. I said suuuure trying to trip me so i'd smack my head against the computer screen. she added sarcastic remarks after that and I added mine. also I went back there to grab their garbage container to dump it and at first she was to the side but when I entered she moved where she was right in front of it. don't know maybe she was just busy doing something and didn't realize. I said you're in my way,she added a sarcastic remark. when I brought it back she was standing right in the way again and I said to someone,look at her standing in my way again. she moved and called me mean. yesterday,I got back from lunch and she was there then. I entered the pharmacy,she stood to the side looking at the computer screen and stuck her arm out acting like she was gonna poke me with her pen. I said you trying to stab me. later on she and someone else were eating some ice cream cake and I went over and took her plate away while she was eating. she had that serious/tough expression on her face and grabbed it back. mintues later I was to the side talking onto the phone and while walking past she acted like she was gonna smack her paper plate into my face. later on after that,I went back there again and said that you tried to smack your plate into my face i'm gonna take the rest of that cake and rub it all over your car. she acted sarcastic after that by saying,what are you talking about. why would I do a thing like that by smash my plate into your face. I said something to someone else that was standing there with a silly comment. she told me to get out! that she doesn't like me and that i'm * * *. I just laughed at her and she looked at me and smiled. after a little while I stayed back there talking to her and another boy. while she was talking she looked at me alot,though she looked at the other as well so maybe that means nothing. plus wasn't like a serious expression with her eyes. like her eyes had a little grin though she kept that thru out with whomever.

Just curious if the chances are great for a guy/girl to really like someone alot,but instead of moving forward by starting something. the person ends up moving backwards and acts like they aren't interested because of being too indecisive,quiet/shy,scared,lack of experince possibly? plus if the person is in college that could be another factor