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Hey Cid, no I haven't chilled with her since the tournie. We've talked on MSN and message each other on Facebook once in awhile, but that's pretty much it. It's been the exam period the last couple of weeks here and I didn't wanna distract her from her studies (her last exam is next Friday). She's also goin back home for Christmas the same day as her last exam so I doubt I'll be seeing her anytime soon. I was however planning on mentioning the idea of us hanging out, for whenever she comes back from the holidays, next time we had a chat on MSN though...

Hey all, my situation is like this. I met a girl in a UNI soccer tournament not too long ago. At first I wasn't really lookin at the tournie as an opportunity to scope out on the ladies or anythin cos I was strictly at the tournie for the soccer and makin friends... HEHE. Anyways, in team discussions and stuff... I'd be crackin jokes or just talkin with some of the other teammates and I'd notice her lookin at me. She also never said anythin directly to me but would smile or laugh when I cracked a joke to ppl around us before I started talkin to her. So, I decided to talk to her 1-on-1 later on during the tournie. Anyways, after the tournie I got her MSN so we'd be able to keep in touch and stuff. Oh yeah, a couple of weeks after the tournie and after talkin once or twice on MSN, she invited me to join her Co-Ed team for next semester. She didn't invite any of the other guys from our previous team though, so I don't know if it means anythin. Anyways, movin on to the present day. We continue to talk on MSN about once or twice a week till this day. There are some highlights about our chat sessions I'd like to mention to you folks. During our 1st chat she compliment my sense of humour right of the bat, which she also did at the end of the tournie when we started talkin... but I get this from nearly everyone I meet for the 1st time. Also, last week we had a long chat on MSN, where I had suspected that she was might be studyin in front of the COM while also chattin to me at the same time. She didn't seem to want to end the conversation so after bout 2 hrs or so, I decided to end the conversation cos I had a hunch she was probably preoccupied with something else, which she only mentioned at the end of the chat that she was studyin while also talkin to me at the sametime. Our chats flow really well cos we joke a lot and talk bout everythin under the sun, with both sides of the party asking questions and stuff. However, I've realized that I have to initiate the conversation with her all the time. She's never the one who starts the conversation but if we do end of up talkin, the conversation does go on reasonably long (20-30mins minimum if she's busy). Sorry for the length of my post, but what do you guys make of it? Do you guys think she just sees me as a buddy of hers and that she's just a polite/nice person who doesn't blow off people she talks to or do you guys thinks there is interest there but that she's just shy? I know she's 100% single btw... HEHE. So any input would greatly be appreciated. Thanks folks...

Thanks for the replies guys. I sorta sensed that she was interested but like I mentioned before, I'm just taking things slow and steady. We actually only have 1 class together a week, so I'll try and make the best of my chances with her when I see her next week. Still, I can't get over the fact that a girl that attractive is actually showing some interest in me... kinda unexpected... HEHE. Again, thanks for the help guys.

Hey ppl, So yeah, long story short, there's this gal who I sense some interest coming from her way but I just wanna see what y'all have to say about it. Anyways, at first, I didn't think too much of it but lately during our classes, I've noticed her glancing or staring more towards my direction. Like when we have group discussions, she'd sometimes stare at me when I'm speaking in my group, I also caught her eavesdropping when we had a class activity involving us talking about our family backgrounds and our names, and for some odd reason, when somebody cracks a joke, she tends look at me as if to see if I was laughing or smile at the joke too. The thing is, this girl is absolutely gorgeous, and from experience, a gal that pretty probably has a BF already. Anyways, what do you guys make of it? For the time being, I'm just waiting for the right/proper opportunity to talk to her. I've been hurt by the gals that I've pursued before so I'm just taking things exceptionally slow this time around cos I don't wanna end up getting my feelings hurt again. Thanks folks...

hey... Funny enough, I think I fall under this category. Based on what I've heard from others, I'm usually seen as the funny, outgoing, friendly, and energetic guy when I'm interacting with others. BUT, when I'm interested in that special somebody, I tend to get all reserved and shy towards her. I'm not necessarily nervous because I'm generally confident around girls, but I guess I'm just trying to protect my self from exposing too much of my attraction/interest for the gal. So yeah, I guess guys like me do exist in this topsy-turvy world. =)

Hey folks, please oh please fill me in with your opinions/comments on my problem. So yeah, I recently went NC on this girl I was dating (we weren't BF-GF yet) about 1+ mth to be exact. She came back from SanFran from vacation being all cold and flat out ignoring me. So yeah, over the 1 mth I was slowly tryin to overcome the fact that she had probably moved on and probably wasn't interested in myself anymore. But then, yesterday she sends me this message on Friendster: Hey I know you're not expecting this. I just wanted to say I'M REALLY REALLY SORRY for the way i've behaved. I don't know why i acted the way i did. But i'm sure you don't want to hear bullsh*t excuses, so i'll just apologize and be on my way. I understand if you want to hate me forever, i just wanted to let you know that i sincerely feel really bad. Anyway, all the best to you in the future. So, just wanted to ask some questions to all y'all. What's she tryin to pull by doing this? Why did it take her 1 mth to want to say something to me? What should I do with this message? Is she talking to me all of a sudden, cos she was in the V-Day mood? I need help cos I was already distraught with the manner of how she tried to ignore me and I don't think I can live through a repeat of that experience again... Thanks in advance for the help folks...

hmm... a person who's caring, understanding, affectionate, fun, funny, smart but most importantly, genuine in her actions and intentions (i'm kinda old-fashioned )... sadly though, I've never met any girl who possesses all, if not most, of these qualities in them (also think there aren't many of em around anymore)...

thanx folks for da replies... but like i mentioned before, I'm still contemplating on how to act around/towards her come next week cos, though I understand she doesn't owe me nuthin, I still found her actions quite uncalled for cos of her recent actions and disappointed of the false hope she kinda gave me leading up to her trip to SanFran... I also thought by acting cold to her it'd be the only way I can get closure (not playing mindgames) with this matter cos she seems to not want to say or do anything bout da situation... But yeah... folks I have tried to talk, message, and email her over the previously mentioned 10-day period. But she totally ignored all of my approaches and never acknowledged any of them... It's also been like 1-2 weeks since we talked or had any interaction with each other, so I feel that it'd be weird/awkward if I just started talking to her again over sumthin that happened quite awhile back (also cos I don't wanna seem desperate or needy towards her)...

Hey to all, I've sorta posted this before but it was under a different section of this forum... and only 1 person replied to my question. Come on folks I really need sum help with this... So yeah, me and Girl L have gone out twice (basically passed the 1st date phase already), we chat on the phone for lengthy periods, she introduced me to some members of her family, mentioned me in her blog, her body language was positive when we hungout, and there was good chemistry between us. Then over the Christmas break, she tells me she's goin on a vacation to San Francisco for 2 1/2 weeks with her family to visit her sister. I didn't think too much of it cos everybody goes on vacations. Anyways, she gets back from the place and doesn't reply to my short email to her, an SMS I sent to her phone, or even answer my phone call with this all happening over a 10-day period. I kinda stopped trying to contact her after this 10-day period cos I just thought it made me look all desperate and needy about her and also cos I thought she maybe needed sum "space". BUT, a week or so ago, I saw her at College, and as I was passing her in the Coll halls she made the first move to smile and say "Hey" to me (Is she giving me false hope by doing this? Playing mind games perhaps?). When I was already planning on ignoring her because of her exceptionally cold, mean, and immature actions since she came back from San Fran (But could I be making too much of the situation?). So yeah I'm already confused as hell at this point already cos if she's already ignoring me with all other modes of communication, why doesn't she just ignore me also when she "knows" I'm around? Anyways, my question to all of you is whudduya think happened (sum of my friends think she's got her heart set for SanFran cos she's moving there in August)? I'm also probably gonna see her next week for some College event and I thought I'd give her a lil taste of her own medicine by ignoring and acting cold towards her when I see her... but I'm also not sure if i want to stoop that low and be all childish & immature in my actions towards her at the sametime... Sorry for the length of my post but I really, really, really need sum help with this matter. Thanks in advance for the help...

Hey to all, I'll try and keep this as short and direct as possible. Me and Girl L have gone out twice, we chat on the phone for lengthy periods, she has introduced me to some members of her family, mentions me in her blog, her body language was positive, and basically everything was fine and dandy. Then over the Christmas break, she tells me she's goin on a vacation to San Francisco for 2 1/2 weeks with her family to visit her sister. I didn't think too much of it cos hey everybody goes on vacations. Anyways, she gets back from the place and doesn't reply to my short email to her, an SMS I sent to her phone, or even pick up my phone call with this all happening over a 10-day period. BUT, a couple of days ago I see her at College, I pass her in the Coll halls and she makes the first move to smile and say "Hey" to me (Is she giving me false hope by doing this?). I was already planning on ignoring her because I just found her exceptionally cold, mean, and immature with her actions since she came back from San Fran. So yeah I'm already confused as hell at this point already cos if she's already ignoring with all other modes of communication, why doesn't she just ignore me also when she "knows" I'm around?. Anyways, my question to all of you is whudduya think happened (sum of my friends think she's got her heart set for SanFran cos she's moving there in August)? And what/how should I deal with this situation? Thanks in advance for the help...

alrite then... from the response so far, its 3 ppl who feel that she's shy and 1 person who feels that she's not interested... very interesting. But, Dre_7 i totally agree with you and i think i'm experience nearly the exact same thing you went thru last month, i'm just basically waiting for the slightest hint of "confirmed" interest from her before i plan on pursuing the matter any further. But yeah, if i don't get any concrete response from her anytime soon, i'm probably just gonna move on...

yeah, I'll probably slowly warm-up to the idea of asking her out if i feel/see that there's interest coming from her, because right now I'm totally confused with all the signs i'm getting from her... hey PavPPZ1, is the stuff i said in my 1st post usually the tall-tale signs of a girl being uninterested? How can you usually tell when a girl is just uninterested in a guy?

hey lonseomeheartmark, the thing is i've been wanting to ask her out for either lunch or coffee near our Coll campus. But, the signs i'm getting from her are sorta confusing me. Also, my instincts are also sorta telling me that she probably currently thinks of me more as just an acquaintance rather than a friend(because of the way she acts when i'm around her), and is making me reluctant to ask her out yet. Also, from what i've heard and seen, with shy individuals you gotta take everything SLOWLY, like literally snail-like pace when getting to know them...

hey evry1, i'm hoping this is the right forum page to ask this question. Basically, there's this girl that i'm interested in but everytime I walk past her, or make jokes/talk, or come in close proximity with her, she doesn't ever look at me, instead I when I do notice her around, I always just catch her looking down at the floor. Like for goodness sakes, i've only caught her giving me sum eye-contact only twice in recent weeks!!! Also, I spoke to her a couple of times thinking it'll help break the ice, but it still continues to be like so. I've talked to her on a 1-on-1 basis and also in a group-like atmosphere a handful of times. When we do talk in class she doesn't at all seem shy or uncomfortable with our conversations, but outside of class, it's a whole different matter. So my question to all is, what does this mean? Is she shy or does she just want to avoid me so I don't pursue this matter any further? Deep down inside i think there is some interest there, but i'm as blind as a bat when it comes to body language/attraction signs so i might be interpreting what i've been seeing wrongly. Thanks in advance for the help...