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thanks ^^ im trying to be patient, TRYING. lol..

lol, it's 14 hours flight away, not 14 months. she will be back in 1.5 months. It's not that i don't want to keep myself busy, but the thing is during the times i'm busy, i think of her as well, and when im free, noone else if free to go out with me.

She knew about it, and we had lots of fun together. Visited lots of places etc etc. But after returning from the trip, i cant stop thinking of her, and i have that feeling which i described in my first post. argh!

Hey there people, My gf went on an overseas attachment, and is 14 hours by plane away from me. i went to look for her recently, and was there for 22 days, however, after i returned back home, i can't stop thinking of her and it felt like the time when we broke up, like i cant get her out of my mind, feeling a sense of irritability, etc etc. How and what do i do to stop feeling this way? It's really bothering me.. Some people said that i was stupid to go looking for her, spending 10k just like that. am i really stupid? Cheers

Thanks for the fast reply maggie Yes we have discussed it before, both of us feel the same way. However, it didn't stop the change in feelings the other time round. I'm afraid that it may happen again, and if it doesn't happen this time, it may happen in the future. I guess one time was enough. I know it's worth the wait and all the emotional stress i'm going through if things turn out right, but there are just too many ifs in this situation. Noone knows what will happen for sure, and i'm confused as to what i should do this time. I want to wait, but i don't want to be put through all that again. I don't want to put all i have into the r/s, and it turns out the way i feared in the future. Do i sound normal? ](*,)

My gf is currently on an overseas attachment programme, and we will be apart for 3.5 months. This is really taking a toll on me, as i feel that she does not call, and does not care. If any of u guys remembered my situation a few months back, she had a change of feelings towards me after she went on a youth expedition project with the school for 2 weeks. We broke up for more than a month, and got back together. The thing now is that i am afraid of going through the same pain again when she comes back. I can't avoid feeling this way after what she had done to me. Is it worth the pain to hold on? In a year or two, she might be going overseas for her studies. And this time she will be gone for 2-3 years. I have alot of fears at this point, mainly having to go through all that pain and depression again, so much so that i am feeling it now. What do i do? I love her really much, we have been together for more than a year now, not really a long time. I have plans for us for the future, i see us getting married and all, which one of us doesn't? But should i hold on, or should i let go? Im sorry for the long post, and being such a wuss. Maybe im just overly insecure, or maybe im imagining things. Who knows.

lol, what if she's 19? weellll, it was just THAT one time though. lol. she got carried away, and i was unable to hold myself back. condoms are just too.. -_-

Hey all, quick question i have to ask.. How big is the chance of my gf getting pregnant if we had sex w/o condom and she's like.. 1-1.5 weeks away from her period. I didnt come in her though. Thanks

Sib, everyone on this forum is trying to help u. We're showing u that what you're doing is wrong. Don't u think so? Every person posting here seems to have the same thinking, and yet u don't appreciate it. You tell people to F off, basically. Do u think that's the right attitute? We're offering advice to u, so you won't make a mistake, and regret later, and yet u show us your attitude? Come on, please grow up.

Sib, please please please understand that noone on this forum hates u or whatsoever, we're all just trying to educate and to tell u what's right, and what's wrong. don't take it the wrong way k? cheers

please be mature about this. don't start calling people names. doing so makes other people not sympathize with u.

i dont know. maybe it might not be a good thing to get back with the ex afterall. well, i don't feel any interest for my ex(currently gf) anymore. hope all goes well.

Well, i did nc for maybe a week. At first i started doing NC because i wanted her to miss me. I wanted to use NC as a way to get her back. I'm sure everyone understands what i mean. But then during that week, i reflected a lot on myself. I started emphathizing with her, i saw what went wrong with the relationship when all the anxiety and panic attacks were finally dying down. Well, i let her contact me first. Then i contacted her. The key is to not get in touch with her so much. Let her come to u. But don't expect her to do all the contacting. It takes two hands to clap, u know?

I understand what you're feeling chaos. I was controlling with my ex too, i guess it got too much, that it made her lose interest in us, and she dumped me. I was in a really bad shape for a week. Why was it only a week? During that week, i was really stoned. I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. Name it, and u got it. It was TERRIBLE. But i thought about myself, and what i could do to improve myself. I didn't contact her much, i didn't even bring up anything about us. I moved on during that week. I'm not saying i got over her entirely, but i was much better off. No more crying when i look at stuff that reminded of us both. I was much better. One day, i asked her out, we had a talk about stuff. It was light in the beginning, and then our r/s came up. Well, she agreed to take things slow, and i was so on cloud nine! The following day, she said that she didn't want to try again, and we shouldn't see each other till we're both completely over this thing. I was so confused. The pain was exactly the same as the day she broke up with me. I couldn't stop crying. I took everything we had, and stuffed them in a box. I told myself, and this time i was determined, to give up on her. I didn't even want to get back with her anymore. I couldn't take anymore of this, the way she's toying with me. Well, guess what. We're back together now. She asked if i wanted to get back together, after i gave up totally on her. I didn't feel any love for her, i didn't feel comfortable near her. Maybe she sensed that i was going to move on without her in my life. I don't know. But we're back together now, and we're working on things. Problems that caused us to break up in the first place. If she ever toys with me again, like telling me suddenly that she doesn't want to work things out, i WILL never ever accept her back in my life, no matter how much i loved her, no matter how much she begs me. I would have lost all my respect for her. It really does feel good to see the dumper doing the chasing for a change. Here's my advice to u. You need to take this time and think about what u should change, and NOT contact her! STOP sending her all those letters if u ever want a chance of getting her back. i'm not promising anything, but pushing her away will never get her back. There's no point in telling her you'll change. SHOW her that u've changed. But don't do it for her, do it for yourself, and for the girl that you'd be with in the future. That's the key. If it doesn't work out between u and her, at least u won't feel that hurt. I'm serious. Stay strong! Listen to what advice people tell you, and make up your mind on which one to follow. Don't follow blindly.

Well, i'm back with my ex. She asked me out today, and out of the blue she asked if i wanted to get back together. i gave up totally on her, so i was really really taking a LONG time to think about it. anyways we're back together!