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Hi, I agree with Spader. Whats the hurry? Especially since you have not experienced your first kiss at all or with him. It is fun to get that first kiss. and then get another one the next night. and then making out the next week. You get the idea. Just move gradually and take all the precautions that you can. It is good that you believe you have found the one. Just take your time. I too was very sexually active with a girl that I was with when we were 15 and 16 years old. I thought that maybe I had found the one. But fooling around at such a young age ended up being not the way to go. the relationship ended very badly. And both are parents found out about the things we had been doing. All of that within of a year. so just be careful, and there is nothing wrong with waiting a couple of years and dating just to see how things go.

why? I bet your ex feels umcomfortable. Why would you buy your ex gifts or things she needs? what are the things she needs, like tampons? or a box of kleenex. There really is no need to buy her anything. And if you are trying to get back with her I would say money and gifts are not the way to go. Maybe I could see for birthdays if you two are still friends or xmas, otherwise no need.

Why is it that when the guy will ask you to give him head that you will just do it? You should not have to do that at all unless you want to. Just because your friends are giving head, does not mean you need to start too. And I doubt at your age that you would be able to deep throat. I don't really remember what i was thinking about when i was 13, but it wasnt sex. if you are getting sexually active at the age of 13 where do you think it will be in like 3 or 4 years. Just think about what you really want. And if someone demands a blowjob, do not feel like you should do it just because he asks.

I am actually going through a similiar situation with my girlfriend. however, we have been together for about 4 and half years, and our sex life is still really slow. Now I have talked to her about it a few times. becacuse she would do things with me sometimes and then go a couple of weeks with no contact at all. I always would ask is there something i am doing wrong? she always said no. my girlfriend believes in postmarital sex. however, she still wants to do some things, just not too far. I think sometimes she doesnt want to mess around with me because she feels like we may end up going to far or having intercourse. I guess something she will regret. Your girlfriend may feel the same way. Maybe sex feels dirty for her. you should probably ask her about it. obviously don't fight with her about it, but just talk. maybe she just isnt interested in sex at all.

Sounds like your parents are very over protective. But what can you do. More than likely you are not going to be able to change their views on how you think you should be raised. Your parents are just looking out for your best intrest. maybe you had older siblings that might have messed it up for you. Such as older brothers and sisters kept sneaking out. Maybe your parents are trying to make sure you turn out ok. I know when i was around your age, I used to think the same thing. Soon after I realized that they only wanted to protect me. I would not recommend doing anything crazy. I wouldn't try yelling at them or stealing from them or something along those lines. You could try to talk to them. You could explain that sometimes it is very stressful with all these rules and guidelines you have to follow. In a couple of years, more than likely this will fade away. Plus, you probably will have different things to worry about. Such as school, work, relationships. Just something you may have to stick out.

No, my legs don't shake on my knees. for me its not muscle weakness. I am not using too much muscle at all. It could be muscle weakness for him on his knees. To me it doesn't seem probable. Unless he is trying to balance you on his knees maybe. otherwise I am not sure. you could casually talk to him about it. I would not point fingers and say what the hell are you doing. But just casually ask him if he is alright and go from there with it. Good Luck

hi, I have a possible answer that may seem farfetched however i actually have gone through the same thing. when my girlfriend gives me a blowjob, or a handjob my legs will start to shake. however i do have some level of control on it. i can stop and uncontrollably they start up again. Now i think the adrenaline may be most of it. however for me i literally feel cold. to best explain its like getting shivers. i am very excited and i do think that has a lot to with it but i am also cold. usually i am naked or at least my pants off. usually in bed without covers or sheets covering any part of my body. i like to keep the room very cool. i always have a fan on high. it could possibly be that he is very cold and starts to shake. however, you said he shakes violently. i have never done that. i do have some level of control over my legs. so that part may all be the excitement and adrenaline. but from my past experiences i have shaken several times and i feel cold. sometimes if i cover parts of my body up or turn the fan down, I feel a little better. i know it sounds kind of stupid, but it happens to me. another thing, have you talked to him about this? What does he say the reason behind his leg shaking is?

hey first of all, you are probably too young for anything to be coming out anyway. i agree with one of the other replies. enjoy it while it lasts. soon you will have a mess to clean up. And it can be annoying. what you can do is do a search on the internet for techniques on how to masturbate. not only will you find different ways to use you hands, but maybe some other interesting ways. here is a fun website to check out. link removed. Also in my experience water is not the best way to masturbate. i hate doing it in the shower. (and i think even more messier.) if you can use some sort of lubrication. some sort of baby oil or gel would work ok. i like to use ky jelly, however that may be harder for you to get. How old are you anyways?

Hey, I really do appreciate all the responses I am getting. It is helping me alot, and I definitely am going to try to talk to her again. I am not sure about sexual abuse. Only because i am the only guy she has ever been with. i was her first date, first kiss everything. at first i thought well maybe things are going to fast for her. however is it still considered too fast when we have been together for almost 5 years? maybe something may have happened to her when she was much younger. i am not sure. i could try and hint around to that. I am not sure if it is something i want to just come out and say. Were you sexually abused! And i also wanted to clear up alittle bit on our sex. when i say we have oral sex, she generally only wants to give it to me. now that is great and all but i would love to give oral sex to her more. i have only done it about 4 or 5 times. once again she pushes me away and makes the rest of the night awkward. so for the most part she wont let me do anything to her, but yet she wants to do things to me. honestly, i would rather give up everything she does to me so that i could pleasure her. i am really more curious about her, but she doesnt let me "explore" too often. Maybe that has something to do with why she wants to wait. i am not sure. But I really do appreciate all the help I am getting. Thanks

hi, first time I have ever done this. Just needed some advice or whatever on this topic. Sorry this is long. I am a male, 22 years old. I have a girlfriend who I love dearly. she is 20 years old now. we met in high school and have been together for about 4 and half years. Naturally, she had made a comment early on in the relationship that she would like to wait to have sex after marriage. Personally I do not agree with this, but by no means am I going to try to change her way of thinking. obviously i am not a religios guy, however neither is she. she says it is what she has been told is the correct way and that is just her belief to wait. About 3 years ago, we started fooling around. at first it was long kisses and touching. Gradually it became more. then it grew to heavy petting. soon after that we were taking off each others clothes and foolin around a lot. she wanted heavy grinding, however my penis did not enter her at all. ( I say she wanted it, but i know i wanted it too). she really liked the feeling of it and of course so did I. to this day we still fool around like that. some nights different than other. sometimes we have oral sex or we just do alot of heavy petting. just recently however she brought it up again that she wanted to wait to have sex until after marriage. I don't know if she is saying this just because the temptation is getting to much for her. Or she is afraid it will lead to something more. I am not sure. I have tried talking about this with her a few times but she is very shy when it comes to talking about sex or our relationship. she claims that she still wants to do everything we already do, just not all the way. For me as a guy, I am really confused. she sends me mixed signals. i can tell she wants to possibly do "heavy grinding" again, however couldn't that just lead to sex? (the signals are: her taking my pants off, and me taking her pants off). I don't like the idea of putting limitations on how far i can go with sex, especially when i am not sure where those lines are. I certainly don't want to cross that line and her be upset with me. (for example: sometimes she likes for me to touch her down there and sometimes she does not. sometimes she wants her pants off but not her underwear.) The lines changes constantly. i am a little confused because i thought she didnt want to have sex. and sometimes she will actually "freeze up" according to her because she is thinking too much about possibly having sex before marriage. when she "freezes up" she tends to immediately not want to fool around with me anymore. which makes me feel like i am possibly doing something wrong. Do many girls do this? Do they say they do not want sex until after marriage, but then still want to play? And yes I do plan on marrying her. obviously, i am not going to marry her just so we can have sex. but by her actions could she still be on the fence about premarital sex? or do alot of girls want plenty of action before marriage just not intercourse? any advice on this topic would be great.