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ashlynn00

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  1. Just broke up with my ex today....he needs some time to himself, no other women, just scared as hell with a serious relationship..... we still love each other very much..... DAY 1 of no contact is successful.....Please help me keep strong and not to fail the challange.....this is going to be so hard
  2. he treats me wonderful.... we talk about a future.... living together..... and all that stuff.... He has NEVER been in a serious relationship....so maybe that's whats holding him back.... I can see he loves me..... but sometimes I just wonder why someone cannot say the love word!
  3. ok here goes....... I have been w/ my boyfriend about 2yrs now. We know our love is there for each other, but we don't say it. I have brought it up before, and he is scared to say it because he says its a strong work, which I understand. I am just trying to figure out if he does love me. Most people don't have a problem saying it, if they don't love someone. I care for him deeply and do love him very much, I am just trying to figure out if he feels the same. He has told me he loves me a few times when he's drunk.....but I duno if to take it seriously when someone is drunk! let me know any thoughts on this issue
  4. Me and my boyfriend have worked through some of our problems that we have been having. I love him and pretty sure he loves me, beings he wants things to work out with us as much as I do... We have been together 2 years and we don't say that we love each other all the time, we just know the love is there. I am not sure how to bring this up or even say it. I have always waited for the guy to say it! Let me know how to get up the nerve.
  5. we pretty much were broke up.....the space thing let into a breakup....... I asked for space and he is still hurt.......tells me he wants to work things out, but he's still hurt...... I duno where to go from here
  6. ok....... here goes.......... My ex and I broke up 2 months ago.......Just took some time and space apart.... We didnt hang out w/ opposite sexes or mess around... We have decided we want to work things out and get back together.......The hardest part is knowing where to start.....its been awkward and its like he is holding off seeing me or meeting me in person.....I duno how/where to make the first step.....Im not sure what to say to get him to understand........We both want to be together..... its just making that first step,
  7. It's been 2months since my breakup with my boyfriend. We have recently been talking about working things out, but he doesnt want to rush back into a decision right now. My friends are tired of me being miserable and waiting on him to make a decision, so they are trying to have me meet their guy friends. Me and my ex talk all the time, and are still very honost with each other. I have told him I am going to start hanging out with other guys and start moving on. He asks me all these questions about the guys I'll be hanging out with and then says, " What happens if I decide I want to work things out and your dating someone else." I told him I couldnt answer that right now, that decision would be made when the time comes. I am just wondering what I should do now. Obviously he's still thinking about working things out with me, but then again, i am not sure what to do... Please give me advice
  8. I posted on here a few weeks ago about my situation. I broke up w/ him thinking I wanted some time, but soon realized it was a mistake. He still cares about me and thinks about whether we should get back together, but he isnt sure. We talk everyday, online and through emails... before he has told me we've said everyhing we can to each other....he says he is too hurt to meet in person... Today I finally emailed him and asked him if we could talk in person sometime. its been 2 months and still havent talked in person.... He tells me he is still pondering the situation. What can I make out of this. He has even told me he just doesnt know if we can get bak together cuz he has too many thoughts that I might hurt him again... any advice, please help
  9. I am upset, stressed, and just wana die after my breakup. I chose the breakup because I thoguht I wanted space, I realize this is a huge mistake, and have explained everything to my ex. He keeps telling me he isnt sure what he wants.. He still care about me and hides his feelings, and he isnt sure he wants to go through the same steps we went through be4 the breakup.... little spats here and there, etc. I want him bak so bad and have backed off from him, although he keeps emailing me, he wont see me in person cuz he thinks its awkward. He still asks what I do everyday and what I do on weekends. I have tried to be short w/ him but this only makes him think I am hiding stuff from him. I wnat him back but should I give up?! I've told him i am going to move on, but he gets all defensive... its like damned if I do, damned if I dont....not sure what to do, please help!!!
  10. ok here goes..... I broke up with my boyfriend after 18months to the fact I thought I wnated time to myself. I really hurt him, by asking for space. A few weeks later I realized this was not what I wanted. I have talked to him and told him how I feel and he says he doesnt know what he wants to do. He still cares about me and everynight debates on whether we should get back together or not. I am so hurt and confused because I want more thn anything to be with him. He says he is still hurt and angry to talk to me in person, so we talk on aol and through emails. He contacts me everyday to see how things are going my way and even wants to know everything I do on weekends. I want so much to short and discret on my answers but then I feel like if I don't talk to him, he will think I am hiding things from him. I mentioned us moving on if thats what he wanted and he got really defensive, and finally said, 'do what you feel like you have to do" I am just so confused on everything he tells me, I dont know if I should be letting go instead of holding on.... He tells me he still cares about me, and everynight he debates on whether we should get back together or not. This is just so hard to sit back and watch. I know what I want, but can't seem to get him to understand that I have changed and am willing to change for him....... but I just want him to be happy too....Is there any chance we' can get back together, we've been broke up for 2 months now.
  11. about my post.... so pretty much dont give up yet? He tells me he still cares about me, and everynight he debates on whether we should get back together or not. This is just so hard to sit back and watch. I know what I want, but I just want him to be happy too
  12. ok here goes..... I broke up with my boyfriend after 18months to the fact I thought I wnated time to myself. I really hurt him, by asking for space. A few weeks later I realized this was not what I wanted. I have talked to him and told him how I feel and he says he doesnt know what he wants to do. He still cares about me and everynight debates on whether we should get back together or not. I am so hurt and confused because I want more thn anything to be with him. He says he is still hurt and angry to talk to me in person, so we talk on aol and through emails. He contacts me everyday to see how things are going my way and even wants to know everything I do on weekends. I want so much to short and discret on my answers but then I feel like if I don't talk to him, he will think I am hiding things from him. I mentioned us moving on if thats what he wanted and he got really defensive, and finally said, 'do what you feel like you have to do" I am just so confused on everything he tells me, I dont know if I should be letting go instead of holding on.... give me any advice please
  13. any advice wuld be nice.... just going to get on birth control and there's only like 50 to choose from... anyone have any good advice on a good kind... I have heard some girls get pregnent on the pill.... please help!
  14. hey girl, i can't express my sorrow for you enough...... I think maybe get your CA to go with you to talk it out or get some friends.... you need to work that stuff out.... It was 30 degrees last nite and there is NO NO NO need for the air to be on...... come on now, those girls are in college and acting like high schooler's.... i can't believe how immature they act for their age.... best of luck, keep us posted!
  15. ok here goes.... Is it a bad sign that we wont get back together when after 7 months he is wanting to hang out w/ other ppl and talk to other girls n stuff.... I was his first serious relationship so it scares him cuz we're only 20, so he's making sure he knows what he wants..... At first we took a break, and then a few days ago I broke up w/ him cuz I culdnt take the jealousy thing nemore knowing he was talking to another girl... He sorta agreed but seemed hurt that I was wanting the break-up too. He asked my best friend to call me the other night to see where I was and what I was doing.... so I know he is still thinking and caring about me.... He also doesnt want me to go back home on the weekends and drink.... I duno what to do.... In the back of my mind I have hopes we can get back together....... I know we'll always have feelings for each other.
  16. I totally know what you're going through and feel for ya!!! My freshman year at the dorms was horrible..... We had 6 in our whole room.... it was like a split room w/ 2 ppl in each room...... Some of my roomates were so mean to me becz they thought I was spoiled and the one girl threw water on my computer and fried it.... they always broke into my room..... luckily I had insurance!!!! This year, I live off-campus and commute..... BUt it is definitely going to be hard to approach them because they most likely won't listen... i wuld put in for a room change, I feel like that is what their trying to get you to do anyway... or confront her and ask them why they hate you so much.... i totally feel for ya though
  17. yea definitely i agree......... I told him if i was out of his life it wuld make him realize what he wanted..... If i was out of his life, but he' doesn't want me out of his life..... my friend didn't call me but told me today that he wanted to know where i was........ Does this mean he still thinks about me?? I duno if he cares so much about me, why he's hanging out and talking to that other girl.... it pisses me off that the girl keeps interfering too!!!! its really hard not to keep in contact just becuz there is a thought of getting back together
  18. i totally agree.... i told him if i wasn't around in his life he'd figure out what he wanted and he said he doesnt want me out of his life... ALSO, he wanted my best friend to call me last night to see what I was doing.... So its hard for me cuz I know he still thinks about me.... but yea he's hanging out w/ another girl.....
  19. ok here goes...... my boyfriend and I of 7 months were doing great.... I am his first ever relationship, let alone serious..... Well we were doing good and then this girl started talking to him and day by day it seemed he was here w/ me but he wasnt... He told me he cared about me and it wuld make him really upset the day i stopped caring about him.... Well he told me about 1 week ago he wanted to just take a break becuz he wants to be w/ me and has all these feelings, but yet wants to be able to hang out w/ other ppl to figure out his feelings..... Well last night we were sitting there and he asked what I thought about splitting up for awhile and I had told him I was going to tell him the same thing.... I think it hurt him the most knowing I was thinking it too..... BUt I wasnt just going to sit back and watch him and that other girl talk and hang out... He said he' wouldn't promise we'd get back together, but he wuld have to see for himself.... I told him if I wans't in his life, he wuld be able to see what he really wanted and maybe faster, and he said he doesn't want me out of his life.... I know at age 20 relationships can be confusing, I told him we culd still talk n stuff..... I think a little piece of me is hoping he'll hang out w/ other girls but realize I am the one he wants to be with...... He seemed upset to know I am talking to my ex again and he just kept saying, I know you'll get back together w/ him, i can just feel it..... he was upset to hear that... But yea I told him this break up wuld make him realize 1 of 2 things...........1 he wants to be w/ me.... or 2 he doesnt........... We will always care about each other and have feelings for each other. is there any hope you think we'll get back together???
  20. I am in need of serious advice please..... Ok here goes....... My boyfriend and I of 7 months have decided to stay together, but date other people. I am so confused on what to do. I am his first real girlfriend and we're both only 20, so he is scared to love me. He just wants to figure out if I am the one for him or not. In order to do this, he wants to meet and hang out w/ other girls. I am just wondering if I should end the relationship.... I dont' want to break up but I am not sure what I should do. He has been talkign to a girl from around his hometown, but their just friends.... I duno if I should be worried about her or not. He says he doesnt' even know if she likes him, its just someone to hang out with. So please I have never delt w/ dating other ppl, so I duno what to do... please help
  21. it just really worries me because I have been in relationships before and this one feels different, so I know what I want... But I duno if he's just scared becuz I am his first girlfriend. At this young of age, it is hard to say that we're going to spend the rest of our lives together. HE has told me before that sometimes he lays in bed at night and cries because he is afraid someday I wont' care about him anymore. So I duno.... it just worries me sometimes.
  22. OK here goes......... My boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 months. We have so much fun togehter,and are always togehter. We have cheated on each other once and worked everything out and now we're closer than ever..... He says he cares about me and I really care about him. He tells me that he loves me when he's been drinking and wont' say it in person, so I dont' say it either. I worry because I am his first girlfriend and he tells me he is happy with me, but gets confused sometimes.... but he doesnt' want to break up. He has also told me before that he can't promise we'll be together forever, because things can happpen... I worry too much anyway so I duno what i should do or say or not worry..... I need help....... I don't wana break up........ but I am not sure what else to do
  23. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 months. We haven't officially said I Love You yet.. He will say it when he's drinking or on the internet.... But never in person. I am just not sure what to do. If I should casually say it some time, or how to bring it up. I konw its there for the both of us, but he just wont say it to my face!!! HELP
  24. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 7 months now. We still haven't had sex but the mention of it is becoming more and more common. I think I am ready I just need to go get on the pill. I am just really nervous. I will be on something and will make sure he uses protection just to prevent anything from occurring. I am jsut really nervous because its our first time, we're both virgins.... Any advice from anyone woudl be greatly appriciated
  25. Sugar-Rush.............THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOU'RE ADVICE!!!!!! It made me feel so much better. Its actually so weird because after i posted that, then my bf called me to ask if he could come over. I said not if he was gona break up w/ me cuz I didnt wana deal w/ it right now. Well he said he wasn't and he came over. We talked everything out and he said everything he'd said was a mistake because not talking to me was killing him inside and he'd do nething for me and is just scared to lose me. I informed him I WASN"T going newyere...........so all is good now!!!! YAYA thanks so much for all your advice though, you are a wonderful advice giver!
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