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yeah, this is true.. he can talk to me on the phone... see how I am doing here and there, and he can help me with my homework online.... I am not the one who moved away, she is. Why am I forced to pretend I don't exist.

Ill try to make this short. I really need opinions, and advice, motivation.. everything. I was dating this guy I have known forever. We didn't work out, but remained awesome friends. In fact our relationship got stronger after we broke up. We would hang out every week, playing tennis, watching movies, helping me with homework. Out of the blue he bumps into another exgirlfriend. The split because they always faught, and she was abusive. Now they want to try to work things out. It's been about 2 years I suppose since they were together, and they claim they have changed. Problem is, she still can't accept him being friends with an ex, so he has to drop me. He says he can't come over anymore, we probably can't even play tennis together. We can talk on the phone, and if I need math help he can help me online. That doesn't sound fair and it hurts. I have been crying all night, and whenever I am alone. This guy is like my best friend and he is throwing me to the side for this chic. Why am I the one who loses out? I never treated him bad, and yet, he won't think twice how wrong this is. He says it upsets him to, but he loves her and thinks he is meant to be with her,... even if she didn't treat him right. What do I do?

I know that in my post it sounds like I still like the guy. Yeah he and I dated, but it was only 4 a few months. I guess I am more hurt by the fact that he is dating a girl whoe is horrible to him. Who he had told me before that he would never go back to. I'm not to worried about losing his trust. I have always been 100% honest with him. I just can't possibly see how I can hang out with him, knowing that I would have to sit comfortably when he changes plans with me because his gf is mad at him. I don't think I saw us as ever getting things back together. He really does need to get his stuff together...he has been making a lot of stupid mistakes. Yes, I suppose I am hurt and reacted the way I did because I was...but this girl really slaps him, and yells at him...its just not a wise decision. Does it also make since that my friends are telling me to run...that he is no good? I just want to know that eventually he will be ok, and this girl won't win... abuse shouldn't be forgiven should it?

I just had something similar happen. Basically, what you have to prepare yourself for... is that he will probably date someone in his senior year. This reason for the break up has always caught me off guard. Just recently my bf broke it off with me, saying he had to get himself straight before he could treat me right. Two months down the road and he trying to get things back right with his ex gf that used to hit him! I figured he would find another girl sometime, but he basically lied. This is what you have to repeat. Its all about time, sooner or later you WILL be over it. TIME does heal... and there isn't anything that can stop time, or even slow it down. Think about it... Go to the library and read the latest gossip on what Jennifer Aniston has to say about Brad. She is teaching a life lesson to all women... she is allowing herself to be upset, to greive. She said heck yes she throws pity parties! What is wrong with it? So grab a notebook, and write it all out... I swear it works.. I am sure most will agree. If not a diary, maybe just a list of things you hate about him. Take everything you have of his... pack it in a box and hide it somewhere... where you have to make an effort to get to it. Delete his number off your phone. Yeah, you'll probably memorize it when you do this... I know I did. Just don't use it!

Ok... I dated this guy for a short time. I really cared about him, and even though we broke up.. we stayed pretty tight. It just worked out, we hung out every week playing tennis, studying, etc. All of the sudden he tells me he is getting back together with his ex...the one before me. I told him it was a really bad idea. She used to abuse him... slapped him anytime he did something she didn't like. He says they have both changed and talked about it, and that they want to work it out. Of course anything I say against her he will defend. He even said one reason why he and I didn't work out was because he still had feelings for her. Yet, he thinks we should be able to remain close, and hang out like before. Im 25, he's 29. He and I live near eachother, she lives an hour or 2 away. I told him I didn't want anything to do with him, that I should have learned my lesson the first time and not be friends with an ex. I told him he was making a mistake by going back with her, and people don't change that much. Then of course I told him I hated him because I opened up to him and he hurt me. I feel betrayed, confused, and a little lost. What should I be doing? Am I doing the right thing? Is it really possible that this relationship will last (I worry about him with her... I feel she is bad news)