WildNLove

Thank you! The reminder that i need to relax and look at the situation and factors helps. Thank you!

Thank you, that insight and perspective helps alot. I need to be more understanding of that. Its been hard on both of us and we handle stress differently. And not getting my physical touch every time i want it doesnt mean anything to our relationship’s foundation. Thank you for your perspective, thank you!

Yes we live together, with savings and unemployment benefits. We both now have jobs lined up but wont start for about a week so it should start to get better financially and im hoping things get better. This rut we are in makes me feel alone and sad. Do i just give it time, time to get us back into our groove? And be there for him in the meantime? I am being selfish… i need to be patient and be there for him.

Yes we live together, with savings and unemployment benefits. We both now have jobs lined up but wont start for about a week so it should start to get better financially and im hoping things get better. This rut we are in makes me feel alone and sad. Do i just give it time, time to get us back into our groove? And be there for him in the meantime? I am being selfish… i need to be patient and be there for him.

Advice Needed boyfriend (M30), Me( F29) problem or overreaction? My boyfriend (M30) and I ( F29) had a fight over what I need more of in the relationship. We have been together for over a year and have seriously talked about marriage and our future. Lately, he hasn’t been so affectionate. If i ask for a kiss or a hug he will give it and when I say i love you he says it back but he hasnt hugged me, kissed me or cuddled me on his own and it feels like it’s becoming less and less. We both have been out of a job the last 6 months and we have had alot of stress on us because of it. Ive been patient and understanding as I know this is part of the problem. But whenever i bring it up to him about me needing more affection from him and asking him to try a little bit more we get into an argument and he makes it about me being selfish with my needs and not thinking about his. Ive been trying really hard to give him what he needs but he refuses to hear or understand what I need and sees them as non important but to me they are important and simple things to give me. It makes me feel alone in this relationship. How do I fix this or is it time to leave?