Massey

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

I actually might have done the same thing. But in the past, my boyfriend said that he trusts me and he doesn't need to know of every little encounter with a male friend. He said that he would want to know on two conditions; the male friend has feelings for me or I have feelings for the the male friend.

I like what you said. Thank you.

I can totally see this. The possibility of taking things that mean nothing and blowing it out of proportion.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. 😕

Thank you for your perspective.

Your comment is unnecessary. But thank you for pointing out that I did not answer the question specifically. I thought I had. I thought it would have been obvious that I posed a question to him from this statement. My mistake. I asked him if he would go out with one is his exes for coffee, just like the scenario. He said yes. I asked him why would go out with an ex...there was nothing accusatory on my end. And as I stated, he asked me the same question. 🤷‍♀️

No, my girlfriend and her husband don't have any trust issues. None that she's communicated with me at least. My boyfriend says that he has no interest in going through my phone. He's hard core opposed yo going through mine and vise versa. He says he has nothing to hide but he sees it as an invasion of privacy. As for me, I have no reason to go through his phone.

Thanks for your explanation. I guess we will have to disagree. I still don't see it as disrespectful and certainly not manipulative. Again, we both asked each other various questions regarding hypothetical situations. 🤷‍♀️ For the situation you described with you and your husband, I likely would have brought it up later. Not in a confrontational way but lightly. People handle situations differently. 🙂

@spinstermanquee Thank you for your feedback; much appreciated 🙂 And I doubt that you're much older that I am 😉

Correct; my female friend. Sorry, seem to have confused some. And I can see why now that I read back on it.

Oh I see the confusion! Sorry about that. Yes, when I said girlfriend, I meant my female friend. Apologies for that.

Which account? Sorry, I'm not understanding your question.

The girlfriend.

My girlfriend said that although she has nothing to hide she wouldn't feel 100% comfortable with her husband or anyone going through her phone. I kind of feel the same way. I don't have anything to hide from my boyfriend in terms of talking to men or doing anything inappropriate. However, there are conversations on my phone with my girlfriends which are and should remain private.